Have I left it too late?

[Holly mitchell]

I am 30 and due to get married next March when I will be 31. I am very worried that we have left it too late to have children. I am thinking about cancelling the wedding and starting to try now. I worry that I am too old and it will take longer than usual to conceive, or if there are problems it will take longer to figure this out.

Ideally I would like to have at least two if not three children and I worry that I won't be giving birth to my first until at least 32, which doesn't leave me long to have anymore. My fiancé is not at all worried but he is always a bit too positive about things.

Has anyone else left it this late to have children and been successful? I didn't get together with my fiancé until I was 28 and we have just bought a house, which I felt was necessary to do before we had children. With hindsight I think I wouldn't have waited this long.

Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.
Holly

 

[MrsS143]

No dont be daft youre not old at all
Theres a good few ladies on here having babies at 40+ and doing so successfully
Age seems to make no difference though as to whether youll catch quickly or not. Its down to comparability and luck it seems
Dont postpone your wedding
Dresses can always be altered!

 

[haylower]

Worrying for nothing Hun. Fertility doesn't start to decrease until 35 and if you are worried your doc will tell you that it takes a healthy normal couple 12cycles on average to conceive. You can pay privately for an ovarian scan to see your health otherwise enjoy your wedding and have a honeymoon baby!

 

[Glordag]

I've had three between 31 and 37, all conceived quickly and all with natural births. You'll be fine x

 

[Dotty_woman]

You've got plenty of time. Please don't worry. I had my daughter at 42 and only took a few months to conceive. xxx

 

[hlc75]

Hi, dont start worrying about this now, I had my first baby at 39, and was on my first attempt at ttc, so you have loads of time �� xx

 

[Aragon]

I was worried like you that I'd left it too late. I'm 34 and been with my partner for two years. We've just bought a house together and I got pregnant the month after I came off the pill. Things didn't work out but I'm trying again in January. So I'll be 35 when i give birth. Fx
My Dad's 3rd wife gave birth at 50 (yes you read that right).
There are pros and cons to having children early and late. But at 30/31 you should be fine!! Enjoy your wedding and do what feels right for you. Xx

 

[tinselcat]

Hi,

I didn't start actively TTC until age 32. Due to fertility issues with my partner and a miscarriage at 12 weeks it took a long time to get anywhere but I am 37 now and have a 1 year old (IVF).

A friend of mine got married age 40, tried a while, also went with IVF after a while of trying and she is now a mummy to twin baby girls, born when she was 42.

Another friend of mine was a surprise baby to her then-46-year-old mother!

xx

 

[Allthingsgirly]

Not too late at all I was 30 when I fell pregnant & 31 when I had my gorgeous baby boy. I had no problems during my pregnancy & breezed threw labour so age doesn't always work against. Not all pregnancies & labour are the same I know.

 

[Phoenix85]

I wouldn't worry either.

I did worry about it myself, as I had 2 children with my ex at 18 and 21 and then split up with their dad a few years later (2009), wasn't in a serious relationship for ages, then from 2014 to 2015 I was with the same guy for a year and wasn't 'careful' but nothing happened, so I started worrying about my fertility as I was nearly 30.
Then we stopped seeing each other and then I started seeing someone else a few months later and we only DTD once and I got pregnant!! I'm 30 now and the baby is due a month before I go 31.

Also, my grandma had her first baby at 30 and then had 6 more, her 7th baby was born when she was 43! lol.

So... I honestly don't think you need to worry about leaving it too late.

 

[Loula]

They say age is a factor but plenty of people have babies over 30.
I turn 30 this year and am dying to start ttc.
I move in with my boyfriend in the late summer but hoping he will let us try before that.

 

[Thailand1]

I feel the same. I have been with my partner for 4 years we have lived together for 3yrs & only moved into our house 3 months ago. We always said wanted to bring children up in a house, I'm now 34 only been TTC a few months.

After joining this forum I have read so many posts about age issues etc it will happen when it happens unfortunately it's out of our control. I'm going to be laid back about and relax

 

[Little_Pip]

I don't think 30 is very old at all (I'm 30 too). Almost everyone I know became first time parents in their 30s. My mum got me when she was in her 40s.

 

[Allthingsgirly]

I wouldn't worry either.

I did worry about it myself, as I had 2 children with my ex at 18 and 21 and then split up with their dad a few years later (2009), wasn't in a serious relationship for ages, then from 2014 to 2015 I was with the same guy for a year and wasn't 'careful' but nothing happened, so I started worrying about my fertility as I was nearly 30.
Then we stopped seeing each other and then I started seeing someone else a few months later and we only DTD once and I got pregnant!! I'm 30 now and the baby is due a month before I go 31.

Also, my grandma had her first baby at 30 and then had 6 more, her 7th baby was born when she was 43! lol.

So... I honestly don't think you need to worry about leaving it too late.

That is very similar to me dtd once got pregnant @ 30 & my son was born the month after I turned 31 spooky!!

I too also worried about my fertility so I am so so blessed I've my gorgeous boy.

Really hoping I'll be like your grandma though I've got the baby bug so badly I was ready for number 2 straight after I had had him lol. It's the most amazing experience that I yearn for again & again & again lol.

 

[SoObsessed]

Not too late at all. I had my first the week before my 34th birthday. I'm now WTT with my second. I'll be 38 this year!! I worried about my age the first time round thinking it would take me longer to conceive but fell pregnant our first month of trying. I'm even more apprehensive this time as its a new partner.

 

[Aimee84]

Hiya I had my first last year at 31 after falling pregnant on the pill! We are getting married next year and ttc2 after that. I ideally want my second before 35 just so there is a close ish ahe gap. But no problems being in early 30's at all. A few of my friends had their first at 36 and 37 last year both with straight forward pregnancies and births with beautiful, healthy babies

 

[BlondeP]

I think it all just varies on you as a person and your body! ❤️