please help

[Donna Denness]

I am so glad i found this forum. my husband and i have been ttc for just over two years. We have had a lot of stress which i know can affect fertility but i have heard so many do's, dont's, old wives tales, stop trying then it will happen ( has anyone else heard that? It is the most frustrating thing because if i didn't want to be a mummy so badly then maybe i could just not think about it ). My head is totally in a spin and i just need some solid advice and support x Just good to know that I'm not alone.

 

[sally12]

You are certainly not alone here! You will find all the support you could ask for!

Wishing you lots of babydust and have a big one of these

 

[Donna Denness]

you don't know what a relief it is x thank you

 

[sally12]

I try to tell myself that all this waiting will make us appreciate our babies even more WHEN they come along!

 

[Donna Denness]

That is a great way to look at it. I lost hope for a very short while and was down but then i thought, everything happens for a reason and my baby will come WHEN the time is right x Honestly I am so relieved to find this forum I could cry x

 

[Trudyscrumptious76]

Hi Donna! Welcome to the forum. Feel free to ask any question. Someone will try to answer it. When I found this forum I realised I'd been trying to get pg at the wrong time of the month for at least 6 months!

I've learnt loads from all the lovely ladies. Hang in there it will happen. Have you been to your Doc about it?

 

[Donna Denness]

Hi

I have been to the doctors and had a blood test. I was also using ovulation kits regularly. I stopped using them as people were telling me that i was putting myself and my hubby under too much pressure. I know i ovulate and the doctors said that my blood test was fine, My husbad has a child from a previous relationship so he was quite sure that he was fine, I explained that anything could have changed so he has done a sperm test any way, the quantity was fine, however the quality was not so good. But we have been told stress is a major factor in that. We are going to give it another couple of months then go back to the doctors.

I just sometimes want us to be able to relax about it but I long so much for a baby an so does my husband. He is such a great dad. Do you think that i should get back to the doctors? I just think that until you have been trying for at least two years they tend to brush you off x Now we have been trying for so long maybe i should see if they change there opinion? So frustrating x

 

[choklatemunky]

Donna,

You could go back to the Drs - they might tell you that they wont do anything yet but maybe its worth a try - at least you would know whether there was anything they will do now to help....They might repeat the blood tests for you if nothing else?

 

[Dolly_R]

i have always beleived that the stork *makes* us pregnant but for now untill we get our BFPs we will just have to guess that he is either on holiday or his sat nav is broken

chin up hun xxxx

 

[Tillytots]

hi hun welcome to the forum
you'll find all the support you could ever wish for on here. The girls are all lovely and everyone understands what its like to want a bambino so badly and to TTC only for the witch to keep turning up coming here makes everyhting so much easier. We all share eachothers excitement, fears, tears and have a good old laugh at the same time

I was TTC for a year and nothing happened. My version of TTC was doing the deed ALOT but nothing else....we had a break as we were getting disappointed. I joined the forum about 8months later and learnt lots of tips and tricks and I had a visit from the stork after 3 cycles Im now due in max 10 weeks

really really hope you get your bfp soon xxx

 

[Donna Denness]

sorry i think i am being really stupid but i dont know some of the abreviations. what does bfp stand for?

Thank you all for your support i feel so much better already x

 

[sally12]

BFP = Big Fat Positive!

Try the link below (i hope i did it right, if not check out post on previous page in TTC section) and you will have all the lingo at your fingertips

http://www.pregnancyforum.co.uk/forum/v ... hp?t=67785

 

[Trudyscrumptious76]

Definitely go back to the Docs. I'd been only trying a year when my Doc referred me to the Gynae unit. He did the blood and sperm tests too. I fell pg (pregnant) just before my appointment, sadly it didn't stick. I m/c (miscarried) in Nov had 1 month off and the Doc said if i'm not pg this cycle I'm to go back to him and he'll refer me again.

I do have a very understanding practice, but 2 years and they're not going to refer you??? Ridiculous! Go back and ask to be reffered. My Doc said I prob didn't need it but reffered me anyway as sometimes just knowing something is being done can change your mind set. It worked I fell p/g within weeks of being him reffering me.

Also ever the Chartstalker have you thought about charting? It's taught me so much about my body that I didn't know. There's a chartstalkers thread if you fancy it.

 

[A&J]

Hi and welcome, Hope you get your BFP soon

 

[Donna Denness]

Thank you so much for those links x
I agree with what you suggested about the doctors. I am so sick of hearing....it's ok it will happen when it happens, you are young , give it time sometimes i wish people would understand what a worry it is x thank you all so much x