Fear of another miscarriage

[Becky]

Hello,
Well I'm pregnant after having a missed miscarriage last year and had been ok until today when I started to worry that I don't think I've been feeling sick for a few days.

The thing is I know that in the past I've had days where I've felt ok and then the sickness has come back, and I still have other symptoms (emotional, tired) and now I've started to worry I'm feeling that worrying kind of sick.

I'm seeing my midwife on Wednesday anyway and I know that one or two days of no sickness is no indication but its just that now I've started to think about it I'm worried.

How have you all dealt with the fear/not knowing/ just having to wait and see and hope for the best? I'm supposed to be having an early scan at about 8/9 weeks but I think I'll drive myself mad in the mean-time.

 

[tuck]

Hi
what you are feeling emotionally is perfectly understandable, when I fell pregnant after my miscarriage after the initial excitement i then spent the next 8 months worrying, especially at first as I (luckily) did not suffer from any sickness. I used to get really uptight every month just before my check up and then relax for all of about 1 week!!!!

I hope that all is ok and try not to worry and enjoy your pregnancy

 

[cinnamon81]

Just want to say I know exactly how you feel, I've been a worrier all the way through this pregnancy, having suffered a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks last time.
Every day I didn't feel sick, I worried. The day before both my scans I was paranoid, and every twinge or stretching pain had me convinced the same would happen again Even at this stage I worry that my bump isn't big enough, or the movements aren't strong enough and something is going to go wrong... but having been through loss its hard to get over it.

All I can say is I'm 29 weeks this time round, hope that gives you some hope for this pregnancy hope all goes well at your scan and you have a healthy 9 months x

 

[Becky]

Thanks a lot girls, I do feel a lot better today, my worry I think came as a shock all of a sudden as I'd feeling so excited.

Today I've been feeling a little sick again, and my boobs seem to have grown over-night! I think I'm just going to have to get used to the worry.

 

[babydust]

i know exactly what you are going through i have had 4 missed m/c and there is no way of telling for me really some of them i expected as my sickness eased off and i wasnt as tired but some of them i felt just as sick, i have just found out im expecting again and im really crapping it the only thing is just to carry on and what will be will be, this time i want to wait until im a good few weeks before i get a scan and hopefully find a way of putting all the worry to the back of my mind.

good luck for your scan.

 

[DaisyRose]

Hi,
Just wanted to say, I know how you're feeling right now (I spent the first 20 weeks of this pregnancy worrying myself silly after a loss last year). It is really very difficult because every little thing is a worry (I had loo phobia, panicked if I felt ok for a little while, and then had a bad time after my Downs test results came back high risk at 16 weeks) but everything appears to be fine now and it is much easier now I can feel the baby wriggling around!!!

The odds of you having another loss are much much less than having a healthy baby - stay positive, there's every chance it'll all be ok.

All the best

 

[Becky]

Hi again,
Well today is a worry day it seems I can't get the idea out of my head that I'm going to have another miscarriage. I keep looking at my tummy and there isn't really anything there to show a pregnancy. I've put weight on but tummy still looks fairly flat.

The thing I hate the most is that there's nothing I or anyone else can do about it. I have to just sit here in limbo until my scan (13th May) and hope for the best. The closer I get to the scan the more I'm worrying and the more scared I am. I almost don't want to go in case its bad news.

I just hope things are ok. The hardest thing is that a friend is pregnant (4 weeks ahead) and also a family member (1 week ahead) and I just don't know how I'd cope with seeing them have beautiful babies - itd be a cruel reminder of what I'd lost.

Then the other thing that scares me is starting again. I don't know if I could put myself though it all another time.

See how my mind is running away with this, and there's nothing really to indicate anything is wrong..... but I can't help it!

 

[DaisyRose]

Try to stay positive, I know it is really difficult but really, there's much more chance of it being ok than not.

Take care,