men!

[scottishterrier]

Well id like to appologise in advance
for yet another down post(seems to be my luck!)

I got a phone call from my boyfriend on Sat morning
asking if i was free next weekend as he would like
to come and talk things through with me. I told my mum
and although i wasn't holding my breath for good news, she
kinda built up my hopes saying he couldn't want to come
all this way to talk if it were bad news.
Today i text him basically saying what was it he wanted to
talk with me about as i wanted to know where i stood.
He has just replied with
"I want to tell you in person why i cannot, and will never
be a father"

I just cant believe that he is so adament about this.
I have replied telling him that if id read right and he was coming
purely to make his excuses and leave
then not to bother as i don't think my head could cope with it all.

The good thing to come out of all this is that at least now i know
100% where i stand and well although its not what i hoped for, at
least now i can spend some time repairing my heartbreak and
then start to get on with things

 

[little*red]

"I want to tell you in person why i cannot, and will never
be a father"

well he is going to be whether he likes it or not! i hope one day he turns around and looks back on his life and see what an amazing oppertunity he missed out on - being man enough to stand up to his responsibilites and bring up his own child, instead of leaving it to you.
Im so glad you've got such a possitve outlook on things hun, and the best thing you can do to get revenge on him is to do the most amazing job bringing up your baby, it looks like you've already done so with your little girl.
I wish you a very happy healthy 9 months .

 

[fifi211]

Aww I can't believe he has said that. It must be really nice to have the choice to not accept responsibility of your actions.

This must be really hard for you, but you are going to have the joy and happiness this child will bring and he is going to miss out big time.

You sound like you have a lot of support from your mam and you know that we are all here for you.

Anytime you need to chat just give me a shout

 

[Urchin]

What a twat!
I know you're going to be very upset, obviously, but it sounds like you're better off without someone that'll do something like that!

 

[okiegirl]

wow i cant understand men like that who can just walk away from there responsiblities so easily,well he'll never know what he's missing out on till its too late n ur have more than enough love to give the baby yourself.

 

[scottishterrier]

Thanks girls. i know im coming across quite strong here but in truth im breaking my heart. My heads buzzing from how am i going to afford this to what on earth do i tell the child in a few years time.
He also isnt willing to tell his family, i feel like they have a right to know that soon they will have a grandchild/niece or nephew running around but i dont think i can step in and tell them.

Thank you for the support.

 

[Sofarsogood]

What a horrible man, sounds like your better off without him! You'll make a great mum and a better one because of this probably.

I wouldn't bother telling his family if I were you, as hard as it may be as I know you feel like they have a right to know although I think this may add fuel to the fire. Maybe your ex is just having daddy worries? (Not too sure of the story between you so far...)

I hope everything works out okay for you, if you need to talk, you know where I am.



xoxoxox

 

[floppit]

What a dicksplat!!

It must be so hard for you right now but I can't help but feel this will at least leave you free for a real man - rather than a second, larger, hairy, less lovable child!

He is the father - he has responsibilities whether he likes it or not, he's going to HAVE to help financially.

Take really good care of yourself, I'm so sorry you got treated this way.

 

[Rosebay]

What a stupid guy, I mean he can't undo it- he's going to be a father whatever so by not being involved he's simply being a bad father.

We're all here for you hun, and you have your excellent mum

I think you're right about his family having a right to know too. I mean they might not want to get involved but then again they just might- do you have a good relationship with them?

+++

 

[Tiffy]

That is just horrible, I'm sorry, hon! I have no advice to really offer, sadly... I just want you to know you are not alone, okay?

 

[Babylicious]

 

[kelsey]

Hi there. What an irresponsible child he is. Don't you worry, you will be a fantastic mum and are being incredible already.

When I had my first, although I was with the biolological one he was never there (out on the p!ss a lot) so I was like a single mum. When I got pregnant with my second he couldn't handle it and after him continuously going out and not coming home I told him to leave. I was 4 months pregnant at the time and the other one had just turned 1.

After getting used to being on my own it was actually a relief. It was like I had one less child to look after. He came to visit rarely and then emmigrated without saying a word. The children are now 4 and nearly 6 and my now partner is adopting them. They have both been told they had a different "daddy" - if you could ever call him that. They ask questions now and again but they accept the situation and are happy.

Try not to worry about things - Your little one will thrive on your love. Maybe one day your ex will realise what he has done and missed out on and if he doesn't then you'll know. And you'll also know what an opportunity has been stupidly thrown away by him and you will have been there for it all.

 

[Manda&Thomas]

omg hun what a bumhole id take a bat to his head if i was you
sorry your going threw all this
manda xx

 

[Jade_Number1]

he doesn't know what he's missing... x

 

[muppetmummy]

You're doing right by not agreeing to meet him next weekend, he's probably only doing it to try and ease his own concience.
Just leave him too it, it's his loss and he doesn't sound mature enough to be a good father anyway. Don't worry about money, he'll still have to provide for the baby financially whether he likes it or not

 

[enn]

just dont get yourself worked up and dont get stressed over it whatever u do as your only 6weeks pregnant. i know its gonna be very difficult but just bear in mind your lil beans growing inside you and needs u to be very calm and relaxed as best as u can

as for your ex he dont deserve no kids let alone anything else. id go seek advice and see what they say. as to if he pays money towards the baby when born and the current child,if not already.