depression when pregnant?

[emmadown]

hi ladies i am new here i found it whilst looking up for help, stumbled across this place and wondered if anyone else who is pregnant is feeling really low? I started about a mth ago just 1 time then the week after a couple times now i cant even get myself out of bed without a big effort....i am finding everything hard work i cry all day and night, i have children already and i am struggling to do just 'normal' things like watching tv and just anything that shouldnt take even a thought is hard for me. I am 5mths pregnant almost and i really dont feel anything or excited for this baby, i feel awful when this is said out loud and i dont know whats the matter with me please does anyone know or have this i just want to know i can feel normal again my anxiety tablets were stopped 4 mths ago and i dont even want to go out

 

[Cantstop]

I think whether it is pregnancy related or not, you need to get yourself to see your doctor or midwife. That it's stopping you doing normal things and the fact that you've stopped taking medication recently suggest you need a bit of support to get things put right for you, your kids and your one on the way - you can't go on feeling like this

 

[PinkPunch]

Emma I really feel it for you. When I was 7 months pregnant I began to get panic attacks and anxiety. Looking back I realise it was depression too which is something I never had before. My hubby had to take me out in the car every single day for hours because I was scared to be in the house as it made me too anxious and I'd panic and felt trapped.

Pregnancy hormones bring these things on unfortunately. Try speaking to your doctor about it, hopefully they will be more helpful than mine.

It's important to remember that it WILL pass and you will begin to feel normal again soon. I would sometimes almost blame the baby for making me feel so down and wondered how I would love it when it became a needy newborn! But I love him to bits now, I can't stop staring at him and kissing him. So whatever you feel towards the baby now wont last forever.

I found taking a bath at night and camomile tea really helped me. I looked forward to my baths. Try to find something you can enjoy and keep doing it if it keeps you going.
I bought kalms tablets but I never actually took any. But I think they are so natural that they are safe. I was going to take mine after the birth but my anxiety has completely gone since the birth.

Don't know if this post has helped at all but just wanted to let you know your not alone but it will probably stop once the baby is born and your hormones start to get back to normal.

 

[amandapanda]

Awww hun, I feel for you I really do. I've suffered with depression both before and during pregnancy but I've just got myself to worry about, it must be so hard when you have other kids to look after aswell! It really does sound like you've got it bad and I think you need to approach your GP or midwife to let them know how much you're struggling right now. My midwife told me about a specalist team of community midwives who focus on women suffering with mental health problems - thankfully things never got so bad that I needed to call on them, but it was good to know there was help out there if I needed it. Pregnancy hormones really can knock you about and if you've suffered from anxiety and depression in the past, it does seem to rear it's ugly head again in pregnancy because we are so vulnerable and so much is going on with our bodies.

Take it one day at a time hun, do your best and don't beat yourself up if you have a really bad day - today is a good day for me but last Friday I never got myself off the couch to wash or eat till 10pm!!

Do seek help love, no one will judge you, and they might just help xxxx

 

[emmadown]

Thankyou for your replys i have just rang the docters now and they are going to get the docter to call me back and have a see if they can call me in and do something for me, fingers crossd i know if the anxietys sorted then i can prob deal with the depression myself, hope he can help me xx

 

[xx emma xx]

You are not alone. I cried every single day last week, felt so down, nothing made me happy and just felt horrid. I have bad anxiety too and worry about everything, and i mean everything! I have been referred by my midwife to the perinatal dept to speak to a psychiatrist as i am terrified of developing post natal depression once babys here. But i know the depression can just vanish when baby is here. I told my OH everything last week as he knew there was a big big change in me and since then I am trying to be positive and just take one day at a time. x

 

[Cantstop]

Seriously well done for making an appointment/approach for help, often that can be the hardest part