Feeling fed up and useless (sorry if similar have posted)

[LynneK]

Hey girls,

Just looking for a bit of support and a shoulder to cry on tonight. One of my best friends is due to give birth in a few weeks and another called today to tell me she has found out she's pregnant (has been trying the exact same amount of time we have). I'm just so distraught that it's now been 19months and I've not had so much as a hint of a BFP. My bestie has had implantation bleeding for a couple of months jan and feb this year so at least she's getting to that stage - I've never even had that.

I just feel useless and wonder if it will ever happen for us. I have never wanted anything more than to be a mum and id trade anything for it.

I'm just heartbroken

 

[Gabrysia]

Hi Lynne, we all go through bad stages. Will never forget last Xmas lying down on bed and tears were just rolling on my cheeks when my sister in law announced that they're expecting (I knew it was after 1 month of "relax" and it will happen) after that two months later 2nd sister in law got pg by accident! How fair is that? I really don't know, but that's how it's. It's now 2.5 yrs since we've started and never had bfp. My recent bloods are not god either but ive picked up myself and get on with it, you will too. It helped me to set up plan what I will be doing with next cycle ie diet (not waiting till AF doing small changes already) gentle excersise, vit for me and hubby, trying to sort out with docs why it's not happening and so on. It helps me feeling proactive and in control. We all have our ways of dealing with stress, I love to go to my garden and do some proper digging hope you will find Sth to pull you out from this horrible feeling.

for all of us !

 

[gemmainthesun]

Hey LYNNE, What youre feeling is very normal and I think everyone who has been ttc for a long time gets upset when others announce their pregnancy. It dioesnt help much but it is normal xx

 

[LynneK]

Thanks girls - I appreciate the support, I guess I just feel like after 19months something should have happened - fingers crossed this month were doing it all right! X

 

[Dee28]

Hey Lynne, we're onto month 20 and today I've been a teary emotional wreck, sometimes it just gets too much. Tomorrow will be better, it has to be. Big hugs xxx

 

[LynneK]

What r u doing diff if anything this month dee? Xx

 

[Dee28]

I did toy with taking soy but I've decided not too, I'm just going to eat well, not let wine get the better of me and hope that my recent lap has done some good. Hubby is away a lot in the run up to ov so not sure how much bding we'll get in, should be ok for the crucial days. After this month we're trying iui so we've got that to look forward to and I don't want to interfere with my cycle ahead of that. What about you? Xxx

 

[Daisy2011]

big hugs ladies, it totally sucks to have to go through so much hurt and emptyness, we'd all have toddlers by now if life was fair, but it isnt. it sucks. so big hugs and just keep on trying and holding it together.
its a great joy when an lttcer makes it, come on ladies.

love daisy

 

[LynneK]

We r still just in the trying stages as we haven't been to docs for fertility in particular. I've had day 21 bloods taken which were ok - said I had 43mui I think which is concurrent with ovulation. Hubby needs to go to docs for SA I think, I'm just so anxious . I hope that everything is ok.

Were getting married in June so will just try until then and after that will go to the docs me thinks! In the meantime I'll just keep remaining positive and try as best as we can! X

 

[Lulu1983]

Stay hopeful. We're at 20 months of trying and in various testing queues with the NHS. I've found that the worst part is to think that you might be pregnant, especially when you are a few days late. Now I try not to think about it. I just assume I am not and am trying to stay patient and hopeful. (With a wedding to plan, you've got plenty to be thinking about to distract you.) I hope you have an amazing wedding day.

 

[Dee28]

Lovely to have your wedding to distract you, sounds a good plan to enjoy that and start the gp ball rolling afterwards. Hopefully in the meantime you'll get a hobby moon bfp xx