Conflicting opinions driving me MAD! *Update*

[flowergirl]

My BP has been steadily rising for about 5-6 weeks now. My baby measures small and the baby isn;t engaged and decides to change positions just to freak the midwives out. (I'm unconcerned as I feel OK and the baby has a great trace when I get hooked up to monitor, I get lots of movements and her growth follows a curve upwards even if it is on the small side, etc, etc.)

Because of baby changing position briefly last week I have been seen by 6 midwives and one doctor since Friday and every one of them is concerned (or not) about a different thing! I went to antenatal clinic yesterday to hopefully put a line under all of the worry about how baby was lying and the midwife didn't believe that was worth worrying about and that my BP and the small size of the baby was - both things which the doctor and other midwives has discounted as a problem over the weekend! I tried to say this but still managed to land myself another appointment with the doctor today to review EVERYTHING again! The doctor will probably ask why I'm even at clinic!

Sorry to rant but it seems that the whole saga is getting ridiculous- I don't believe there is a problem other than too many midwives poking and prodding me and getting themselves stressed! I feel perfectly at ease! Anyone else had a similar experience?

***UPDATE***

Been to antenatal appointment with the consultant and my BP was up again - it's now 130/90 which is a big increase from my booking BP of 100/60. Some abnormalities in blood test results aswell which could indicate reduced kidney function (in me). I have to be checked daily by the community midwife and doctor now talking about induction at 40 weeks or sooner if diastolic BP goes above 95.

I guess the appointments were not so unnecessary after all. It does mean that I can no longer give birth at the midwife led unit and have to travel another 20 mins up the road to the big hospital- but I've been there so often recently thatI'm not bothered any more- I just want to know that my baby will be ok.

 

[tots hope]

I have had a couple of unnecessary appointmenst at the hospital as they thought baby was on the small size to begin ith. They now think baby is older than first thought! (I keep telling them i was charting and know when i conceived so this isn't really an option!)

I think they just like to be over cautious and although they are probably stressing you out they think they are doing the right thing in checking. If i were you i would speak to the nexxt person you see and tell them that all this confilicting opinions is stressing you out.

Hope it goes ok today x

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Your not alone, no woman will see just one midwife through their pregnancy unless they have gone private of course.

I had a few appointments when the consultant was like why are you here - you and the baby are fine and im like 'i know'!

I would trust your gut instinct, if you feel fine then be forward with your mw and tell her that you feel some of these appointments are rather unecessary.

 

[daftscotslass]

I've felt the same a few times, particularly earlier on when there were concerns about my placenta being very low.

At the first scan (which ended up being at 23 weeks but that's another story) it was low lying and touching the cervix.

I had another scan at 28 weeks to check the baby's growth and the person who did that scan noticed it was clear of my cervix and got another person to verify. Saw the consultant at the next appointment and she discharged me to routine midwifery care.

At 30 weeks I had another scan (which was booked before the growth scan) to confirm the position of the placenta. This person said it was still partially covering the cervix which of course sent me into a panic.

At 32 weeks I had yet another scan at which another sonographer found what she was looking for within seconds and showed me the placenta in relation to my cervix (grey blob near another grey blob) and measured it to be 8cm clear of my cervix... it had probably been well away at the last scan, too.

The hospital also keep sending me appointments through for their antenatal clinic for no reason as I see my midwife team at my local surgery. I approached the midwife about this (the one I've seen the last few times happened to be the sister midwife/head of my team) and she cancelled them all for me saying it was completely unnecessary. Inconsistency is a real headache and I totally know where you're coming from.

I would say if there was one person you've seen more than others and feel comfortable about talking about it, let them know.

 

[Emma58]

I've been backwards and forwards to hospital since week 20.
At my 20 week scan they found one of his kidneys measured too small and said I needed to go back when i was 28 weeks to be re scanned. I went back at 28 weeks and his kidneys were fine but the sonographer was concerned he was measuring too small.

So I then got referred and was told there was not enough fluid around the baby and I have been going back there every two weeks to be monitored. Problems they have found have ranged from not enough fluid to the placenta not working properly.

The last two visits I have has there though everything has been OK and the consultant didn't seem too worried and he said to me and OH i'm just having a small baby.

I know how you feel, I feel I have been worried unneccesarily a few times by other peoples different opinions.

 

[jendav81]

That must be really frustrating hun, you should tell your MW how you feel at your next appointment

 

[muppetmummy]

 

[Suzie and Faith]

I'll echo what others have said. Talk to one midwife (maybe one you like best?) and explain how all the different apps are causing you stress and distress for no reason! Hopefully she can get them cancelled and get them to leave you alone! Must be hard for you, have some

 

[AnnaR2B]

I understand hun, i've been in and out of hosp due to hypertension...the midwives on the ward keep telling me to prepare for an early induction, yet as soon as i see consultant, he says no and prepares me for medication..then bp goes down and i don't get either...mixed messages mess with your head.. i TOTALLY empathise

 

[flowergirl]

Thanks for the replies!

 

[Suzie and Faith]

 

[Geordie&Bairn]