should I be here?

[fynemum]

Hello ladies, I am not sure if I should be at this section or not? I had a MMC 2 wks 5 days ago, I am desperate to fill that empty place in my heart and life, OH and I have started having sex again, 2 days ago he "let go" inside me at my request. Am i being stupid trying again so soon?
I had a traumatic time, needed 4 units of blood, 12 (clear fluid? )drips. and they done an evac to stop hemmoraging... I know all this damaged my body, but i have been off work, resting, Eating Really healthy with lots of greens, Taking all my iron tablets when meant to and i feel fit and healthy again... albeit still very very sad at losing "connell"....
Anyway going on here...
I haven't had my AF yet, don't have a clue when it's due now... Is there any hope I can concieve again so soon?
Hold on to this one till i give birth to a healthy baby?
Can I come here for avice on how and when to concieve if AF comes sometime soonish... sorry long post.... thank you in advance for any advise given Lv Yvonne xx

 

[Lyn_no3]

Hi, i think that you can try as soon as you feel ready, and i'm sure that there is at least one girl on here who conceived before af arrived after mc sorry i cant remember who

good luck hun glad your feeling better and ready

 

[sophie]

Fynemum i had a a m/c in april and as soon as i stopped bleeding we started trying. As long as you feel ready then its fine!
Good luck hun
xx

 

[PyscoFalcon]

Sorry to hear about your MC.
I had a MC in July and I'm still trying. AF didn't arrive until September tho so only my 2nd attempt after the MC.

 

[missac]

I was thinking about you this morning fyne mum, wondering how you were feeling. I think it is important to start trying again when you feel ready, and we will all be there for you whenever this is.
I have heard of people trying straight away as well but I can't remember who!

Keep us updated,

Mand x

 

[kirlykird]

Hi yvonne!

If you feel ready to start again then go for it!

Nothing will ever replace wht you've lost so it's just like a new start.

Just make sure you feel well enough and strong enough in yourself to do it, I know you had a really hard time, physically and emotionally.

You're not the first on here to try again so soon and I'm sure some people have actually got pg the next month.. I suppose it depends on how quickly your body will heal.

I'm keeping everything crossed for you regarding your decision and hope your outcome is as you want it to be.

You surely deserve it, I can't describe the admiration I have for you as even though you have had your loss, you've been on the trimester boards urging us all on and offering us all advise( i know I couldn't have done it).. you deserve some good news and hopefully soon we will be urging you on again!

Good luck to you and all of the other ladies on here!

Big for you all!

 

[cloud9]

good luck yvonne

 

[Andrianne]

I agree with the others, you can start trying as soon as you feel ready, even before you get your period. You sound ready to me

I've read lots of stories where women fall pregnant again the first month after their m/c or soon after that. On the other hand, some women need longer than that but they eventually get there, i'm sure you will too!

And you're more than welcome to come on here for advice anytime you want Have you considered charting? That might give you a hand with where you are in your cycle

Good luck and baby dust

xxx

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I think if yoru ready go for it, you seem like such a strong girl.
I wish you all the best hun and sorry for your loss.
Katrina

 

[rach]

hi hun i carried my baby till 34 weeks before he died i tried again straight away and was pg within a few months a lot of people including my gp advised me to give my body a chance to recover and said i should wait 6 months for emotional reasons but in my mind all i could think about was getting pg again as soon as possible it was all i could think about
it really doesnt matter what anyone says to you hun its you that has to cope with how you feel not others so go with your heart if you feel ready to try again then you are ready wishing you all the luck in the world hun here if you need me xxx

 

[fynemum]

I would like to thank you all for your Support on this and for taking the time to reply, I know many of you have had such sorrow in your own life's too. hugs to you all.
I do feel ready,
I haven't had a period since the MC so i don't know if i could chart? nor do i really know how to , to be honest... it's always been a case of pot luck worked up till now...
That being said, it took me 9 months to fall the first time... so maybe if my AF does arrive hope not then perhaps some- one can help me figure charting out please?
Thank you again for the personal kind words , for my Dear friends in the 1st tri and now some in 2nd..I don't know what i would have done without you..... enjoy your PG and wishing you all healthy happy babies
For the ladies here, I hope that you all get your dream, and good wishes for health babies to follow shortly,Everything crossed except legs..lol..
And a special cuddle for Rach, you've been a rock here...your courage has helped me with my attidude to continue..
Thanks ladies...sorry for long post again.. I get so emotional sometimes and go o n a bit..

 

[missac]

you are a rock yourself fynemum, wishing you all the luck and cuddles in the world

 

[little*red]

hey fynemum,
like everyone has said before, if you feel physically and mentally prepared to try again then go for it .
although maybe you should wait for your next af to come just so you know that your back on track and when the best times to be BDing are, it would also help if you are considering charting.
I suffered a miscarriage in may this year at 5-6 weeks, and waited until my next af came and then started from there, so i got pregnant straight after my m/c, so it just goes to show it can be done.
If its what you want hun go for it, youve been through so much in the past few weeks, you deserve all the luck in the world. you truly are an inspiration .

 

[Emma22]

yvonne, if you feel ready hun then for for it. we will all be here to support you

 

[x-kirsty-x]

i'm sure that there is at least one girl on here who conceived before af arrived after mc sorry i cant remember who

I did but Im not sure if you meant me

 

[Peanut]

Wishing you all the luck fynemum . All the advice is good (when is it ever not on here eh?!) I think you should go for it whenever you're ready. I waited for my normal af before I tried again and it felt like the longest 4 weeks ever!

 

[smurf]

Hi Fynemum I was very very sorry to read about your m/c. Like all the others the only person who can really know when your ready is you and your OH. I had a m/c in May and was told it would take between 6-8 weeks for AF to return mine took 8 weeks, we started trying straight away but haven't been lucky yet. My sister is a nurse and worked on the ward that looked after all the ladies that came in after having a miscarriage she said the reason they advise waiting is to ensure your emotionally ready and for dating purposes. A friend of mine has a m/c a couple of years ago and got pg straight again without having an AF and went on to have a very happy healthy baby. So fingers crossed for us all.

 

[fynemum]

Thank you all for the support, I am TTC again now... hope AF stays away, and theres a little miricle for me to have a healthy baby in 9 months....ok i know it's a dream really..but hey i am dreaming the sweetest dream, Good luck and baby dust to us all ladies,
Lv Yvonne xx

 

[flower]

Good luck fynemum!

I think its fantastic that you are being so positive, and I think that if you feel ready emotionally then now is the time to start!

Big hugs for you

Flower x

 

[PyscoFalcon]

and good luck for this month.