Leaving Baby

[Jade&Evie]

Please don't bite my head off...

I keep reading threads and posts saing that people still can't leave their babies- I feel like I'm doing something bad now because I don't mind leaving Evie with my mum or Jon's mum. We've even left her overnight once with my mum.

I enjoy the break and the oppurtunity to be me for a little while again- but now I've been feeling like I shouldn't be leaving her. As long as I know she's safe I don't worry about her (of course I miss her but not s much that I pick her up early). It's only my MIL and mum that I'll leave her with but I hadn't thought anything of it until recently.

Does anyone feel the same?

Sorry if I've upset anyone; obviously I know if you are breastfeeding it's pretty hard but we've let them babysit, on and off, since Evie was 3 weeks so I feel like I'm abandooning her a little bit

 

[debecca]

Please don't bite my head off...

I keep reading threads and posts saing that people still can't leave their babies- I feel like I'm doing something bad now because I don't mind leaving Evie with my mum or Jon's mum. We've even left her overnight once with my mum.

I enjoy the break and the oppurtunity to be me for a little while again- but now I've been feeling like I shouldn't be leaving her. As long as I know she's safe I don't worry about her (of course I miss her but not s much that I pick her up early). It's only my MIL and mum that I'll leave her with but I hadn't thought anything of it until recently.

Does anyone feel the same?

Sorry if I've upset anyone; obviously I know if you are breastfeeding it's pretty hard but we've let them babysit, on and off, since Evie was 3 weeks so I feel like I'm abandooning her a little bit

Connie regularly spends an afternoon with my MIL or goes up there for the evening to give us some couple time. Without it I'd have gone insane! Then again, they only live 5 minutes away so I know I can get her back any time I want or she can come home if she's not feeling too good etc.

I think if the offer of help is there and you're content to use it you are right to do so as long as it works for you!

 

[Red_Fairy]

Hannah spent a few nights away from me at 6 weeks old. - i found it hard but was ok. It was MUCH harder giving away a 13 month old for a few days as she has so much personality and knows who her mama is etc.

Ive done it with both from very young - its a personal choice, what ever your comfortable with - either way you shouldnt feel bad about it!

 

[chickadee1976]

Ive always felt like this too. Cameron has always been happy to stay with his gran, ever since he was a baby, and ive always made the most of my time alone.

I used to feel wierd to because all my friends were crying that they couldnt bear to leave there babies ( i thought they were a bit strange) or that the babies were so clingy that it was impossible to leave them with anyone.

 

[NIE]

It's a personal choice and it's all down to you and what suits your family.

I have only ever been away fom my wee man for a max of 2 1/2 hours in any 1 day. That's my choice. My mum has him for a couple of hours every so often so I can have some quality time. I don't feel guilty about it as it's not a regular thing, infact I quite enjoy it.

I return to work in Sept, so I will have to leave him for 6 hours. I think it will be harder for me, than it will for him. xxx

 

[Becky]

its a personal choice, what ever your comfortable with - either way you shouldnt feel bad about it!

That's exactly it, there is no right or wrong so you shouldn't feel bad whichever way you feel.

The mum's who can't bare to leave their LO feel bad that they're being selfish or should be able to do it by now and then the ones who find it ok feel bad that maybe they shouldn't feel so ok about it.

Every mum is different as is every baby. You have to judge your situation based on you and your baby and never for a second feel guilty. So long as you and your LO are happy - who cares!

 

[Squiglet]

my mums offered... but I just can't bear to leave lil miss... shes still a baby and I love all the time I spend with her... I love my time with Tia too sadly the older they get the less time they want to spend with you, which is why I want to spend as much time with lil miss while she still wants me... Its bad enough I have to leave her for work...

 

[Babylicious]

I've left harry once and I hated it but once I was drunk I was ok

 

[budge]

Please don't bite my head off...

I keep reading threads and posts saing that people still can't leave their babies- I feel like I'm doing something bad now because I don't mind leaving Evie with my mum or Jon's mum. We've even left her overnight once with my mum.

I enjoy the break and the oppurtunity to be me for a little while again- but now I've been feeling like I shouldn't be leaving her. As long as I know she's safe I don't worry about her (of course I miss her but not s much that I pick her up early). It's only my MIL and mum that I'll leave her with but I hadn't thought anything of it until recently.

Does anyone feel the same?

Sorry if I've upset anyone; obviously I know if you are breastfeeding it's pretty hard but we've let them babysit, on and off, since Evie was 3 weeks so I feel like I'm abandooning her a little bit

why do you feel so bad about feeling as you do? You're not leaving baby with strangers and you know shes safe and loved by her carers.
Everyone is different.

 

[1sttimemum]

I dont mind leaving my baby with the people i trust, My OH doesnt feel hes ready for caitlyn to sleep out yet, Id be glad of it - its me who does all the work haha

But like everyone else has said, it really is a personal choice. Your choice is that its right and its with the people you trust greatly. Dont feel bad about it

 

[Krystal]

Yep i'm exactly the same, Jack was about 6 weeks when he first stayed overnight with my Aunty (like a 2nd mum to me) It was wierd at first but I didn't mind so much and enjoyed the rest. He's stayed at his Grandma's a few times and we've even been to Alton towers and stayed overnight whilst she's had him. Is always lovely to come back to and get a big hug but no I don't feel bad. I enjoy spending the occasional night alone with OH. And I would only ever leave Jack with my close family. My friends had him before too but only for me to go to the cinema and she came over here whilst he was in bed. I was more nervous about that lol.

Do what you feel is best. It's important to have your own time too

 

[jennywren]

Don't worry about it hun - do what suits you and Jon best.

I let oran sleep at my mums all the time and very occasionally OHs dads but mainly at my mums a) because her and my dad love it b) because oran loves it c) because if me and OH didnt get any us time we would probably split up/permanantly argue. Its hard working shifts, if im on nights I don't get to see OH for 4 days but I do get to spend all afternoon and early evening with oran, same on my mon-fri days off, its just me and little man so id say if its possible (some months it works out im working 4 weekends running) 2 weekends a month Oran will sleep at his Grandmas and Granddads, the other weekend its was 3 weekends running as we had 3 major events happening, and weekend just gone he stayed friday & saturday!!! I dont feel bad about it, I want him to be very close to my mum & dad as Im not particulaly close to any of my family except my Folks and Bro as we had to move away when I was born (dads work) and my OH is really close to all his and I love that and I really feel like I miss it and thats why I want him to get as close to family as possible and on the other hand SIL never let nephewe out of her sight and he is really badly clingy and we didnt want that either!

Oh and now when he goes he doesnt cry when we leave, last weekend he actually chucked my coat at my feet and waved but when I go pick him up the look & smile on his face makes my heart melt, he runs up to me laughing with his arms in the air and cuddles me for an age - usually its a quick smile and cuddle and a ''let me go play now mummy'' look!

On the other hand MIL&FIL have been asking since the day he was born if they can take him to Tenerife for the week ''because they take chloe'' (she is 11 FFS) and I keep saying no way no how....he was born in April, they thought they were going to take him in the May

 

[Strangeness]

I first left Aaron for a few hours when he was 5 weeks old with my mum just to go to the cinema. I felt comfortable knowing he was with my mum and had a lovely time with my dh. It's down to your personal choice hun. If you know she's with someone you trust then grab any oppitunity you get to have some couple time! I wouldn't leave my ds with anyone but my mum and the reason I am happy with that is because she has been there from the moment he was born and knows him just as well and me and my dh. Also she listens to what I want for him, she'll stick to his routines etc. Also my son adores going to his nanny's! He packs his own little bag up now if he goes for night and will take his fave toys and then the next morning when we pick him up he tells me all about what he's done and he's so chuffed. I think he feels like he has his own independance when he goes to my mum's

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

as long as u and evie are happy hun there is nothing to worry about

i didnt leave bray overnight till he was 2 and 1/2 now he stays at mums at least once every other week

 

[beanie]

It's weird, I was more relaxed leaving Seren then I am Cally. That may have to do with a few things, I knew I would be leaving her as I had to go back to work, plus I had issues with my PND but I have left (I hate that word) them both. I first left Seren with my MIL when she was 6 weeks old so I could have 2 hours at the pub quiz (though I phoned constantly). My MIL would babysit for Seren every few weeks and Seren stayed overnight at 6 months when she was not feeding as much through the night and she stayed with my sister for a day at 6months so I could go to the Download festival for the day. I then of course left her at nursery for 2 days and with either her dad or MIL for half a day when I returned to work. I had to leave Cally when she was about 2 weeks old as I had to go to hospital due to passing some big clots, then we left her again for about 3 hours when she was 5 weeks as we took Seren to the circus. I have been on a few nights out but Cally has her last feed at 7.30pm and is then asleep usually so I would go out after that. We are goingto the cinema and that is going to be the test as she will need a feed from a bottle and Cally is not a fan of plastic boobs lol. Seren now stays at Nanny's house approx once every 2 months, she loves it but she will often have an afternoon with her nanny every fortnight (she adores her nanny so this is a massive treat for her). I need some time to myself (and refuse to feel guilty about it) as I am feeding Cally and getting upwith her in the night so its so good to have sometime tomyself - had a whole hour and a half at the hairdressers last week - bliss lol

 

[sarafet]

my mum and dad have taken aiden a couple of times for a few hours, while john and i slept

i don't feel guilty bc i trust my mum 100%, i'm still not comfortable leaving him with anyone else though, just bc i know my mum will do everthing for him the way i ask, and he'll be fine.. not ready just yet for an overnight though

 

[lfc_sarah]

The only person ive left Callum with is his dad... up to now...

But one day this week me and Lee are going for a meal and night out together while my mum and stepdad come round and mind him for a couple of hours
I dont think i could leave him overnight though
Plus its hard enough expressing enough for a few hours...

I miss him after a couple of minutes, and when i do go out with my mates i just want to be back home but at the same time, i dont

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

id love to be able to have a break sometimes i mean i have to go all the way to Newcastle to get it i hand him over to my parents collapse on the seatte and read a newspaper
its just me and Collier when james is away and id love to have a bit of me time once in while.
But i breastfeed so thats not easy to do, i love Collier with all my heart and id not like to be away from him for long but someone time just to relax would be lovely

so dont feel bad about it your nit alone and there is nothing wrong with wanting time to yourself

 

[Melly+2]

Dont feel bad for it, we all deserve a break, its good you feel comfortable leaving little lady it doesnt make it bad, i kinda wish i was able to let someone have hope for more then one night, unfortunatly im 'too' over protective over her and it isnt good, it means i dont really have a break. Shes nearly two and my over protrectiveness makes it hard for me to enjoy things, i wish i felt more comfotable leaving her with people

 

[valentine]

Its definitely harder if you breastfeed, leaving them is often just not an option.

I am leaving DD 3 days a week now with a childminder and this is hard, but I couldn't leave her overnight yet.

Valentine Xxx