Kick u when u are down

[Hearyoume]

So last week I felt rubbish about my false hope due to a late period (odd for me) and didnt hell that I was told PCOS runs highly in my family - I have an appointment next month to discuss this.

Anyway
A couple days ago my partner got into a argument about child support with his ex she was saying she wants more and he doesn’t pay enough. He pays her bank directly each month and she was saying how he’s getting older he needs to pay more. Which my partner refused as he pays a decent amount as it is and have his regularly which is every weekend and school holidays he is the one who also does the 45 minutes trip there and back to pick him up and take him home etc. And always goes half in school trips, uniforms and we buy him the school shoes etc.
Anyway she threatened to go through the govments child support. As she truly believe that since we can afford a 3 bedroom house in a nice area then he should pay more and that fact we have two full time wages coming in that WE can afford to give her more.
My other half calmly said our house and my wages have nothing to do with how much he gives her. I then just said to her don’t go through the government Because it will work out that you get less.
With that she lost her shit and stared shouting and telling me to F-off, I have no say in this, that I don’t have any children and that I have no idea what It’s like to have one, to be a Mum, what a Mum is etc and all sorts like that and that I don’t know what it’s like etc
Luckily I kept calm but with that my other lost his cool with her and basically defended me saying I do anything and everything for their child when needed and that I love and adore him (honestly I do).
It did eventually calm down and my other half told her to go through the government if she wants, he then sent her screen shots of how much the gov calculator worked out he should be paying her each work and in total he would actually pay her £90 less than what he does. And he said she can either keep what she gets now or he’ll go through the government and put the extra £90 he’d be saving into a savings account for their child.
With that she accepted the current about to be acceptable 🙄

It’s just with this past week of false hope and then worrying I may have PCOS (I’ve had a couple minor symptoms from what I’ve read) that is has really got to me. It’s really got me down and thinking it isn’t going to happen etc

 

[Sazlarxo]

Oh chick she sounds like a horrible person! I bet she uses the money for herself and just wants extra. I have PCOS and am trying to figure the whole ttc thing out, I'll be going to the doctor's next month to see what my next steps are. Your doctor will find out what's going on and will guide you.

Don't let the ex get you down as she truly isn't worth your time. She sounds like a spiteful, manipulative cow who just wants to get her way. You are a better person than she is

 

[Hearyoume]

Oh chick she sounds like a horrible person! I bet she uses the money for herself and just wants extra. I have PCOS and am trying to figure the whole ttc thing out, I'll be going to the doctor's next month to see what my next steps are. Your doctor will find out what's going on and will guide you.

Don't let the ex get you down as she truly isn't worth your time. She sounds like a spiteful, manipulative cow who just wants to get her way. You are a better person than she is

Thank you. I actually forgot it was September my appointment is on the 21st to discuss things with them.

Thing is if I wanted him to give less then I’d tell him to go through the government. How much he gives doesn’t bother me because at least he is doing it and it has nothing to do with me anyway! That his money at the end of the day and we have always acted like that money doesn’t exist when it comes to bills, treats etc.
I think the way she said it just got to me! She did text him several times after saying she was sorry and shouldn’t have said it but to me that beyond on the point.
She doesn’t know we are trying and not having much luck but it’s a still a awful thing to throw into someone’s face

 

[Sazlarxo]

Personally I commend him for giving more than he's meant to, and the fact that he'd put the extra in to a savings account says a lot about him. She's a waste of space and apparently has realised that she put her foot right in her mouth on multiple levels. You are above and beyond her in terms of class so put her ridiculous comments aside. I genuinely believe things happen when they're meant to, and your time will most definitely come