Complete newbie lots and lots of advice needed from all of you lovely ladies

[Newbieatthis]

Hi everyone

Totally new to this so sorry in advance that I do not know all the acronyms or the correct terms. Bare with me though.

I am a 27, married for 4 years, having been with my husband since I was 15 (I know forever and forever but genuine true love). I am at the stage of genuinely coming to terms with the idea of actually taking the plunge and starting a family. My husband has always loved children and seems to have been ready forever however I am still at the stage of the thought terrifies me albeit I am starting to seriously come round to the idea of being a mum. I have always wanted children but feel like I have so much to learn first!

I have been on the implant for 9 years having had no periods during this time and having only had about 3 months of periods ever at the time of starting contraception. I then went on the pill for 6 months. Since January 2015 I stopped taking any contraception except the good old condom. I had a "timescale" in the my head of when I wanted to be pregnant based on my job (I work shifts and have spent 4 years studying and 4 years of work to get to where I am). However I think my heart has taken over my brain and my husband and I had completely unprotected sex 4 times during the break between my periods yet my period has started today and a negative pregnancy test has confirmed that i am in fact not pregnant.

So looooonnnng story short I think I am ready to start seriously trying for a baby however I have no clue how best to approach it. I have an ovulation app on my phone however looking for advice from the experienced of you. Should i start with ovulation tests? I feel so in the dark about this as none of my friends or family are in a position to talk to me about it!

Thanks in advance and sorry if I make no sense!

 

[Nutsyputs]

Pop over to the trying to conceive section and I'm sure you'll get lots of advice on there.

 

[Birdo]

Hi , just wanted to wish you luck on your journey x

 

[Quinn1979]

So excited for you!

Fertility friend is a brilliant app for tracking ur cycles and predicting ovulation id recommend that
Get in tune with ur body's pattern, ov tests etc
Dtd as much as you possibly can over your fertile week
Try not to stress out about it!

That's my tips no 4 easier said than done if it takes a while! Xxx

 

[mylullaby]

It is very exciting when you make the decision to ttc. Try your best not to stress about it. Others will disagree with me on this one, but I would avoid ovulation tests for the time being and just use your app to monitor roughly when your fertile period is. As Quinn says, dtd (that means do the deed, i.e. have sex!) as much as you can during your fertile week and try your best to take a relaxed approach. It is very easy to slip into obsession when ttc and I didn't get my bfp until I had taught myself to relax again. Best of luck! xx