Rubbish Friend

[Bee7]

I have a friend who i've known since school and who i considered to be a really close friend. In the past few years she has become a little distant because she has a boyfriend who she's totally besotted with and tends to spend all of her free time with him and his family/friends. That's fine, i understand that our lives go in different directions as we get older and it's up to her how she chooses to spend her free time.

But she didn't bother with me at all when i was pregnant and has only seen Jack twice since he was born (he's nearly 9 weeks now) and the last time she came round she barely acknowledged him. She basically sat and spoke about herself for ages and even though i was sat holding him she didn't speak to him, ask how he was or ask to hold him. When she left (about half an hour after she arrived) she didn't say bye to him and i just felt like it was a bit out of order. I know he's only a baby but seriously, you could treat him like he is an actual person. The final straw came today when i sat waiting for a txt from her (she said she was going to txt me to arrange to go for lunch with her and her friend who also has a little boy) but she never got in touch! How rude can you get!

The problem is that i asked her while i was pregnant to be godmother but now i'm seriously reconsidering. Not sure if it's something you can revoke once you've asked though lol xx

 

[jules84]

She doesn't deserve to be his godmother. It's an honour and she's not interested. xx

 

[LoopyLouize]

Course you can revoke it! She's obviously more bothered about herself! One of my friends has been like this.. Needless to say.. I've not bothered with her after she puts nights out before her close friends! X

 

[vickib_1984]

You are jacks mother and if she won't take an interest in him then she doesn't deserve to be his godmother!!! You have every right to revoke it and find someone who deserves to be there for you baby!!!! Hugs to you xxx


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[My1stBaby]

Revoke it and she'll soon get the hint!!

She's the one that's gonna be missing out and she'll regret it one day xxxx

 

[pinkyprincess]

I know the feeling I have friends like that!

 

[BabyBrain]

Of course you can revoke it, godparents are meant to at least acknowledge LO exists. I haven't seen my best friend much with not being able to drive but when I do she doesn't talk to me lol she is too besotted with Albert.

 

[jojo_2012]

I can't understand how babies and pregnancy turn other women so funny I've had this problem during both pregnancies! I would give it a bit more time before revoking it though you might regret it if she suddenly starts spending a lot more time.

 

[jules84]

I told dh about this, he reckons well choose godparents when were arranging ceremony now. We had ideas but my mum was dead against people outside the family doing it. Not because of who they are but she said people drift apart where family, ours anyway, are always there. She may have a point xxx