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Chazabell
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I've just had my 3rd round of iui.
Depending on your situation the can offer you Clomid...if you don't ovulate. Iui if you just need the 2 partners to meet, and if they fail IVF.
Nds....baby dust is always welcome. I get annoyed by announcements away from here, but only for moments. I just had to vent it away so I can continue being positive....feel like I've become all hippy this cycle lol
We welcome all baby dust and are happy at anyone's BFP's on here
Depending on your situation the can offer you Clomid...if you don't ovulate. Iui if you just need the 2 partners to meet, and if they fail IVF.
Nds....baby dust is always welcome. I get annoyed by announcements away from here, but only for moments. I just had to vent it away so I can continue being positive....feel like I've become all hippy this cycle lol
We welcome all baby dust and are happy at anyone's BFP's on here
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So it was just a one night stand then? Is she happy she's pregnant? I think I'd rather wait for the right time with the right person than do it her way.
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Nds....baby dust is always welcome. I get annoyed by announcements away from here, but only for moments. I just had to vent it away so I can continue being positive....feel like I've become all hippy this cycle lol
We welcome all baby dust and are happy at anyone's BFP's on here
thankyou.
oh absolutely, and you have every right to be upset or annoyed at it.
i hope something good happens for you soon, you definitely deserve it.
xx
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I know what you mean its hard not to feel a bit bitter when so many people around you are falling pregnant, even harder when u know they're unplanned. Weird how we dong feel like that on here tho, so happy when someone gets a bfp! I find it hard that my oh's sister is gay and now expecting their second and she says to me "its so much harder for us!" (She doesnt know we're tcc.)
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Also gay couples increase the % of IVF/IUI success because they probably don't have fertility problems, and once they've got a donor there aren't likely to be any more issues so its more likely to work.
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My oh has really taken this news to heart. I only know her through him. "She hit banged twice before christmas and she's pregnant, maybe I should shagg you down a back alley" his words!!!
It's just annoying, I am happy for her...I'm just jealous. She is a good mum already and she is happy, and so are her kids and family. (I can't help but wonder if they are all secretly thinking....what the actual feck? Are you serious love?)
Oh had a rant about this, family and our bunny. And how unfair life actually is sometimes. Family piss and moan to us about money, so he ends up lending them some money for xyz, then they koan about their problems. Meanwhile....we are saving for a fucking wedding, trying so god dam hard for a baby and our little princess who has the best of everything is at the vets being fed by syringe
what's fair in that??????!
I hope to god this universe has some awesome plan up its sleeve for me. And we just have to overcome all this shit first. If not....I'm kicking arse when I get to those pearly gates aged 120!!! Lol.
Xxx
It's just annoying, I am happy for her...I'm just jealous. She is a good mum already and she is happy, and so are her kids and family. (I can't help but wonder if they are all secretly thinking....what the actual feck? Are you serious love?)
Oh had a rant about this, family and our bunny. And how unfair life actually is sometimes. Family piss and moan to us about money, so he ends up lending them some money for xyz, then they koan about their problems. Meanwhile....we are saving for a fucking wedding, trying so god dam hard for a baby and our little princess who has the best of everything is at the vets being fed by syringe
what's fair in that??????!I hope to god this universe has some awesome plan up its sleeve for me. And we just have to overcome all this shit first. If not....I'm kicking arse when I get to those pearly gates aged 120!!! Lol.
Xxx
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Is that your little rabbit in the picture? Looks really sweet.
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Chaz I have 2 bunnies-jerry and Eva. They're amazing. Hope your little one gets better soon.
I'm really ready for a rant girls- 6 months into my best friends pregnancy. I'm just DREADING tonight, going to see the girls at hers to talk about the baby and the 2 upcoming weddings in the group. It's not that I don't love talking about this kind of thing, Im just so self-conscious about what I say (because they know I've been trying for years) and I can feel them trying to work out if I'm annoyed or jealous. I cancelled going to hers on nye because I think my hormones went mad and I couldn't stop crying lol. Sometimes my friend says insensitive things like "there are benefits to being infertile, pregnancy is awful" :/ Wish me luck that I can hold in all the negative things in my head and just enjoy nice baby chat! x
I'm really ready for a rant girls- 6 months into my best friends pregnancy. I'm just DREADING tonight, going to see the girls at hers to talk about the baby and the 2 upcoming weddings in the group. It's not that I don't love talking about this kind of thing, Im just so self-conscious about what I say (because they know I've been trying for years) and I can feel them trying to work out if I'm annoyed or jealous. I cancelled going to hers on nye because I think my hormones went mad and I couldn't stop crying lol. Sometimes my friend says insensitive things like "there are benefits to being infertile, pregnancy is awful" :/ Wish me luck that I can hold in all the negative things in my head and just enjoy nice baby chat! x
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Just one little - and hopefully not too insensitive point - to make ladies. I hope you don't mind. You don't necessarily know what another woman's journey has been. Some people are very, very private about things and might not open up about their own lives - even if you've opened up about yours.
For example, I have a friend who had multiple miscarriages in a previous relationship a number of years ago. They split up. She fell pregnant almost immediately after marrying her new partner (despite the fact they'd been trying for 10 months before that) and to her work colleagues, etc it probably looked like she had everything she ever wanted handed to her on a plate.
She has an "everything happens for a reason" view of things now (i.e. glad she has her kids with DH and not with ex) but she still knows what it's like to try, try, try and feel like she'll never get there. I can't pretend to know how it feels, but I think it's a little unfair to say things like "she doesn't know how lucky she is..." without knowing the full story. She may well thank her lucky stars every single day for blessing her with two healthy pregnancies while others seem to struggle... you just never know...
For example, I have a friend who had multiple miscarriages in a previous relationship a number of years ago. They split up. She fell pregnant almost immediately after marrying her new partner (despite the fact they'd been trying for 10 months before that) and to her work colleagues, etc it probably looked like she had everything she ever wanted handed to her on a plate.
She has an "everything happens for a reason" view of things now (i.e. glad she has her kids with DH and not with ex) but she still knows what it's like to try, try, try and feel like she'll never get there. I can't pretend to know how it feels, but I think it's a little unfair to say things like "she doesn't know how lucky she is..." without knowing the full story. She may well thank her lucky stars every single day for blessing her with two healthy pregnancies while others seem to struggle... you just never know...
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absolutely.
but that doesn't stop the ladies who have tried for a long time, feeling how they do. that's a natural thing.
i don't think anybody said she 'doesn't know how lucky she is'. some women do. all i said, personally was that she was blessed, every pregnant women is, and whatever situation they've been in, saying 'pregnancy is awful' IMO is a dreadful thing to say.
and i'm not on this forum, i just chirped in to try and make these wonderful ladies feel better. i'm sure these ladies have heard that a million times before. and while of course that was a reasonable thing to post, the title is 'rant' and OP is more than welcome to do so. they are not wrong for how they feel x
but that doesn't stop the ladies who have tried for a long time, feeling how they do. that's a natural thing.
i don't think anybody said she 'doesn't know how lucky she is'. some women do. all i said, personally was that she was blessed, every pregnant women is, and whatever situation they've been in, saying 'pregnancy is awful' IMO is a dreadful thing to say.
and i'm not on this forum, i just chirped in to try and make these wonderful ladies feel better. i'm sure these ladies have heard that a million times before. and while of course that was a reasonable thing to post, the title is 'rant' and OP is more than welcome to do so. they are not wrong for how they feel x
Actually someone did say that, on the first page. Believe me, she will know how lucky she is. It is a tad insulting hearing that from people about your status as a mother. It is natural to be jealous but there's an implication that women who have children already don't deserve to get pregnant again while there's women waiting to conceive. It doesn't work like that.
My friend had the misfortune to miscarry at nine months last year. I was seven months at the time. If she had turned around to me and said you don't know how lucky you are I would have been devastated. People don't get pregnant or stay pregnant just to spite those who don't. It's difficult to watch other people go through what you are not but remember that it's never personal.
People in that situation would actually like it more if you were open and honest with them. If you find it difficult to be around them, explain yourself and they'll probably understand. Don't sit on that resentment though. And don't ever think that they don't know how lucky they are. They do.
My friend had the misfortune to miscarry at nine months last year. I was seven months at the time. If she had turned around to me and said you don't know how lucky you are I would have been devastated. People don't get pregnant or stay pregnant just to spite those who don't. It's difficult to watch other people go through what you are not but remember that it's never personal.
People in that situation would actually like it more if you were open and honest with them. If you find it difficult to be around them, explain yourself and they'll probably understand. Don't sit on that resentment though. And don't ever think that they don't know how lucky they are. They do.
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I don't resent her at all, I simply started this thread to get that off my chest....which I did and it allowed other people to rang about anything.
I know this girl and I know her personal circumstances. She is happy, and I am happy for her. I'm just jealous and envious of how quickly it can happen for those who aren't trying.
I have congratulated her and spoken to her. I just had to get it off my chest as I need to keep myself positive for my cycle.
She does know how happy she is and she is looking forward to her new venture with her children xx
I know this girl and I know her personal circumstances. She is happy, and I am happy for her. I'm just jealous and envious of how quickly it can happen for those who aren't trying.
I have congratulated her and spoken to her. I just had to get it off my chest as I need to keep myself positive for my cycle.
She does know how happy she is and she is looking forward to her new venture with her children xx
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ah i never saw the comment.
but i don't expect that was what was implied at all, in the slightest.
^ what chazabell said, she needed to get it off her chest and she has every right to.
i can see both sides here, i just think people are reading way into it what everyones saying here. it's what the forums here for after all. x
but i don't expect that was what was implied at all, in the slightest.
^ what chazabell said, she needed to get it off her chest and she has every right to.
i can see both sides here, i just think people are reading way into it what everyones saying here. it's what the forums here for after all. x
