LilDreamy
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So, I've recently had to move in with my mom and grandmother with my 21 month old toddler and a month away from giving birth to baby number 2. I had to move in with them because OH is deployed for a year now.
My toddler is pretty descent. Tantrums usually in public but not so much at home.
We've been here for 3 weeks now. My mom is amazing and very understanding... but my grandmother is a HORRIBLE WITCH! I know... How could anyone talk so ill about their grandmother? If you knew her... you would feel the same way. Everyone really cringes in her presence and usually leaves in anger.
Anyway. Today my Toddler was crying for the first time in 3 weeks. We were doing great! The reason she was crying is because I made her come inside because it was time to eat.
My grandmother flipped out and wanted me to "Make that baby be shut up" needless to say the house is completely quite because she hates noise. She yells when my little one even laughs out loud. Then she started yelling at my poor toddler saying "That's enough now, you stop!!" Maybe I'm just on the offensive side. But no one yells at my baby but me. It more the way she said it, like she was going to hurt my child. And she hadn't even cried for that long. I didn't want to give in to my toddler then she would think it would be ok to act that way.
Anyway.. I got off topic.
My true rant is this...
My mom and grandmother don't wake up until 1100 A.M. and don't eat breakfast until 1200 P.M.
I was up cooking breakfast for my toddler at 0800 A.M. the time she has been eating breakfast for as long as she has been eating solids. So that morning my grandmother wakes up early and starts getting mad at me for feeding my child before everyone else. Saying she wants us to all eat as a family. (breakfast at 1200) I tried explaining to her that the rest of the family doesn't eat breakfast until it's already time for my toddler to eat lunch and take a nap. She then started yelling and being rude saying, "This is my house, people will eat when I say they eat". This pissed me off beyond belief. I ignored her and have continued our routine and ignoring her snide remarks.
Then today she was upset that I was feeding my child dinner at 500 P.M. because the rest of the family eats dinner at 900 P.M.! (The family doesn't eat lunch...) She wanted my 21 month old to stay up until 900 P.M. to eat dinner with everyone else.
I tried explaining to her that Alexa has been eating the same way for a year now. And she needs to go to sleep way before 900 P.M. (Alexa goes to bed at 6:30.
She told me I need to train my toddler to do what she wants her to do.
Needless to say I'm beyond furious. I'm not going to feed my child only two times a day and put her to bed past 900 P.M. because some grown woman wants to act like a child tantruming because people aren't following her "Rules".
And I'm not putting my child through more change than she has to. She has just moved across the world from Germany to the U.S. Her daddy has disappeared due to deployment, she left her nursery which she loved, and is going to have a baby sister in another month.
AHHHH!!! I'm sorry. I just needed to get this off of my chest because I feel I am going to go off on her. She has already told my mom she wants us out of her house. And my mom refuses to let such a thing happen, because my child and I would basically be living on the street. I guess I should be thankful that my child and I have a place to live... it's just soo frustrating. And I should be conciderate because she has alzeimers... but the most frustrating thing... is she forgets we've already had this conversation so It's repeated every single day.
My toddler is pretty descent. Tantrums usually in public but not so much at home.
We've been here for 3 weeks now. My mom is amazing and very understanding... but my grandmother is a HORRIBLE WITCH! I know... How could anyone talk so ill about their grandmother? If you knew her... you would feel the same way. Everyone really cringes in her presence and usually leaves in anger.
Anyway. Today my Toddler was crying for the first time in 3 weeks. We were doing great! The reason she was crying is because I made her come inside because it was time to eat.
My grandmother flipped out and wanted me to "Make that baby be shut up" needless to say the house is completely quite because she hates noise. She yells when my little one even laughs out loud. Then she started yelling at my poor toddler saying "That's enough now, you stop!!" Maybe I'm just on the offensive side. But no one yells at my baby but me. It more the way she said it, like she was going to hurt my child. And she hadn't even cried for that long. I didn't want to give in to my toddler then she would think it would be ok to act that way.
Anyway.. I got off topic.
My true rant is this...
My mom and grandmother don't wake up until 1100 A.M. and don't eat breakfast until 1200 P.M.
I was up cooking breakfast for my toddler at 0800 A.M. the time she has been eating breakfast for as long as she has been eating solids. So that morning my grandmother wakes up early and starts getting mad at me for feeding my child before everyone else. Saying she wants us to all eat as a family. (breakfast at 1200) I tried explaining to her that the rest of the family doesn't eat breakfast until it's already time for my toddler to eat lunch and take a nap. She then started yelling and being rude saying, "This is my house, people will eat when I say they eat". This pissed me off beyond belief. I ignored her and have continued our routine and ignoring her snide remarks.
Then today she was upset that I was feeding my child dinner at 500 P.M. because the rest of the family eats dinner at 900 P.M.! (The family doesn't eat lunch...) She wanted my 21 month old to stay up until 900 P.M. to eat dinner with everyone else.
I tried explaining to her that Alexa has been eating the same way for a year now. And she needs to go to sleep way before 900 P.M. (Alexa goes to bed at 6:30.She told me I need to train my toddler to do what she wants her to do.
Needless to say I'm beyond furious. I'm not going to feed my child only two times a day and put her to bed past 900 P.M. because some grown woman wants to act like a child tantruming because people aren't following her "Rules".
And I'm not putting my child through more change than she has to. She has just moved across the world from Germany to the U.S. Her daddy has disappeared due to deployment, she left her nursery which she loved, and is going to have a baby sister in another month.
AHHHH!!! I'm sorry. I just needed to get this off of my chest because I feel I am going to go off on her. She has already told my mom she wants us out of her house. And my mom refuses to let such a thing happen, because my child and I would basically be living on the street. I guess I should be thankful that my child and I have a place to live... it's just soo frustrating. And I should be conciderate because she has alzeimers... but the most frustrating thing... is she forgets we've already had this conversation so It's repeated every single day.
unfortuantely you can't really reason with a mentally sick old person 
