Emotions

[Becky]

I've noticed a lot reacently that many people here are going through a hard time and that when talking about how they feel they often apologise and feel guilty for feeling how they do.

I just wanted to say that you shouldn't feel guilty for how you feel, emotions are not right or wrong and they're not black and white. It is how you feel and does not need anymore validation than that.

Please don't feel guilty about how you feel, it's not something you can help, it's part of you. Instead of trying to pretend you don't feel that way and ending up feeling worse, try and accept that while you may not be proud of yourself, that is how you feel.

I spent so may years feeling guilty for how I felt when I was having a hard time with some important relationships in my life and trying to pretend that I ended up more miserable than before.

I still feel irrational and ashamed of my emotional reactions to certain issues but it doesn't get me anywhere. I try and acknowledge and understand why I react the way I do rather than burying it and pretending it didn't bother me.

I probably sound like a sanctimonious you-know-what but I just wanted to say that there's nothing wrong with having negative feelings, it's how you act on them that matters.

 

[nori]

Claire x

 

[Geordie&Bairn]

Oh hun that was a lovely post to make i will try to take your advice as i do everything feel eveythin g you have mentioned