one of those days.

[sarafet]

aiden stayed overnight at my mums for the first time on frida night. my mum is alway going on about how he should be sleeping through the night and that he doesn't need a bottle through the night, so she put him to bed at half 9 and said he slept till half 3 then she put his dummy back in, and he slept till half 5..

he's never done this for us. my mum and i got into an argument and she said she knows best bc shes had 3 kids, and every one of us were sleeping through with no bottle at that age. so she asked me to keep trying for a few nights, and he'd get the hang of it. i tried again last night - he was bathed, fed and sleeping for 9:30pm, then he woke up hungry at 11:30pm. i stayed awake, constantly putting his dummy in until 2:30am, then i fed him. he fell back asleep till 4:30am, i kept putting dummy back in till 5:30, by then he was screaming for a bottle

now he has hardly slept all day, he's been screaming for no reason for hours and i'm sitting here crying my eyes out bc i can't take him screaming like this nothing i do seems to settle him.

i want to phone my mum up and thank her so much for fu*king everything up. i'm so tired, i just want to walk away and leave him when e cries like this. i haven't even been able to get washed today, was supposed to go for lunch with my friend, but was too embarrassed to take aiden out bc he'd scream the place down.

i can't stop crying

 

[debecca]

I really feel for you hun because we ALL have days like this I promise.

You will no doubt find that tomorrow is a good day (they often follow bad days). I would take what your mum says with a pinch of salt, after all, you weren't there and she may have been up more than she claims with him.

Connie is a lot older than Aiden and she still doesn't go through without a bottle - 8 hours is the maximum she's done in one stretch but she normally does 6 or 7 only.

I think you're doing a great job hun

 

[LisaJ1986]

Your mum was probably just lucky. And everyone does have these days. We had a day where she slept from 10pm til 6.30am. First time ever. I was amazed. Then all hell broke loose and she screamed the entire day. I rang my sister in a right state and then my OH called me. I took her for a walk to send her to sleep. This was constant til 11pm. The following day she was just full of smiles! So bloody frustrating!

 

[laracomps]

I have a fair few days like this... Normally she is going through a growth spurt (which Aiden might be? He is approaching 2 months, and there is supposed to be one around then) - a few weeks back Phoebe was screaming all day for a few days in a row, the next week she found her feet and started chatting loads! Strange, but true.

Also, Phoebe still needs a feed at 11pm and 5am. We cannot drop these she wakes for it, and to be honest at the moment I can't forsee a time when she won't want them. Perhaps when we wean?!

The dummy trick normally gives us an extra hour... tops! Occasionally we've had a few hours, but that is rare.

Babies don't like their routine being messed up, perhaps why he was more unsettled? I hope he is being better for you today - I know how hard it is. Unfortunately the last 2 times Phoebe was like that, we were in town

Just remember that you know your baby more than anyone else, you are the main carer for your baby - you know what's best and that you are doing the right thing. Ignore everyone else

 

[xkikix]

Your babes is still quite young to be sleeping thru, some people are very lucky and there baby sleeps thru straight away, others takes months or even years. xxxxx

 

[sarah2807]

awwww...I've had days like that too and I agree with laracomps, it was definately during a growth spurt, plus she gets colic. Maybe if you've had a hard night with him he's now tired cos his rountine is messed up. Violet is a right pain to get to sleep in the day and I had a few days where she hardly slept at all and she did nothing but scream...I think if babies get over tired it's really hard to gett hem to sleep and they scream beacuase they don't know their tired, they just know they feel rubbish.
Keep persevearing hun...I bet tmw will be 100 times better.

 

[clarey]

Aawww have some we all have rubbish days, I reckon your Mum was just lucky! Eva has only just started to go for around 7 hours overnight, we try the dummy trick too but as someone else said it only gives us another hour if that! Maybe if he didnt feed much that night your Mum had him he might be just trying to catch up on missed feeds and making him fuss a bit.
Its hard but I would just smile and nod to your Mum and do things your own way, sleeping through isnt the be-all and end-all, it seems they all get there in the end, personally I would rather be getting up once or twice in the night and have a happy baby during the day than have a full nights sleep and a grumpy one!

 

[littlepip]

You know ure baby btter than anyone in the world. You know what is right for him. You've just got to do what you feel is best and not listen to anyone else. He's very young to be going through the night, ryan didnt go through the night till he was at least 3 months old.
Debecca is right we all have days like this where we feel like crying all day long, i have about one a week! lol

 

[Gem & Leland]

leland did the same for my mum hun , she had him downstairs with her on out wedding anniversary so he woulda been about 2 months old , he went right thru till 5 am , he only woke then becuase i came down stairs to check on him . mum think s its cos he can smell u and even tho u dont smell of milk u so smell of mummy so he wants u

im afraid leland never slept throught ill he went into his own room at 5 months when i couldnt take no more , he now goes to bed at 8 , bottle at 10.30 and sleeps till 8 next day

it does get better

 

[Sherlock]

Awww hun I think your Mum got lucky is all. TBH I do feel she should have respected your routine and followed what you do, not told you she knows best. You are Aidens Mum and you decide how to do things. She could have encouraged you to try this gradually, not leapt in and done it for you then and there.

FWIW he probably is too young to be sleeping the night through even with formula. I'd be waiting a few weeks longer before dropping feeds off. And then build up and drop one a night and gradually space the others out if you can.

Galen is BF and it took till 10 weeks plus before he went longer than 6 hours on a regular basis. And he still sometimes wakes around 3-4am for a feed even now. We never tried dropping a feed, just slowly got into a bedtime routine and then a dreamfeed around 11pm and then waited and saw how he did. He more or less dropped the feeds himself as he started sleeping longer and not fussing so much in the night.

Hang in there, we all have crappy days and it may be totally unrelated to the night at your Mums. But either way don't let her tell you what to do. If she is going to go over your head and do things her way, don't have him stay over till you know she will respect how you do things.