Need your opininon

[futuremum]

I need to know what you think of this please.

I am feeling very stressed at the moment. I do not get good quality sleep at the moment, between thomas asking for food in the night from time to time to my partner not sleeping well. everything is stress. i am more and more clumsy too which adds to the stress. I get angry so easily it is unbeleivable. It could be from thomas refusing to eat to me dropping a bit of food on the floor. i bottle it up because i do not want to shout as i know there is no reasons for shouting but i feel ever so angry at everyting. i rush all day to do nothing. I have always loads of things to do but at the end of the day there is hardly anything done. I do not like my physical appearance but i am eating loads of junk for comfort. I never have a minute for myself, the only times i could get some peace and quiet is in the shower or in the car when i am on my own. I also feel empty at the same time, when my oh talks to me i do not listen it is just a blank picture in my mind. I sleep well when i am not awaken but i am always tired. Physically, it is like i have thousands of aunts running in my arms and legs. i also lose my breathe sometimes. i will look forward to do things but it is such a stress to get there that at the end i do not enjoy them much. I end up crying when i am on my own to release the pressure. all this stress gives me headache. there is more but i think this will give you an idea.

do you think it could be depression or just stress? I do not think i am depressed but my oh says that depressed people always think they are not. thanks

 

[budge]

Im wouldn't answer this post if i hadn't got any connection with it but i have. You sound like me after i had my first daughter 9 years ago.

i wouldn't say you were depressed brecause you acknowledge your problems and issues. I would say you are more tired and ovewhelmed. Are you maybe trying to do too much? I know i did when i had my first. I tried to be super mum. We all do it and its just not worht it.

Firstly try doing one thing at a time housework wise. And finish that before starting another. If it gets to 5pm and theres something not done fook it. Tell yourself it will wait till tomorrow becasue it will.
Make Thomas your priority above the house work. That will be there when you're dead.
Go out everyday with Thomas for a walk. This will help you feel good about yourself. And thus make you feel good about others and less angry. Push the buggy briskly and take an apple or something to munch away at. Join a playgroup or something. Join a slimming group if you think losing weight would help you.

As regards meals. Plan your meals each week. I learnt that this made my shopping bill reduce calorie intake reduce.

Have a milky drink before bed. Try not to eat anything after 6pm.

Is thomas in any sort of routine bedtime wise where you could maybe pop him in bed take a shower and wind down ALONE? It makes all the difference.

Ask someone to babysit for you and go to the cinema or just out for a drive with your hubby. Feeling like a couple for a few hours does the world of good.

im sorry if the above hasn't helped. If i knew where you lived id bake a cake and come and give you a big hug and help you more. I do know how you feel .

 

[emilia]

Budge gave you a lovely reply! I can't add much more, other than that I would fly you out here to SA to shower you with sunshine!

Go well Futuremum!
Emilia xx

 

[chezzabell]

sorry to hear ur feeling down, i went through the same feelings after my first

Budge give u the answer i would hun, very sound advice