Working Mums??

[K X]

Just a question. I am working full time and have been doing so for the past 4 months (since Bex was 4mnths) I was just wondering if any of you found it extremely tiring? I just feel like I have no life. Here's my routine:

Up at 5.30 to make bottles, packed lunch etc for nursery.
Get Rebecca up at 6.30 for breakfast and bottle and get ready
7.15 leave for nursery
In work for 8.30 until 5
Pick Rebecca up at 5.45 at nursery
Home, put a wahing in,give bex a bottle, cook t, sterelise bottles, play with rebecca, bath her at 8 then we all go to bed at 9 cause I am sooo exhausted.

I don't mind the weekends so much, but its during the week I feel like a robot and sometimes I burst into tears with exhaustion! I just feel like I have no life just now, and hoped that it would pass but its been 4 months and things aint looking up!

 

[K X]

Maybe thats why I like my wine so much.....to give me a boost! Kim stick up 4 me here!!!

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

awww hun i only work part time and i am exhausted all the time so i think u deserve a medal

 

[Rosieroo]

I know you don't see bub during the day, but what about putting her bed a bit earlier so you can have a bath, relax and chill out time? I worry that you're not going to be able to keep things up otherwise

 

[melhoney]

well...I know exactly what you mean!

the big difference is that Maheen stays home with Mil and Sil at the moment, but it does not make things much easire on the "robot-like" life style! I style wake up at 5:30, and leave for work at 060, am at work from 70 till 40 arrive back home between 170 and 17:30, depending on traffic, play with Maheen a bit, prepare dinner, eat fast and give maheen her bath and bottle at 19:30. she is usually in bad by 20:30, and then, I finish my meal and wash dishes. Then, if I still have some energy left, I plan my lessons for the next day or I mark books or tests. (am a teacher)
I hate it, I don't feel I see my daughter enough, and was getting depressed.
Luckily, my headteacher is very understanding and as agreed for me to become part-time from January. That means no more savings but more time with my little choupinette which is worth all the momeny in the world.
we even thought of selling our house and renting closer to work to save a bit of money but home is home, if you see what I mean! Otherwise, we would leave in a foreign country where life style is relaxed, even with a good salary! (Dubai / Pakistan, which is where my DH comes from)!

It is not easy, and I am very much aware that not everyone can afford to become part-time, and not everybody is given the opportunity to do so, but if you can, hen, it might be worth a try!
I know that I would not have een able to continue like this for long, and again, I get some help at the moment from Mil and Sil!
you are very brave, but you are NOT a machine!
and your little girl needs you...it must be a hard routine for her as well!
send you my warmest wishes!

Mel xx

 

[melhoney]

oh my God!!!! you can tell how tired I am by my spelling, can't you!!!!

sorry!!!!!!!

Mel xx

 

[Minime]

Ahhh hun not surprised youre exhausted! Ive no idea how mums can go back to work for the first 12 months, part time maybe but full time god no! I just couldnt do it, I'd die of exhaustion. I might be pursuaded to go in part time on sickness cover etc in the first 12 months but plan is I stay off. I'm putting in extra hours now so I can put some cash aside to be able to do this though.

Is there any chance you could knock a few hours off? When I got ill with fibromyalgia I knocked down to 30 hours over 5 days and felt so much better for it and it didnt affect me that much financially either. A short 6 hour day goes really quick and you miss all the rush hour traffic too

 

I praise you working mums, I couldn't do it at all, I'd be way too tired, hands up to you

 

[Amanda]

Just a question - where are the Dad's in all this?

It just seems to me that we are expected to be supermums, and everyone who is saying the are exhausted are doing the nursery runs, washing, shopping, cleaning, cooking, feed and bathing of LO's, and also holding down a fulltime job. Please don't tell me that your OH's just sit there and watch you do all of this?

I'm going back work fulltime at some point, and DH will definitely be doing some of the dropping off/picking up, shopping, bathing, etc.

 

[stephlw25]

I will have to join you all in the "knackered club" lol

At the mo im at college full time, working part time but as of november i will be working full time on a hospital ward on placement, and part time in a residential home.(weekends mainly) Plus loads of college work to do e.g. at the mo.... 2 x 3000 word essay and 2 presentations to plan for in a few weeks time.

Oh yes and look after Jamie and arrange childcare!! lol

My Oh is brilliant, he works full time too but its on shift work so he either does 8-3 or 3-10 so the days he works early he mainly drops off and pick up jamie from his mums !

Arghhh stress!! not enough hours in the day !!! ....need sleep !

 

[K X]

My OH feeds Rebecca her bottles-and keeps her amused whilst I clean up, sterelise etc . I have to say ladies, its definitley a mans world!

 

[Kim]

Hi KX

Yes I can stick up for you with the drinking thing! I have been working full time for the last couple of weeks cos my work can't be arsed sorting my hours out. My day isn't as bad as some of yours but I am knackered. Most nights, even when I'm not at work, I'm in bed by 9pm.

My routine
6am, get up, do bottles, prepare Rubie's and my lunch
6:30 get rubie up, and my mum arrives to look after her
7:15 Go to work
7:30 Start work
4pm Finish work
4:30 pick Rubie up from my mums, if OH hasn't already picked her up.
5pm Give Rubie her tea
5:30 Bath Rubie
6:20 Last bottle
6:30 Rubie goes to bed

This week I have taken 2 days holiday so only worked Mon, Wed and Fri, but I'm still knackered and looking at it, my routine doesn't even look tiring. OH does a lot of housework and we eat take aways a lot so not much cooking either