Random Quick Questionnn!

[oox_tasha_xoo]

I cantt helpp but noticee all the woman sayingg how their sex drivee has gonee down hill...
butt what i dontt understandd is whyy we feel guilty about not giving it to our partners/husbands?
Admittingly im nott in the samee boat! my sex drive is ok, not mad but not gone!
But i still often wonder why us woman are like i feel sorry for my partner cuz its totally gone!
Makes me think that men are totally dependent on sex
Am i just beingg wierd?

 

[Mummy2B2009]

I personally think men are dependant on sex, Im sick of him trying it on, feeling me up and getting huffy when i dont want sex. He had a part to play in getting me pregnant, so he must deal with the reprocusion!

 

[Mummy2B2009]

I personally think men are dependant on sex, Im sick of him trying it on, feeling me up and getting huffy when i dont want sex. He had a part to play in getting me pregnant, so he must deal with the reprocusion!

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

My point exactlyy! They have the joys of the miracle of life yet they get huffy when we say no to more sex!

 

[Potbelijo]

Meh they have hands and the internet, what more do they need?

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

 

[SoonToBeMrs]

But men ARE totally dependant on sex.. it's true.. they start going mad if they dont get it.. drives me crazy! My OH can talk about nothing but sex when he hasnt had it for a while and everytime I'm stodd in front of him he always makes comments about my bottom and is always grabbing me or making sexual comments about just about anything and everything! Makes me giggle.. a bit pathetic really..

 

[Mummy2B2009]

Does everyone not have a problem with their partners looking at porn? Me personally, I dont like him doing it. but maybe that because imvery insecure and selfconcious

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Good question!

I suppose I want to be the perfect wife, all pregnant and glowing and still up for it but I'm just too knackered! Luckily Hubby doesn't get annoyed he says he totally understands which is why I totally understand that the porn download on his pc has dramatically increased in the last month!

I can't be easy on them either especially if you've been trying for months and then NOTHING! And then they've got us all hormonal, crying and moaning at once - poor sods!

In light of my new revelation I'm now starting to feel a wee bit sorry for the boys (especially after moaning about them on the other thread) fear not girls this sympathy won't last long, when I get in and he's playing on his Wii and the house looks a mess it will be back to the moaning and crying.

 

[SoonToBeMrs]

Does everyone not have a problem with their partners looking at porn? Me personally, I dont like him doing it. but maybe that because imvery insecure and selfconcious

My partner doesnt look at porn but if he were to I know I'd probably feel the same as you.. I'd get very insecure.. and I dont like to say that I feel guilty for not giving him any because I'm too tired etc.. but he is very good with handing out massages and fetching me drinks etc.. I suppose if he can be understanding of my needs, then I can do the same..

 

[SoonToBeMrs]

Does everyone not have a problem with their partners looking at porn? Me personally, I dont like him doing it. but maybe that because imvery insecure and selfconcious

My partner doesnt look at porn but if he were to I know I'd probably feel the same as you.. I'd get very insecure.. and I dont like to say that I feel guilty for not giving him any because I'm too tired etc.. but he is very good with handing out massages and fetching me drinks etc.. I suppose if he can be understanding of my needs, then I can do the same..

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

I thinkk i put my partnerr off of porn to be honestt lol!
I asked him if he watched porn of course he replies sumtyms
So i thoughtt id joke aorund saying can i watch with you
Well he didnt seem impressed and from what i know hasnt watched it sincee haha!
He justt trys it on with me moreee now thoughh!

 

[Mummy2B2009]

I think my partner has a problem,I ask him not to look at it, yet i go out come home and theres porn sites on the history, He has a ipod, yuou know the ones with internet on, well went to upload songs for him otherday and there was tons of porn and visited porn sites, Its been going on since we got together,

I always think well am i doing something wrong? Does he want me to be like those girls etc

 

[Potbelijo]

Nah I don't mind. Men a just a victim of their hormones too you know.

(( well, mostly ))

It's not because they want you to be like that, there's a huge difference between fantasy and reality. I used to worry as I was a skinny bint when I met the OH and then turned in to a bit of a splodge. Our guys love us for what we are, they just like a bit of eye candy now and then.

 

[Mama 2 Be]

Our men want us otherwise they wouldn't be here and vice versa - nor would we be carrying their children if they wanted the blonde, big busted, tiny waisted sweedish twins who are not actually natural blondes and go by the name of Tracey and Sharon from Essex (not flamin Essex or girls from Essex just proving a point by using a stereotype ) It's just a fantasy the same as I fantasise of George Clooney, Daniel Craig and Vin Diesel! (Oh girls the libido is coming back )

I'd rather know he's doing it rather than make it some seedy thing that he has to sneak around doing, he will do it whether you ask him to or not - He's a bloke!

 

[chezzabell]

thats cos most men are totally dependent on sex

 

[louears]

I think my partner has a problem,I ask him not to look at it, yet i go out come home and theres porn sites on the history, He has a ipod, yuou know the ones with internet on, well went to upload songs for him otherday and there was tons of porn and visited porn sites, Its been going on since we got together,

I always think well am i doing something wrong? Does he want me to be like those girls etc

nah it is not you at all, my OH watches porn when i go out, it is hard to explain really, and them watching porn is no dig at us at all, my OH loves me loads and i satisfy him, well up to the pregnancy, and he hasn't started watching more of it lately, but for them they need the visual, no emotions attatched and all that, it is just a bit of fun for them and a way to relax, nothing to do with us not been good enough or anything, but if you have a problem with it and he knows that, he should understand that and explain why he does it or stop, or at least delete his history

 

[pacha]

My OH told me that sex to him is like cuddles to me - He says that If I dont get cuddles then I wonder whats up and may not 'feel loved' - he said sex is what cuddles are to me i.e if I aint showing an interest sex wise then he feels unloved

He is totally understanding just now though coz Im preggers and hasnt been trying it on but he does still pass the dirty comments whenever I try and get dressed, undressed, out of bed, go to brush teeth etc etc

He also does watch porn and it doesnt bother me at all

 

[noodle1]

I don't feel guilty, after all they can always satisfy themselves!!!

As for the porn thing, this is something I had a huge hang up about when we first got together, he watched it A LOT and I felt threatened by it but now he watches it less and I actually enjoy watching it too !

 

[scones]

Id be upset if hubby looked at pron tbh, Id feel insecure about our relationship, we wouldnt be together if he did it!