I'm going mad

[nicki]

I just don't know what to do anymore & its really starting to get to me & is not helping cure my ongoing headaches. Jamie just will not stop crying & squealing when he's with me on my own.
If DH is here J isn't too bad & is always fine when other people are around but as soon as they leave thats it & no matter what I do he screams.

I long for bedtime so I can have some peace & quiet & get things done, as he is good there & will always go straight to sleep.

I feel like I never have anytime 'me' time & if I do manage the odd hour while DH is looking after him I feel guilty for being away, so I can't win. DH does what he wants to i.e play & watch football, he goes to work so has a break then, but I don't.
Even little things I can't do, I wanted to make a cake this afternoon but can't because of the constant squealing. I feel so bad, J has finally dropped off & thats only because in the end i've just let him cry himself to sleep, I wouldn't blame him if he grows up hating me.

When Jamie does go to sleep during the day I rush around trying to do the house work or get work done for my part time job, I never really relax. I guess this is all part of being a Mum, I just didn't expect it to be this hard. I've always wanted a large family & it upsets me that I don't think I would be able to cope with more than one, I feel so useless.

Sorry to bore you guys, I just had to vent my frustation, i'm fighting back the tears as I write this

 

[Jaidy]

Oh Nicki, first of all here is a big

I really do feel for you hun, I cant really offer a huge amount of advice because I am yet to have my little one, but I can imagine it is such a shock to the system and such a MASSIVE change in lifestyle, I often wonder how I will cope, you never know quite how its going to effect you.

Can you perhaps get someone to have J, even if its just for a couple of hours one afternoon a week? Just so you can have some YOU time and do the things you want to do like making that cake (sounds good!)

Im sure you are a fantastic mum and its obvious your little boy means the world to you but I do think you would benefit from just a little bit of time out, OH gets it and so should you. I know its harder what with you being mum, but all the more reason to have that time.

I think you should have a nice bath and a large bar of choccie tonight, its good therapy trust me.

Hope you feel better soon

 

[*saulino*]

Hi hun

being a mom is the best thing in the world but can also be one of the more stressful times you can have. I have days where Kiara is too much for me and i wonder why i want another one and if ill be able to deal with it but everything works out in the end.
Give it time im sure its a faze hes going through.
Try to make a point to do one thing relaxing a day might ease the stress a little.
Katrinaxxx

 

[Em78]

Oh hun i didnt realise it had got so bad.

is he over tired do you think?

i did have a battle for a while trying to get alex to sleep in the day as he was knackered but wouldnt sleep.

i did the same as you and left him to cry and just popped back in to reassure every 5 mins. he started to sleep much better after a few days of doing it. he now has between 1hr and 3 hrs a day. and is much happier for it.

he may also be at that age where he wants to be getting about but cant yet. alex went though a stage where he was really frustrated and whiney just before he started crawling.

Or.... teeth? or even a combination of things like this?

sorry if you have thought of these things but i know its easier to deal with once you realise what the problem is.

they are often worse with mum, i think they feel they dont have to be happy and smiley with us when htey feel bad cos they know we love them anyway

if there is ever anything i can do let me know.

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