Wedding advice

[Skyeway]

Ive got hg and will be 13 weeks on the day we get legally married in the UK.We are supposed to be flying out to California the next day and having a small ceremony in the Redwood Forestr. Our honeymoon was supposed to driving a caravan across some of the National parks in California too. At the moment i am too weak to even leave the house and struggle with mundane things and aren't really able to do anything for myself. My oh doesnt drive so its supposed to be me driving the whole time. We have discussed getting a wheelchair because at the moment i am finding it difficult to stand or walk. I dont know if i should just call the whole thing off. Its my first pregnancy and we had no idea I would be struggling this much. Our guests know how sick I am, and I have written in a group message on facebook that I ill but I'm not sure they know the extent. To make things worse my oh's mum visited last week and it was so nice to chat to someone other than my oh as I havent left the house in ages it really perked me up. Future mil brought ginger biscuits for me (which i cant stomach and do less than nothing for the sickness) and commented to my oh "shes not as sick as I thought she would be." She didnt even realise when i excused myself i was going to throw up! Or how much her visit perked me up. My family all live overseas so I really need her support and feel like she may think I am just being a big sook.

I just dont know what to do, I dont have the energy to worry about or plan a wedding or go on an adventure around the world, i just want to stay in bed with my sick bucket. Should i just keep nolding onto hope that by 13 weeks the worst of it will have passed and get on with life or admit that even if it has, i will still be exhausted and run down and wont be able to go to the US. Ive had to go to hospital twice with this and am scared there might not be a close hospital or how they treat hg in the USA either.

I wont call off the legal wedding, i had to go to give notice of the wedding and threw up a lot while i was in the town hall, so i know that i can do that again if needs be, its just the big trip i am so worried about. My oh tells me he doesn't mind if california is postponed.

 

[redbear]

Aww lots of love darling. What is say is give it a little more time. Every week makes a difference to the sickness. And also have you seen a Dr for anti sickness meds?
You can always leave California or go to the wedding and not travel. I'm not much use but good luck I hope your well by then xx

 

[redbear]

Oh and can you rope in a friend to plan it for you with your guidance? Xx

 

[Skyeway]

Yes i am on 2 different types of medicstion for it, the medication has been changed 3 times now. I think they're trying to find a combination that works for me.

 

[MrsS15]

I feel for you. We were going to start trying before getting married but the fear of this stopped me! I've also got HG and been in hospital. I'm now on cyclizine and topping up with ondansatron when I'm really struggling. I still feel sick a lot and it's taken 5 days for the cyclizine to kick in, but I'm managing to eat little bits and vomiting half the amount now. My sickness is awful at night so I'm mostly saving the ondansatron for then (it's a chemo anti sickness drug so strong and I don't want to misuse it) in order to let me stop vomiting and sleep. What are you on?

I would try and wait a week or two and if things are no better then I'd rearrange. When I'm at my worst there's no way I could drive 5 minutes let alone that much. You want to enjoy it not be begging for your bed and every day xx

 

[M1chelle]

I would personally try and postpone California; you sure as hell aren't going to have a good time away if you still feel awful and with each week that you're still suffering beforehand you'll probably feel more and more stressed worrying about whether or not you'll be well in time for your honeymoon. Even if your HG has subsided in time, you'll inevitably feel even better later on in the pregnancy. I felt awful for the first four months and I didn't have to deal with sickness like you have; with hindsight I would wait until I was a good way into the second trimester - but saying that, everyone's different. Good luck with whatever you choose and I hope you feel better soon!