Feel Horrible :(

[abcd1234]

I feel so awful but i have to get it out, right now i really dont want to be pregnant!! It's not that i dont want my baby i just dont want to be pregnant anymore, everything feels so different and theres so much shit going on with everything. I cant just walk away from someone who is essentially a total dickhead because i'm haivng his baby and i work with him, and now i have to try and help him sort his shit when half the time he doesnt even seem to remember i'm pregnant he never mentions baby and i cant help feel this is just not a situation i want to bring my baby in to.
I dont want people to think i dont love or want my baby, i do, i just dont want to be pregnant atm.
I feel like utter shit!

 

[Sandi4Paul]

first for you:

I'm not quite in your situation (TBH my DH and i are closer now thatn we have been for some tiem), but asometimes i don't want to be preggers either. it wuld be nice not to have all the hormones, be able to think clearly, to not be as emotional as i am and be abnle to take drugs for this bloody cold i have had for the last week!!!

Sandi

I don't think that makes us bad people.

 

[dannii87]

Hi babe, boy I really feel for you

You're situation isn't ideal, I really do understand how you feel. I haven't had ONE text or phone call or anything from my baby's dad, he really doesn't care that I am pregnant but my view on it now is that all these things I'm experiencing, movement, worries, scans etc - I have to do it on my own and if he can't be there for me, then he can't be there for baby (he doesn't want to lol so it's not my decision).

Have you tried talking to him? Do you HAVE to help him with his crap?

Sorry you're feeling down... Pregnancy isn't easy at the best of times so I really do understand

 

[abcd1234]

i tried talking to him a few days ago, he was too tired to too concerned with himself for it all, i told him yesterday i was fed up of being pregnant, got the reply of why's that and then nothing more!
All his problems are self inflicted, some girl in work has been tryign to stir things between us telling him i've been bitching about him (not true) and that i told her loads of his secrets.
Its wouldnt be a problem if he wasnt a compulsive theif, and now he's worrying about getting caught and how things would be shit if he was. I wouldnt be as worried but i know he's had suicidal thoughts before and she's so horrible this would send him there again.
Basically he's just totally messed up in the head and all his issues seem to come before me or the baby. I made a post a few weeks ago about his constant texting of other girls and his excuse being he wanted to be wanted.
I really do wish i could just walk away and never have to see him again, but i cant leave work cos i need the money and maternity, and i cant ignore him cos it's not fair to take his child away.
He hasnt spoken to me at all today (he only does this when he's doen soemthign worng) and it took him 2 hours to get home yesterday, i know i'm naturally suspicious of him, but i cant help feel he might have been with that girl after work, as he mentioned being nice to her to keep her mouth shut, and i know she's basically in love with him, and would never tell on him as she'd ruin her chances lol

 

[dannii87]

Oh hun Well you sound like you've got your head screwed on and your mindset is in the right place.

I don't want to suggest anything but do you think you'll stay together?

You're very good though, you're doing everything right to avoid arguments, just don't be a doormat sweetie xxx

 

[lfc_sarah]

I really dont know how you feel, but i get good and bad days

Your babys dad seems to be a bit of a pig if you dont mind me saying.
Try and sit down and talk to him again.
Explain how you feel and how hes making you feel.
If it doesnt change anything maybe it better that you arent together as a couple.
Arrange access for when the babys born ect.

Hope it sorts itself out soon xxx

 

[MissSara]

I'm sorry to hear you going through this at this time, but you cant turn a blind eye of whats happening right in front of your nose.

He needs to start treating you with a little more respect and not like an idiot, he knows that he has you right where he wants you because of the way you feel and you have to stay at work, and don't want to take his child away from him.
You need to lay it down thick with him and explain that if things arn't going to get better and hes not going to change then you have no option but to get on with your life without thinking about him first.

You and bubs come first hun, i learnt that the hard way with my sons sperm donor.

 

[cinnamon81]

Sorry things aren't going great just now. Your man sounds really selfish - do you think things will change once the baby's here? I'd be concerned about someone so insecure being a daddy, think you need to talk to him and get him to sort himself out. I'd also be inclined to ask him for a bit of space, see if you pushing him away is enough to make him realise how much he wants to be with you, and maybe change his behaviour?

And remember that it isn't always a bad thing bringing up a child on your own, I don't know your man's good points but from what you've said he sounds like a spoilt child. This is the time in YOUR life to be selfish - you need to think about what you and baby are going to gain from this relationship - right now it seems like you put all the effort in and get nothing but stress back!

It sounds like your relationship is the thing thats causing all the problems, and people at work stirring things. When do you start maternity leave? It can't be good stressing like this, can you start your maternity leave at 29 weeks instead of later?

Didn't mean to push my views on you, hope you can get things sorted for the best

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,

Sorry to hear of your troubles with your bloke - he does sound like a bit of a nightmare!!!

Not sure I'm the best person to give relationship advice (ha ha) but I'd suggest having a really serious talk with this guy about what you both want etc. If he continues his self-centred, irresponsible behaviour it may be best to discontinue the relationship between the two of you and work out an access arrangement. You and your baby deserve better!

Hope you can work things out very soon.