Charlie:-)
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Im just interested to see what you all think about when to introduce discipline and also to find out what you all do.
I have just spent some time with my sister, her hubby and my neice over Christmas and im quite shocked at how much my neice has them both wrapped around her little finger.
My neice is 2 (just gone) and always seems to get whatever she wants despite warnings being given from my sis and her hubby but they both give in and back down to her crying and whinging. For example eating her tea and she doesnt eat very much, my sis tells her that if she doesnt eat some more then she wont have any dessert. My neice protests and and my sister again says shes not having any dessert. My neice then protests again until eventually my sister lets her out of her high chair to go play. 10 minutes later I see her sat in her high chair eating dessert!? The messages that my neice is getting is that its ok not to do as she is told because there's no consequences. I have also witnessed mixed messages from my sis and her hubby, for example my sis will tell my niece that she cant havde dessert until she eats more tea, then she will say daddy says you cant have any dessert cause you havent eaten your tea, then daddy will say ok eat 1 more piece then you can have dessert, at which point my niece puts it in her mouth spits it out and still gets dessert.
These are just a few small examples but basically theres no dicipline. Me & hubby both agree that if that were us in the situation then there would categoriucally be no dessert and we would both be singing from the same hym sheet when it came to descisions being made tio avoid mixed messages. But am I being disallousioned, is 2 years of age too young to be disciplined? At what age should you become strict and follow out your warnings?
Even now at 7 montsh old I say NO to Maia so surely I would just continue doing as Im doing and gradually she will learn the meaning of no and teh discipline will build from there whenever she is naughty. But still at what age does discipline really matter?
I have just spent some time with my sister, her hubby and my neice over Christmas and im quite shocked at how much my neice has them both wrapped around her little finger.
My neice is 2 (just gone) and always seems to get whatever she wants despite warnings being given from my sis and her hubby but they both give in and back down to her crying and whinging. For example eating her tea and she doesnt eat very much, my sis tells her that if she doesnt eat some more then she wont have any dessert. My neice protests and and my sister again says shes not having any dessert. My neice then protests again until eventually my sister lets her out of her high chair to go play. 10 minutes later I see her sat in her high chair eating dessert!? The messages that my neice is getting is that its ok not to do as she is told because there's no consequences. I have also witnessed mixed messages from my sis and her hubby, for example my sis will tell my niece that she cant havde dessert until she eats more tea, then she will say daddy says you cant have any dessert cause you havent eaten your tea, then daddy will say ok eat 1 more piece then you can have dessert, at which point my niece puts it in her mouth spits it out and still gets dessert.
These are just a few small examples but basically theres no dicipline. Me & hubby both agree that if that were us in the situation then there would categoriucally be no dessert and we would both be singing from the same hym sheet when it came to descisions being made tio avoid mixed messages. But am I being disallousioned, is 2 years of age too young to be disciplined? At what age should you become strict and follow out your warnings?
Even now at 7 montsh old I say NO to Maia so surely I would just continue doing as Im doing and gradually she will learn the meaning of no and teh discipline will build from there whenever she is naughty. But still at what age does discipline really matter?