MIL disaster averted LOL

[GBLiz]

Ok so now we know me and OH will both be at home in peace for the birth...my mum and his mum independantly both offered to come and stay for a week if needed. (NOOOOO WAYYYYYYY!!!!!!)

I thanked them both and diplomatically said of course they must come to see the baby but i think we'll be ok for help around the house now OH will be off work for so long, all fine (i thought!)

Then a couple of days later, his mum emails and says, 'no, ive decided you will need help so i'm booking a week off work in april and i will come and stay on the sofa'

for one thing how could she book a week when i dont know what week i'll give birth- if i have the homebirth theres NO WAY im having his mum there watching !!! For another my flat is so tiny we're cramped with 2 of us already...and for another she will start rushing round bleaching everything that i dont want bleached!!!

started having a panic attack lol so OH quickly called her and made her promise not to book anything ....and she agreed to play it by ear.....PHEW, disaster averted...FOR NOW!!!!!!

 

[lozzi]

Lol god what a nightmare!!!

 

[samandbump]

Oh no she sounds like my MIL!!!! i am glad of a bit of help but she wanted to come down everyday for a few weeks the best thing to do is stick to your guns,its your flat and if you dont wan her to stay you dont have to have her there!!

 

[GBLiz]

maybe im being naive but i dont see what will be so hard when there's 2 of us and its like, 3 steps to the kitchen and washing machine from the bedroom LOL...and my OH does virtually all the housework anyway

i have to remember it was different in her day - married indian women move in with the husbands family- and when she had her boys she wasnt allowed out for a month

me on the other hand i left home 14 years ago and have been fiercely independant ever since....even though we all get on fine , I dont think ive even spent more than 2 nights in a row with family in all that time!

 

[Babylicious]

Oh no - lets hope she doesn't want to stay I don't want anyone here but me and sean tbh and if MIL threatens to come I might beat her with the hoover

 

[Emma58]

I love my MIL to bit's but I don't think I would want her here for a week!
I wouldn't be too bothered if my mum came though.

and if MIL threatens to come I might beat her with the hoover

Babylicious - you'll only break your hoover again doing that!! Find something unbreakable

 

[Babylicious]

ironically it finally died this morning so I've got to go get another from tescos

 

[Happybunny]

Both my MIL and mother are the same. I have had to be really tough and just say 'no'.
Don't stand for any nonsense, it is your birth experience and you need time to bond as a family. You might upset or offend them, but all will be forgiven when the little one arrives.

 

[sazzylou]

unfortunatly my MIL and my mum only live 10 minutes away from me, so they'll be trying to visit everyday Not quite as bad as actually living with you for a week, but ive already had to hint that i dont want them to!!

Bless, they think they're helping, but i'll just feel crowded.

And anyway, i found with my first baby , it's better to ask for help IF you need it. I coped better than i coud've imagined when Bethany was born, and i actually wanted to be left alone to get on with it! Me and OH had a great time, lol

 

[kalia]

Fingers crossed she leaves you to it

 

[muppetmummy]

I can think of nothing worse than trying to get my head around looking after a newborn with MIL watching my every move
That would seriously freak me out! I'll be locking the doors and pretending to be out if mine comes around