Grumpy about 'helpful' advice

[Radleycat]

Is it just me, or does anyone else who is suffering from quite bad sickness and nausea want to punch people in the face when they say 'have you tried ginger?'. Of course I've f@&%ING tried ginger along with every other rubbish, non effective home remedy. Now leave me with my anti emmetics and jog on

AHHH. Feel so much better after the rant!

 

[Vintageling]

Sending massive hugs I know it's people trying to be helpful but I get this all the time but not for pregnancy related stuff because I'm not pregnant but for my fibromyalgia I fell like shaking people sometimes. The only people I don't mind getting these snippets from are other fibro sufferers but other then that I do get grumpy and alot of the time I do turn round and say well yes I got diagnosed like 5 years ago so I've pretty much got the best treatment plan for me at this point I try and be polite but it does get on my wick even though people are just trying to be kind and helpful it is annoying

 

[Radleycat]

See, I don't know a lot about your condition so I wouldn't dream of offering advice on it. People drive me mad.
Hope you are well btw x

 

[Vintageling]

See, I don't know a lot about your condition so I wouldn't dream of offering advice on it. People drive me mad.
Hope you are well btw x

Yea but people still do think the mention when they ask what it is of the pain and fatuige I think that makes them think oh I can help but most of the time it's advice for normal pain which doesn't work I don't even bother listing the other 200 plus symptoms lol just the ones that make the most impact when people really ask. I'm ok got a bug at the moment though so snuggled up in bed because I haven't got time to be sick this weekend it's all about last min Christmas shopping lol. Hope your ok hun other then morning sickness xx

 

[night owl]

I had terrible sickness radleycat all day everyday from about 7 weeks to about 18 weeks, still have sickness now at 24 weeks but it’s not as bad, it’s bearable now, and yes I got totally fed up with people asking me if I’d tried ginger, arghh!! I had one person just telling me again and again every day to keep a food diary and see what triggers it, After about the 20th time of me explaining I could barely eat and all food including even water made me ill I just felt like screaming! I found it particularly annoying when it come from women who had been pregnant before but didn’t get sickness, I felt like they were thinking all this sickness business wasn’t really that bad as it wasn’t bad for them, I felt like they understood less then anyone else, I know it’s probably irrational but that’s just how I felt, also got annoyed with people asking me every day if I was better yet, I just felt miserable and grumpy saying no not really every time, even though I know they were just being nice, so to cut a long story short lol I know how you feel and yes I got fed up of it too x

 

[Aurora_J]

I'm still being sick at 19 weeks and when people find out they start giving me advice every bloody time. one person kept on and on about all the different remedys and wouldn't listen to me no matter how many times i said the tablets ftkm my doc work so i'm happy with those.
Do people homestly think i have spent months being sick and didn't try a single thing to help!!

 

[Marvellous_mum]

I had this with my 2nd. I had horrific acid reflux. I was on tablets as everything gave me horrific heartburn. Apparently it can't be that bad.... I'm guessing they wasn't there when I woke in the night choking as I had reflux in my sleep and I was on my back.
Ofc they knew what would cure it..... another reason we aren't telling many ppl this time. Lol.
Just tell them to duck off and blame the hormones haha

 

[Radleycat]

I'm glad it's not only me who has found this!
We've got friend coming today and we will be telling them. They are really old friends of my DH and they are lovely. BUT as lovely as she is, his wife is never wrong about anything in her eyes plus they have a daughter so she knows everything about being pregnant and being a parent. This includes putting stuff on fb about vaccines and other stuff that I strongly disagree with. I think I'm going to find it very difficult being lectured in my own house this afternoon.
Our pregnancies aren't the same as I'm having two so take that you goddam know it all!

 

[WinterWolf]

lol, yes. It was crackers for me. “Ooh eat dry crackers, that’ll cure it” ... hearing that wore a bit thin when I was sick for 4 months! Crackers do nothing dammit. Just remember they’re trying to help... even though they’re no help at all haha

 

[MoominGirl]

Oh the 'helpful' advice!! People mean well but it so often has the opposite effect. I will just warn you - expect it all the way until baby arrives and to continue after!!

I was very lucky with how well I was in pregnancy but I wouldn't dream of downplaying someone else's symptoms as pregnancy is so different for everyone.

Although I wasn't sick in pregnancy, I'm horrendously car and bus sick. I know it's not even slightly the same as constant sickness in pregnancy but I can absolutely relate to being asked for the millionth time have you tried ginger!! Yes of course I've tried ginger and no it doesn't work for that either!!!

 

[Abi88]

It seems like the things that help vary so much from person to person and even day to day that there is no point in giving advice. I'm so bloody sick of ginger it makes me feel sick when I drink it now. I have found ribena helps but I'll probably get sick of that soon enough. There's no point recommending anything because it's so variable. I can't imagine eating plain crackers but would kill for a bag of monster munch. That probably sounds awful to others and turns their stomachs!

 

[Sunray]

I have this at the moment. I am almost 12 weeks and have been pretty much bed based since 6 weeks. I have zero energy, am asleep more than I am awake, and have felt continuously nauseous.

Friends who have been pregnant seem to think they know - they comment how it was a struggle and what worked for them etc, how its normal and a good sign. But I just feel like screaming at them that they have no idea, because I remember seeing them! They were still going out, going to work, still functioning! Its on a different scale - as if all my muscles have vanished, but they don't seem able to comprehend that level of tiredness! Even my own mum doesn't really get it. I don't tell anyone now, unless they ask how I am, and I start every response with "I've tried everything, but ... "

I am forever thankful that I have only been sick a handful of times and haven't experienced the next stage of continual vomiting. I am also thanking my stars that I have been on an unrelated 3mth break out of work, as I would not have been able to continue. As things are I am worried about going back next week and if I am going to be able to manage it.

Yes, I know I need to eat. I know I need to get a healthy, balanced diet. I know I need vegetables. I know I need to keep my fluids up. Right now all vegetables are like brussel sprouts to me

All I can even contemplate is the good old pickled onion monster munch. So that's what's going in!