FOR CO-SLEEPERS

[1sttimemum]

Whenever i have mentioned that Caitlyn comes in with us after 4am, i always get "oh your making a rod for your own back" or "tut tut" or something along similar lines.

What im wanting to no is how do you deal with this.

Caitlyn wakes herself at 4am being whingy, if we fetch her in with us, she will sleep now til 7.30am.

She has always been a clingy baby anyway, me and my OH are happy for her to be in with us.

 

[Suzie and Faith]

ignore other people - i'm sure if you were doing it differently someone else would have something to say! The most important thing is that you're happy with it - and that you're getting some sleep due to it!

I don't think you can spoil babies really, and she still can and will sleep in her crib so you're fine!

 

[Xena]

My dad tells me all the time that I spoil Alex by picking him up when he cries for me and by co-sleeping.

I sort of nod and say 'yes you're probably right' then I go ahead and ignore him and do it anyway lol

 

[Fluffy Bunny]

Don't listen to them, do what you want hun. A happy mummy = happy baby.

Evie did a bit of co-sleeping a bit of cot sleeping (like you, normally in bed with us very early morning) until she went into her own room around 6/7months. We had no problems stopping the co-sleeping when she went in her own room, she still comes in with us but very rarely and only when she is under the weather from teething or jabs and she just wants a mummy cuddle

 

[1sttimemum]

Awwwww i carried caitlyn in a tomy baby carrier today and it felt soooo good, i felt so proud to be carrying her, altho she did slightly hurt my back but i guess i just need to get used to it.

I had sooooo many comments about how cool and cute she looked

 

[LisaJ1986]

I put Angel in bed with me Early in the morning. Not too early as i'm quite a rough sleeper and think i'll throw her out of bed. My HV said i cannot spoil her. If she cries it's for a reason.
The only thing that bothers me is her turning out like my cousin. She screams bloody murder when left for literally a second. You can't have a bath or do your hair as she knows and will scream the place down. Even if she's in the same room and with her toys. She's 1 now.

 

[maria1976]

I wouldnt listen TBH Ruby is till in the bed with me although she is now in the cot from 7 til i go to bed!! I love it too and if she is happy then im happy

Enjoy it!

 

[charlie84]

I bring Calleigh into bed with me when she wakes in the morning. I dont think i am making a rod for my own back. I love having a cuddle first thing in the morn and then we go back to sleep

 

[NIE]

We co-slept right from the start and still do. We had a few nights where he slept on his own but it didn't last.

I don't listen to other people's comments on what they think is right for my baby. I used to and I am now fed up with feeling that I need to explain my reasons for doing it. All I say is that we are/he is doing really well and leave it at that.

I am a happy mummy with a very contented, bright, affectionate, sociable little boy so I must be doing something right.

 

[Squiglet]

ahaha I get that all the time ...your making a rod for your own back / you not got off to a good start /you have spoiled her thats your problem ...care what!! ..she will get there one day ...Im making the most of the mummy time she does want one day she wont lol.

yes seeds going to be sharing your bed when she starts uni

These years are so short (I mean so very short ) just enjoy them as you see fit...

 

[-Kelly-]

I don't co sleep (we have a couple of times but he sleeps much better in his cot) but I get the same kind of comments about wearing him all the time - the way I see it, I won't be carrying him to his first class at high school, or have him sleeping in my bed when he's 20 so who cares!

People are always telling me he's going to become too dependent, but I think that the more secure he feels and the better a bond we have, the more confidence he will have to explore his environment because he knows he has that secure base to come back to if he needs it. Creating a close bond (whether that's through co-sleeping, carrying instead of using a pram, or whatever you choose to do) is far less likely to lead to a 'clingy' child because they trust that the world is a good place where their needs are met and mummy is there. I don't believe that you can spoil with positive attention or love.

They are little for such a short time, I want to make the most of it - the day he gets too cool for a snuggle with mummy is going to break my heart!

 

[Urchin]

I have co slept with all of mine, up till they were about 9 months. I never take any notice of what anyone else says, my kids are confident, not clingy at all.

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Ignore them, whats right for others isnt for others -does that make sense?

The baby years go too quick so hold onto them - my dd is nearly a year old now and it chokes me saying it as its gone too quick make the most of it!

 

[beanie]

my toddler who was breastfed on demand, picked up continously, worn in a sling, and who co-slept util she decided that she wantedto stay in her bed woke up last night and came into my bed at 11.35pm. Cally woke and I fed her, and my OH came into the bed. Seren decided she didn't have enough room, got out of my bed, walked into her room ad switched on her lullaby CD and that was the last I saw of her till morning If my daiughter is clingy then I hope all my children turn out like her - people ned to read the research which shows if you do what you are doing your childre are more likely to be secure and confident.

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Collier slept with us on several occations at the start after he woke for a feed in the night hed not settle back in the basket so we put him in the bed with us and hed fall asleep happy we loved it to flt a snuggly and sweet to listen to ur baby breathing and making cute noises an dCollier seemed to benifit from the closeness

colliers now happy to stay in the basket now
but you carry on doing what your doing hun Catilyns happy your happy Daz is happy everyone is happy so those annoying people who stick there noses in and make stupid comments
ignore them Caitlyns your baby not theres you do what is best for you and your daughter


sarah

 

[maybebaby]

DS still comes in with me in the mornings sometimes, if he wakes after 4.30ish it's not worth the battle to get him back to sleep in his own bed! He's no more clingy than a normal 15 month old, and sleeps very well now in his own cot.

People always feel the need to comment on the way you raise your child, if you were doing it differently they'd still have something to say. Do what feels right to you and ignore everyone else.

 

[DebbieM]

I say sod what other people think. I was sick and tired of comments being made when Luke was only 3 weeks old because he was sleeping on either Matt and I and wouldn't sleep in his crib or moses basket etc.

Do what YOU think is right. It'll all work out in the end and a happy Mummy and Daddy who actually get some sleep makes a happier baby in my eyes!!!

 

[saffydreamer]

Ava sleeps in her cot from 7pm until 3am when shes usually wide awake
rather than try to settle her i put her in bed with me and she goes straight to sleep,
shes very happy and confident, so many people roll their eyes at me but tbh i dont give a toss, My baby my rules

 

[Tillytots]

I get lots of bad comments all the time because James sleeps in my bed. I dont give a monkeys, when you open your eyes and your baby is laying there smiling at you who cares?!

 

[mamichuli]

If I were you I would be telling 'em all where to go, and that's a fact! How dare they tell you what is right and wrong for your lil one?
Everyone does parenting their own way and I am with beanie. The most confident children are the ones that get a lot of affection and cuddles.

My lil one doesnt sleep with me, she likes her space! (she likes to sprawl and for someone who is only 70ish cms long, she takes up a fair share of space!!!) but I do pick her up and cuddle her a lot, and when she cries she gets a lot of attention...she doesnt cry much tho, and she loves to potter around playing with her toys without me on top of her...wonder why? she likes to play for a while and then crawl over for a hug and to show me something, or she calls me to go and play with her...works well for both of us.

do it your way - your way is always best for you and yours!!!

Lisa