It's Just Not That Funny

[MrsLaw]

So an aunt jokingly (but obviously seriously) asked me the other day in front of friends and family..."so where's your baby?? I'm expecting triplets because I swear it's been 3 years now?!"

#MAJOR EXAGGERATION! 3 years? I haven't even been married that long.

I was so humiliated that all I could do was laugh it off until someone came to my rescue. I don't really understand what everyone's deep found interest is... and why am I being timed?

Sorry, I just had to rant. But if anyone has any phrases I could use to get out of awkward situations like this in future please let me know lol.

 

[Blueclass]

Just say your enjoying your time together and will have kids when your ready. Im out spoken so I'd say it's none of your bloody business and I don't appreciate your so called funny comments. X

 

[Donna88]

Wow how very rude.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

People have stopped asking me now, I think it's partly because they don't think we'll have another (my son from another relationship is now 8) and well I don't know why else. I think they've just got bored.


Also a few of our close friends are going through the same, either fairly recently married and fed up of getting asked (I haven't asked whether they're trying yet or not as I know it's none of my business) or have one and are fed up of people asking when the next is coming along.

 

[MrsLaw]

Thanks ladies, it can be quite frustrating... I guess I'll need to be more outspoken too.
I think once I have my first child people's interest will eventually die down and they would move onto the next couple

 

[Donna88]

It is frustrating and can also be quite hurtful, I think we just need to remember that people don't mean it this way. They just don't think. I suppose it's nice that people think you'd be a good mum and want to see it happen. Better than announcing a pregnancy and people cringing or asking why.... although knowing my luck that's what I'll get on top of the asking when lol.


Try not to let the comments get to you, think of some smart answers back if you like and always feel free to come on here to vent about it

 

[Loveandpeace]

Some people have no filter do they?! It can be quite hurtful.We are only married almost 2 years and experiencing similar comments!

 

[Pinkz]

Uh it's horrible. Sorry they have said that to you. I get it a lot too and you just think imagine if there was something wrong with me... I mean there could be for all I know. Only been TTC for one month. But what if a year down the line I go to the doctors and they say it's never going to happen... and for you to put your foot it in and say where's my baby... just rude!

Try not to let it get to you. I hope you've taken some comfort in the fact you're not the only person this happens to and we all get frustrated by it. Good luck on your journey. Hopefully you can shut them up soon

 

[Papermoon]

So an aunt jokingly (but obviously seriously) asked me the other day in front of friends and family..."so where's your baby?? I'm expecting triplets because I swear it's been 3 years now?!"

#MAJOR EXAGGERATION! 3 years? I haven't even been married that long.

I was so humiliated that all I could do was laugh it off until someone came to my rescue. I don't really understand what everyone's deep found interest is... and why am I being timed?

Sorry, I just had to rant. But if anyone has any phrases I could use to get out of awkward situations like this in future please let me know lol.

Oh my goodness that is rude! Why would anyone think that's an appropriate thing to say to someone? No that was not funny at all.

 

[MrsLaw]

It did hurt my feelings, and I guess a lot of people don't have filters or think before they ask. People could be having miscarriages or all sorts of problems and by asking it could be bringing up sad memories.

Well, at the time I gave my aunt the benefit of the doubt which Is why I just laughed it off and didn't reply. I know she didn't mean to be rude and she would be ecstatic to see a little baby.... but I definitely need to have some come backs next time so they get the hint that it wasn't the right time to ask.

good luck to you ladies TTC! And congrats papermoon

 

[Papermoon]

Thanks MrsLaw!

 

[Sparklegirl]

If it happens again, quote this back to her in the phrase "I feel like I have been pregnant and listening to your snidey comments for 3 years" see how she likes that!

 

[Blueclass]

Iv just had our first baby 7months ago and people ask me constantly when no 2 is coming.