Hi, you can call me Dawson 
I'm actually from Toronto, Canada. I'm not sure if this is ok, but it's oddly difficult to find this kind of forum for Canadians, and even North Americans. I was looking for a place where I can easily ask questions, read other experiences, but most sites I've found are more blog-based, with limited word-counts in their "ask a question" sections ... informative, but I'm also looking for this kind of forum ... Hopefully it's okay to be a member from across the pond...
I'm 27, I'm a mature student in university, and I also identify as queer, as in I don't particularly care to sleep with men (it's okay if you don't approve of this, but I ask that you kindly limit comments to your personal disapproval and not inflammatory insults...). That makes the "getting pregnant" part a bit trickier, and for a couple of years, despite knowing I wanted to have my own kids, I believed I'd just never be able to. I wouldn't have time, it would be too difficult, and no one would want kids with me since most women who date women in my area have no interest in being mothers. I am with someone now, and she does want children as much as I do.
Recently though, it struck me that I'm 27, and also struck me that, while getting pregnant into my 30s and 40s is biologically possible, I don't want to be raising toddlers then. More than just thinking it would be nice to be a mom, it's become something I think about almost obsessively when I'm ovulating and think about seriously when I'm not. My friends (who are essentially family) have agreed to help raise and support my kids as though they were aunts and uncles, I just haven't spoken to my father about this yet, and that's something that really worries me. Money will be an issue, as I am a student. My partner is working part-time after finishing her masters. I won't be finished my undergrad degree until my early 30s and I'm thinking seriously of doing my masters as well (something I'm happy to take time off before beginning).
Most of my questions and concerns here will therefore centre around getting pregnant while in university and possibly taking one year off, versus waiting until one's early to mid 30s (once I graduate); possibly questions about any other LGBT mothers experiences out there; and about how artificial insemination works, how one can do it without a clinic using a generous friend's specimens, the idea of co-parenting with a donor if they are someone you know, and other things like that.
It's something that's very much on my mind these days and while part of me wants it to happen this year or next year, there's the other part of me that knows that's a bad idea. But there's this last part that keeps saying, "If you wait until the perfect time, you'll never have a baby."
So. Anyway. Hello.
I'm actually from Toronto, Canada. I'm not sure if this is ok, but it's oddly difficult to find this kind of forum for Canadians, and even North Americans. I was looking for a place where I can easily ask questions, read other experiences, but most sites I've found are more blog-based, with limited word-counts in their "ask a question" sections ... informative, but I'm also looking for this kind of forum ... Hopefully it's okay to be a member from across the pond...
I'm 27, I'm a mature student in university, and I also identify as queer, as in I don't particularly care to sleep with men (it's okay if you don't approve of this, but I ask that you kindly limit comments to your personal disapproval and not inflammatory insults...). That makes the "getting pregnant" part a bit trickier, and for a couple of years, despite knowing I wanted to have my own kids, I believed I'd just never be able to. I wouldn't have time, it would be too difficult, and no one would want kids with me since most women who date women in my area have no interest in being mothers. I am with someone now, and she does want children as much as I do.
Recently though, it struck me that I'm 27, and also struck me that, while getting pregnant into my 30s and 40s is biologically possible, I don't want to be raising toddlers then. More than just thinking it would be nice to be a mom, it's become something I think about almost obsessively when I'm ovulating and think about seriously when I'm not. My friends (who are essentially family) have agreed to help raise and support my kids as though they were aunts and uncles, I just haven't spoken to my father about this yet, and that's something that really worries me. Money will be an issue, as I am a student. My partner is working part-time after finishing her masters. I won't be finished my undergrad degree until my early 30s and I'm thinking seriously of doing my masters as well (something I'm happy to take time off before beginning).
Most of my questions and concerns here will therefore centre around getting pregnant while in university and possibly taking one year off, versus waiting until one's early to mid 30s (once I graduate); possibly questions about any other LGBT mothers experiences out there; and about how artificial insemination works, how one can do it without a clinic using a generous friend's specimens, the idea of co-parenting with a donor if they are someone you know, and other things like that.
It's something that's very much on my mind these days and while part of me wants it to happen this year or next year, there's the other part of me that knows that's a bad idea. But there's this last part that keeps saying, "If you wait until the perfect time, you'll never have a baby."
So. Anyway. Hello.
