worried about going out

[Keely]

I have been feeling really down and feel like all i do is feed ellis, hold him, and change his bum!

So I have asked my mum to have him tonight so me and OH can go out.... but I still feel like I shouldnt be leaving him.... I wanted a baby so I should be fine with do EVERYTHING for him! I know that sounds silly and I should be able to go out, I just feel REALLY bad.

Does anyone know what I mean?

Keely xxxx

 

[SarahH]

I'm kinda like you... I'm not going out but hubby is and I'm like Grrr!! Your back at work now your away for weekend with TA - do you not want to spend time with your wife and daughter!

I just feed and change her all the time and he does a couple of feeds at night and then off to work again.

ANd like you said I wanted a baby so why feel like this? Don't get me wrong I love being with Arianna and glad that we will hopefully have a close bond..... it's just I want to go out and get hair done and get house all tidy, have friends round for dinner... but when do I have the time.

Maybe we are both trying to hard .... I mean it's only been 3wks for both of us.

S.xx

 

[Keely]

I'm kinda like you... I'm not going out but hubby is and I'm like Grrr!! Your back at work now your away for weekend with TA - do you not want to spend time with your wife and daughter!

I am like that too... OH is at football today and was at a party last night, I feel like i cant say dont go, as it is not the mens fault we are not ready to leave the babies.

I just feed and change her all the time and he does a couple of feeds at night and then off to work again.

I do ALL Ellis' feeds , OH does some evening feeds, but he doesnt wake at night and I do so I might as well do them.

xxxxxx

 

[SarahH]

My hubby does wake through the nights but I tell him to go back to bed as I feel guilty as he has work to go to.

Arrrggghhh!! I cant win!


S. xx

 

[Tara & Liam]

i go to work and i do most of the night feeds as dh doesnt really hear liam.

hubby cant work yet as he needs a second operation on his wrist as the first one didnt work. he is not being lazy

when liam starts at nursery in a couple of years then jon will probably work there. the people running the nursery really want him to start there. he is very good with the little ones, getting the quietest ones to come out of their shell.

 

[Keely]

well i had my first night out.....

I was home by 10.30!! haha I am a proper mum now and really couldnt be bothered with the nightclub!! Had a meal and some drinks the a nice walk home.

It was really good spending time with OH and having 10 HOURS SLEEP!!! haha

But I missing my little boy sooooo much. Feels like I have had him forever dont know what i did before he got here.

xxxxxx

 

[Tara & Liam]

lol whats 10 hrs sleep glad you had fun

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

lol whats 10 hrs sleep glad you had fun

oh yes please explain this one

hun u still need keely time ur not a bad mum i go to work for me time lol

 

[Tara & Liam]

thats right Sarah, you need a break to become who you were before becoming a mummy. it seems so long since i was just me and not a mummy or wife.

 

[Lauz_1601]

aww Im glad you and your OH got soem time to yourself hun, you need it!

I felt exactly the same when Ella was younger, I just felt I was feeding her, changing her, nursing her and although I loved her to bits sometimes I thought - I never thought it would be like this! But trust me like any mum will tell you, it just seems to fall into place all of a sudden and I really started to enjoy being a mum. I think this is when me and Ella really started to bond, becuase I dont think we bonded straight away, even though I was breastfeeding!

Dont worry hun, it will all fall into place for you soon and you will start to feel more like "you" again!

 

[Kelly G]

Keely we was the same, we had a work night out when Olivia was 3 weeks old, it was all paid for! Df and i went for the meal and was home by 11, we didnt want to go out afterwards either lol!

Like you said it was nice for me and rob to ave some time together but we was ready for home by 10 lol, we couldn't wait to get home to our little girls!

 

[Duds]

ahhh hun, believe me its completly normal & very early days still. I am only just getting used to the whole change & finally beginning to chill out a bit.
I think hormones play a big part and you feel you have lost a chunk of your life even though having your LO in it is so much better.

I hope you feel better soon. I must admit I still resent the fact my DH can do what he likes still without feeling guilty

x