Lap on the 13th :/ please help.

[sunnyland27]

To be honest ladies, I've just about given up on ever having children- this lap & dye is now purely to see what's causing so much AF pain. I'm sick of living with the fear of her arriving (and the few days of uselessness and kicked-in-the-stomach pain I get from it). I'm hoping for "we found this, removed it and it'll be fine now" but know that's not likely!

Anyway, I am just so shcoked and annoyed with the way patients are treated when they go in for an op- not sure if this is particularly bad in gynaecology because of the underlying misogyny still there (who hasn't been told to "just relax!" while having a smear). I'm about to consent to a team of people I've never met to cut me open, open my legs and give me a major op. For all I know, it's an alien with 3 heads who will be routing around in me. Why are we treated like cattle going to the vets? Is it soooooo unacceptable not to automatically put this kind of ultimate trust into someone you've never been in a room with?

I'm allergic to soooooo many things and the pre-op assessment put my mind at ease a tiny bit- the nurse put me as high risk and arranged for me to go in first, (for a latex free environment). But apparently I was very lucky to have spoken to the surgeon (on the phone for 5 seconds) while he told me "the dye is hypoallergenic, nobody can have a reaction", without seeing any details of what I am actually allergic to. There are people who are allergic to water, so obviously there will be many things in the dye that could cause reactions, DEPENDING on the person in question. He's not going to bother to tell me whats in it.

A couple of months ago I was about to have a hycosy but cancelled the day before because I'd read that an allergy to that dye can be fatal- iodine has been linked to a seafood allergy, which I also have. They never even bothered to ring me back after I left answer phone messages.

Please tell me your experience with the surgical/care staff- did they listen to you? Did u feel like your concerns were brushed off, as I have done throughout all my dealings with the nhs? I should be focusing on my physical health, but I have a feeling my mental state after being in hospital will be the main problem. I have OCD too, and using the hospital toilets while I'm already anxious will be impossible. If they try to keep me in overnight I will be calling myself a taxi and crawling to it, no matter what!

I don't want to feel such absolute distain for the docs and nurses before I've even met them, but I've never experienced anything I would consider good care in any hospital situation. Please help me get this into proportion before I go mad x

 

[Dee28]

Oh bless you honey, I'm sorry you're feeling do crappy. I had my lap around 6 weeks ago and the staff were very nice. I reacted badly to the anaesthetic and was soooo sick and had to be admitted over night and it was fine. I hate hospitals and being away from home and out if my routine but really it was ok. I ended up having an ovary removed from my stomach and some endo removed so I'm glad I went through it. I don't always have a great view/experience of hospital either but it was fine and even the unexpected overnighter was ok. The day surgery nurses were very nice I found. Lease don't worry, big hugs xxx

 

[sunnyland27]

Thanks so much for your reply dee. I was having such a bad day- can you tell? I had my lap and they were very good. I had actually met the consultant before and he's much nicer than your average consultant, although still has a little bit of a god complex (that underlying sense you get that they think patients are stupid, smirks and eye rolls when you ask a "google" question etc). The nurses and operating room assistants were all so great. My allergies were taken seriously (for the first time in any procedure I've ever had). I guess when it's a general anaesthetic they have to be careful with everything- I had red allergy bands all the way up my arm haha.

Amazingly, I had zero reaction to the anaesthetic, and woke up very suddenly and ready to go instantly. they all said I looked like a different person after the op, but that was because I had NO PAIN in my abdomen for the first time since my childhood, and no sensory-based irritants (I guess due to IV anti histamine?) Even though the 100% relief only lasted a couple of hrs, I just LOVED it, and think of it fondly, as if it was an amazing 2 hr holiday haha. I've hardly had any pain and didn't really need painkillers- had twinges but nothing I'm not used to

Thanks again for your support- I saw your reply but my phone wouldn't let me sign in to reply back x

 

[Dee28]

I'm so pleased for you, what an enormous relief to get it done and dusted with no complications, hurrah! Did they find anything? I hope this speeds up your bfp journey, big hugs and takeout easy xxx