Very depressed

[**C**]

Hey. I've been lurking here for a while now and have decided to post. I'm currently 12 weeks with my 2nd baby. I already have a little boy, Harry, who is almost 2 years old now.

I've had terrible morning sickness and nausia now since I was about 5 weeks. I had this with Harry and it did eventually go away when I was about 5 months, but it seems harder to cope with this time. I'm lucky enough not to have to work anymore as my partner, being a farmer, is quite happy to have me at home...but last time I was able to sleep most of the time but this time I can't because I have Harry.

I'm finding myself becoming more depressed from my symptoms as I can't go anywhere or do anything and I feel sorry for my son as he's also stuck at home with me 24/7. I'm constantly in discomfort and pain and am sick every day. I've tried absolutely everything to help me but nothing works, ginger biscuits, crackers, wrist bands and even medication from the doctors. The stuff the doc gave me worked for a day or so, but it actually started to make me sick, so I've had to stop taking it. I don't even bother getting dressed now as I'm usually okish for about an hour or so when I get up but I know I'll just be spending the day on the couch feeling ill so there's no point. I'm really struggling to keep on top of the house work too, I know the place is a tip....I can smell slight odurs on things I normally wouldn't and it makes me ill. I haven't any energy what so ever to do anything at all. Sometimes I have to go out and I need to drive everywhere because I live in the country, and I worry about being sick suddenly at the wheel.

I'm just so absolutely well and truely fed up. I keep crying because I'm in so much pain and because I just want to feel normal again and do stuff. I never see anyone at the moment because I'm just not up for it and I'm getting a bit lonely.

I'm fed up with how grotty my house is getting, how much I'm struggling with everything and how terrible I feel and sometimes I really wish I'd never got pregnant again. We're due to be going on our summer holidays in a couple of weeks to the south of England and I'm absolutely dreading it. I know it will pass, but I fear it won't and I'll be like this for the rest of my pregnancy. Everyone says "ooh you'll be ok in a few weeks" but at the moment I can honestly say, I have never ever felt so depressed and miserable my entire life. I can't cope feeling this ill all the time.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Im sao sorry you feel like crap hun,its tough in first tri and juggling everything as well as looking after a toddler.
Just do the housework slowly and prioritse stuff and rest loads when you can!
With the LO, I would close the doors to your lounge so he cant get out and snooze on the sofa.Its the only way to get a kip with a kid honestly!lots of people do it believe me!

 

[rachie29]

i know exactly how you feel.. i have had awful m/s - vomiting, nauseau, and have felt really down due to the hormones...

i woke up this am with what felt like start of migraine so have stayed off work as m/s is made worse by it....

hang in there honey you are 12 wks now and it should be subsiding in the next week or so.. it will all be worth it when baby arrives, i know that seems so far off when you feel so bad but it is true...

have a big and dont worry about the housework.. it will still be there ina week or so

 

[Squiglet]

Ah hun... It is really awful being stuck like that. This is my second pregnancy and I was made redundant two weeks ago (I suspect because I was pregnant but can't prove it) and now I am at home with my little girl all the time, but feel too sick and tired to do anything. Plus I have been bleeding for two weeks now, and I am not supposed to do any housework. The place is a tip and the dirty smells of things are driving me crazy!!!! Plus my poor daughter is stuck inside watching DVD's in the height of summer and all I wanna do is take her to the park or the beach for a while, but I am too afraid that I will be sick or need to rush to the loo.

I am lucky though as my parents will take her for a while, as she is school holidays now in Spain... Is there someone who might be able to take your son for a little while so that you can get your head down and get some rest? Maybe even a local summer play group?.

House work can wait, I know it feels like the four walls and all the clutter are closing in on you but just take a deep breath and remind yourself that once you are up and on your feet again you will get it all sorted out, in the meantime it can wait. Its might also be a good time to introduce small chores to your son to do, such as packing his toys away or not being allowed to take out one until the other is away? It will get better, promise, no matter how awful it is right now.

 

[NIE]

I am feeling for you babes. It must be really hard work feeling so ill and having a toddler to look after too.

I can understand the lonlieness. I too am feeling very lonley but having the support from this forum really makes a difference.

Hope you feel better soon and enjoy your holiday. xx

 

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Thanks so much for your sympathetic words. It's so strange how women get this after millions of years of evolution!! You just feel like it's never going to end

Squiglet you describe just how I'm feeling. My partner's parents stay near by and his sisters and mum are great help to me when I need it, but I feel bad asking them to help too often!

I don't think the weather helps here either. I'm on the NE coast of scotland and it's been sunny here abou twice since April

 

[kellysomer]

Honestly you WILL be fine in a few weeks, i suffered non stop and made my throat red raw from being sick all the time. It will get better and rememeber its all for a good cause.

Concentrate on your holiday, even if you can do much you wont have housework to look at!!!

Im in the south where are you off to???

 

[Baileysmummy]

 

[Sal C]

Sorry to hear you are feeling so rotten

Sure it will get better soon for you and I'm sure when you have your baby it will all feel worthwhile.

I have just started taking Vitamin B6 - don't know if you've tried it but it seems to help me - you can buy 10mg tablets over the counter - I am just taking one a day but especially in america they use it to treat morning sickness at doses of 10mg three times a day or 25mg twice a day. Quite a bit of research has been done on it and it definately helps some people with no evidence I can find that it does the baby any harm.

Get well soon!