Funerals

[little*red]

hey ladies
just wanted to know your opinions on this.
ok yesterday my mum and sister came to my house to tell me that my auntie had died. She was only 42 but we kind of knew it was coming as she had HIV and hadnt been the same since her OH died this time last year.
Anyway my mum told me the funeral is next monday. i have a hospital appointment in the morning for my anti-d and bloods. they wont clash as the hospital is in the morning and the funeral is at 2, but my problem is last time i got the anti-d and bloods taken i felt really awful after it for most of the day (i fainted in my MIL house ). i wasnt close to my auntie but I still really want to go to the funeral, you know to pay my respects and that, and also be there for my mum.
My hubby doesnt think it's such a good idea though, and my mum and other family members said if i don't feel up to it then i dont have to come, they dont want anything happening to me as i'll be 35 weeks by then.
I obviously wouldnt go if im feeling rotten beforehand, but what if im fine and then decide to go but feel rotten during it?
Im so confused .
What would you do?

 

[mummykay]

Go if u feel ok after the tests but im sure they would understand if u had to leave the funeral early cos ur heavily pregnant and cant b expected to stay there the whole time?
See how u feel after the hospital apptment!

 

[Emmylou]

Sorry to hear about your auntie

Re: The funeral - I would leave it and see how you feel on the day babe, get ready for it in yourself so that if you do go you are prepared, but play it by ear.

You may find that with your second anti-d you don't feel as bad afterwards? I personally would make the decision at the last minute - as you say you would like to pay your respects and be there for your mom, but not unless you are feeling up to it, so make the decision on the day, if you are not feeling up to it, then at least you are in the right frame of mind when you make the decision.

 

[Nicola]

Take is as it comes, if you feel fine plan on going, if you start to feel worse think about staying home instead. Your heavily pregnant, everyone will completely understand and you can always go and pay your respects at a later date. I'm sure the fact that your thinking of her is more than enough and like Emmy said you might not feel as bad after your second shot as it's already in your system if that makes sense! xx

 

[Sarah&Braydon]

id go for test and see how u feel afterwards hun
by the way sorry bout ur aunt hun

 

[Dee1985]

can you not change the tests for the day after?

 

[little*red]

wish i could dionne but they only do the injections at the hospital every monday, and by next monday i'll already be a week over due for it.

 

[mum2A&L]

if it was me, id have the injections and see how i feel. im sure your aunt would understand. is she having a plaque? you could always go at a later date with some flowers and pay your respects.

 

[neeko_1]

could you not tell the hospital that you have to go to a funeral, and they could arrange a different date for you to get your bloods done??