feeling down

[Zoe20]

hi all,

since last week ive been feeling really really down, to the point where im in tears all the time. i should be happy and smiling and enjoying my pregnancy, but im not, i know it sound stupid (and please dont judge me) but some days i wish i wasnt. ive been putting on a front for everyone, but now i cant do it. I know its normal to be emotional but this isnt i dont think. im struggling with everything, i feel like im taking 1 step forward and 20 back. I dont know what to do any more.

Sorry for being a moaning mini
x

 

[SunnySue]

Oh hun you are not a moany mini
So sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I know feelings like this are heightened during pregnancy but if you feel like this isn't the problem maybe you should talk to your GP ad see if there is anything they can do for you. They may be able to offer you some counselling??
I really hope you feel better about things soon hun

 

[dusanlusanage]

Hi,

My hormones are getting the better of me in terms of this also. I'm 24 weeks now, and probably started to notice hormones about 4 or 5 weeks ago. I just can't seem to cope with things that usually don't bother me, so don't feel alone in this. I feel like I'm moaning all the time and feeling a bit sorry for myself, when really I'm pregnant and it's what I've always wanted. You can't help how u feel, but I'd mention it to your GP or midwife. Don't be too hard on yourself, these bloody hormones are awful!!!
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[PeaPod]

Sorry to hear you're feeling low. Sadly how we think we should feel and how we do seem to be worlds apart at times and it is so hard to know whether it is 'just hormonal' or something more. There is nothing wrong with just being honest about how you feel, even if you just write it down, letting it out helps. I'm sure that many pregnant ladies go through moments of thinking ' what am I doing/ Do I really want this?'. I know I have!
I felt a lot like this at about 14 weeks so I asked my MW if there were any counseling services available, which luckily in my area there are. I have found having that phone number on standby has helped loads and so far I've not needed to call but by accepting how I felt it made it easier to work through.
You'll get through it and you always have us lot to offloads when needed.XX

 

[Flips4]

Don't feel like you're a moaning mini!!! You are perfectly normal sweetie, hormones are horrible things, you're life is changing dramatically and very quickly even if you have planned a cchold for a long time reality can be a bitch! And there is lots of press about post natal depression but antenatal depression exists too! Speak to your midwife I'm sure she will reassure you and can offer some ideas for help etc xxx

 

[Zoe20]

dont get me wrong i love my lil bean to bits already telling them i love him/her talking to bean, its just everything else from the morning sickness which is controlled be tablets that either work or dont, the pain i get on a night in my hip and leg that causes me to be unable to sleep and of course when you cant sleep your ratty and moody which i seem to take out on the closest person to me at the time. when i had my first it was a smooth pregnancy no problems till i was 39wks and developed a rash and the dr's thought it was meningitis, but no 2 pregnancies are the same i know. Ive been and told my mum how im feeling this evening, she;s said the same as most of you ladies and we are booking an appoiintment in the morning to see the gp. i just hate the way i feel.

Thanks ladies

x

 

[Flips4]

Good luck sweetie... I'm sure you will soon be feeling better again, your right no two pregnancies are the same (and feeling crap is no fun no matter how much you love your little bean) and you and your little family will be just fine! Well done you for talking to your mum and making that GP appointment. Loads of hugs xxx

 

[babyem]

I'm sorry you're feeling so low

Like the others have said, either make an appointment with your GP or talk to your MW who will be able to refer you on to a MW from the Mental Health team. I personally would go with the Mental Health team, as they are still MW so may have a better understanding how you can improve things specifically pregnancy related. There is no shame in admitting you need someone to talk to or a bit of support!! As long as you and LO are healthy and safe both physically and emotionally then that is all that matters! x

 

[Zoe20]

Well ive been to my gp this morning, over the pain im in and how im feeling. after what felt like him pulling my hips off he said oh its spd. he give me a number to ring, when i mentioned how i was feeling he just said its down to just having a rough pregnancy and who wouldnt feel down you, with bad morning sickness, dizzy spells and passing out, pain and not sleeping. anywho rung the number he gave me only to find i need to be referred by my MW. rung MW only to find her phone off (again) rung one of the other numbers for MW and spoke to a nice lady that has put my referral through but couldnt give a flying cat about how down im feeling, she just said well its normal for your moods to be everywhere. just feels like im banging my head against a brick wall. my gp also gave me another sicknote (gunna earn the nickname sicknote soon) this ones for 2wks, lucky enough my office is understanding. just feels like im running round in circles.

Thank you ladies for your support. x