Feeling regretful..

[katie05]

Evening girls, since my scan early last week i have really regretted not finding out the sex. I just wanted to know this time to experience what its like to know. Thing is hubby never so i thought it was fairer not to.
There is the option to find out (private scan) but i will be on my own and that just seems alittle sad. (as i couldnt tell anyone either) Im over the moon all is well with my lil bean so please dont think im being awful. Its just been on my mind. bloody hormones

Would you find out or wait now?

 

[dannii87]

You say "this time" so you have experienced going team green before? Who's choice was it to stay team green last time?

If that's the case and it was BOTH of your decisions last time, then I would seriously discuss it with your OH and just say that you really would like to find out and experience it WITH him...

I hope to find out the sex at my 20 week scan (this is my 1st) so I'm neutral on the team green vote...

Maybe it will pass though and you will be pleased you got through the regret and happy that you managed to remain team green?!

It's a tricky one because you can't go back on the decision if you find out... xx

 

[katie05]

Thanks danni. We both never wanted to last time so it was never a problem. My post seems so silly when a read it back and over nothing but i just wish id ask'd them to write it on a piece of paper. Its not about paying for a scan now that bothers me, its going on my own. He wont budge and come but to be honest itd be selfish of me to make him.x

 

[nickilubs]

Awww I really feel for you. I will be getting them to write it down for me so I can see it when I want too. What about taking a close friend or family member with you if your OH doesn't want to?xx

 

[NickyB]

It's kind of selfish for him to ask you not to find out if you do want to though. I'd find out but then I can't wait to already, maybe that's why I think that?

 

[dannii87]

It's kind of selfish for him to ask you not to find out if you do want to though. I'd find out but then I can't wait to already, maybe that's why I think that?

I agree! I've just had a thought, you're going through it all with the labour, carrying baby etc etc... You deserve the final decision this time around!! Maybe on your next go team green but if you want to know, do it!! xx

 

[lisa282]

I say if you want to find out then do it! I'm going for a private gender scan myself this week and OH doesn't want to come so I'm taking my mum instead! I'm sure he'll find out what it is when he sees the pink/blue clothes I start buying, but for now he is not bothered. That's fair enough with me, but he hasn't been awkward about the fact that I want to know, so I just decided to do it myself. He's fine about my decision and I will try to keep it to myself if he doesn't want to know, but I'm pretty sure he will ask me as soon as I get home after the scan.

 

[Suzie and Faith]

I think you should fight your cause! If you really want to know then what is the harm in that!?!
I'm REALLY impatient and i knew instantly i had to find out as soon as i could, it didn't cross my mind that my OH might not want to know - it's possibly mean of me but i saw it as my decision! Luckily he wanted to know too so we didn't have to worry there.

Try talking to your OH again, and if not then go and find out for yourself, take a friend with you!

(and enjoy it when your OH nags you to tell him, lol) xxxx