updated on the feeding! someone help me!

[matilda]

i dont know wether its best just to give up now and put him on the bottle my milk is still very little, iv been putting him on to try and increase it but it just upsets him and then me when hes not getting enough then he ends up getting a bottle anyway.

hes nearly 3 months but i dont know if thats good enough! the stress is probably making my milk more reluctant to come in but im so confused about it all. and then iv got no idea about what to do with what time to give him bottles and stuff.

somebody please give me advice. my OH has brainwashed by his midwife mother and keeps telling me to put him on, not caring that hes not getting fed and that we're both getting upset by it

sorry for making loadsa threads, but i really have no other mothers to talk to

 

[Piglet10]

if it was me id put him on the bottle... if ur husband wants to breastfeed let him whip his moob out xxx

 

[matilda]

hahaha, well said that made me giggle x

 

[Countrybumpkin]

You have to do what is right for you and the baby and there is no point stressing yourselves.

I really can't see myself being able to breastfeed in public or even outside my own house. I am the sort of person who would end up being depressed as I wouldn't want to go anywhere, but then even more depressed as i will be stuck at home. So hubby and have talked about it and made a choice that we will bottlefeed the baby.

Also means with the horses and dogs i can leave hubby with baby and it will not matter if he / she needs a feed whilst i am on the farm for a short time. I know I am going to be up again the breastfeed brigade, which will include MW, OH's family (who all breastfeed) and a few friends, but I feel it will be best all round. I have spoken to my Mum who is very supportive and she felt the same when she had me, but all those years ago it really was badly looked on.

So easy to say, but don't listen to them, they will get over it and you have given it a good go for a couple of months well done you, i take my hat off to you. Sending big hugs your way.

 

[Rowesb]

Merv's Mum is probably your best source of advice... have you any breastfeeding cafe's/supprot workers/groups that may be able to help?
Hope things settle back down soon

 

[becks20]

Your HV should beable to give you information on breastfeeding support groups.
It never occured to me if my daughter was getting enough milk i just presumed she was and her weight gain was gooD So she must have been getting enough. Is your baby putting on enough weight? as if he is then there shouldnt be any problems. But its up to you what you do as its your body and your baby But if it was me id stick at it as i couldnt use bottles. x

 

[bearsmummy]

I had trouble getting liv to latch on at all and have just ended up expressing for her she's only 23 days but expressing gets loads out if that's any help. X

 

[matilda]

hes been feeding fine for the last 3months, i just took antibiotics for another bout of tonsilitis and my milk didnt come in the next day and he was screaming wanting fed! i have gave up now and hes getting the bottle, i tried putting him on as often as possible and tried expressing but there is very little milk there and its not letting down im feeling slightly guilty but at the end of the day its not gonna do him any harm and its only really the cuddles that we'r both going to miss.

on the bright side.... i can have a night out! woohoooo

 

[ria__x]

aww well you made the right choice for you. it's not a bad thing if you bottle feed. and 3 months is a long time so he's probably built up quite an immune system! it's not the first time i've heard people stopping breastfeeding because of antibiotics. they must just not take to some peoples bodies and have weird affects like on your milk supply! my little one in the early days would get really stressed when i tried to feed him because i had too much milk! so i decided to express and breastfeed. breasteed 80% of the time but keep 2 bottles in front just in case. as last week i didn't seem to have enough milk for Riley! strange how our bodies work eh?

i'm glad you wont be stressing anymore about it. as that's the worst! it really affects your confidence etc. well it did with me! xxxxx