b****y health visitors!-update -advice please

[helsekia]

i took Caden to be weighed today,he is 9 months in 2days and weighed in at 25lb 13!he has put 2lb odd on in a month
so the health visitor (who is a really nice one) proceded to tell me that ''we really need to try and slim him a bit,hes not fat but very stocky and although hes always been a big boy and tall perhaps we should look into it a bit more''she asked if id had his 8 month check and i said yes and the other HV had told me i needed to up his food intake in the hope it would fill him up enough so that caden would drop a bottle.

caden still has 5 x 6oz bottles a day,ive been trying to knock one off for 3 months to no success.anyway the HV today asked what food id been advised to give him and i said 2 cooked meals of at least 2 veg and meat or fish with potato and a pudding,plus fruit inbetween and to stop giving him sandwiches for lunch which is what i was doing.well apparantly thats a load of crap!ive now been told to give sandwich or toast at lunch,1 pudding a day and no snacks which is exactly what i was doing before

anyway i know have a complaint form to fill in and send off about being unhappy about the advice i was given before!and i have to go back in 2 weeks.dunno if i can be to be honest.but what annoys me is shouldnt all hv be singing from the same song sheet so to speak?wouldnt it be easier to give consistent advice?

 

[littlepip]

Oh no! I find most health visitors around here pretty crap, feeding you a load of crap about what u should be doing. i swear half of them dont know what there doing!!!! Ryan still has 5 x 6oz bottles to! He just loves his milk!!

 

[SarahH]

Grrrr!!! I know exactly what you mean - all the HV's at my clinic tell you different things! so annoying! Deof send in thats complaint tho

 

[Rachel]

Am I the only one who thinks their HV is ok? I've had 2 HV's now and they have both been nice.

They just let me get on with it and don't try telling me what to do unless I ask for the advice

 

[jennifer1981]

I have come across 3 HV since having Dylan and each one has been dozy. I seriously dont know how they got the job they have. They, too, told me contradicting information regarding different issues. I have no faith in them at all.

 

[helsekia]

we have 6 hv at our clinic so usually you get a different one each time you go.its a pain in the bum really because the advice conflicts so often.its not as though i even asked for the advice mind,they offered it anyway after all i managed to get my daughter to 7 years old with no major hiccups.

yeah i should send in the complaint really maybe it might make them confer once in awhile

 

[CH0C0H0LIC]

Not relevant

 

[helsekia]

omg yep she definately sounds like a right numpty it makes you wonder where some of them get their qualifications from,I think some of them get 'em off a cereal packet!

thats awful sending your LO for totally uneccesary tests just cos she doesnt know what shes doing.i totally understand where youre coming from.

 

[helsekia]

well ive tried knocking his bottles down.ive had caden in bed at 7-30 the past couple of nights and hes only had 4 bottles a day and his food.HOWEVER he had us up at 2-30am this morning and after 45minutes of him screaming/waking/screaming/waking i gave in and let him have another bottle.so my question is-

do you think i should just give him a bottle when he wants it and stuff what the HV says?

should i be mean and stick to the 4 bottles cos in the long run he shouldnt be having as much as he does (apparaently)

do you think its worth trying to get him settled in bed at 7-30 if he ends up in bed with us in the small hours anyway?if i let him sleep on the sofa til like 11 he then has a bottle and sleeps til 6 usually.

whats your LO's bedtime routines?
we have bath at 7pm followed by story ,bottle and hopefully bed or usually in cadens case asleep on sofa till i go up to bed.

 

[NickyB]

That's really terrible, we get contradicting advice from different HV's here too.

 

[Suzie and Faith]

I personally would feed him when he wants it. If it's def food/milk he wants then maybe he needs it?

He's your bubbs hun, you know him best and you know what's best for a happy baby

As for routine, it's always worth trying to get into one. Might take a while but can't hurt to try Fi started (when she was 8 weeks) by us taking her upstairs, she'd have half hour nappy off time then a bath, milk and story and we'd put her to bed. This was by about 9pm which was the time she tended to get sleepy anyway. Then I slowly brought it forward until it was earlier. She is now (most of the time) in bed asleep by 7.15pm.

 

[feenix]

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[helsekia]

thanx

I personally would feed him when he wants it. If it's def food/milk he wants then maybe he needs it?

He's your bubbs hun, you know him best and you know what's best for a happy baby

As for routine, it's always worth trying to get into one. Might take a while but can't hurt to try Fi started (when she was 8 weeks) by us taking her upstairs, she'd have half hour nappy off time then a bath, milk and story and we'd put her to bed. This was by about 9pm which was the time she tended to get sleepy anyway. Then I slowly brought it forward until it was earlier. She is now (most of the time) in bed asleep by 7.15pm.

i never had routine problems with kiara she always just went off at about 9ish and slept in her own room from 6 months with no problems but caden panics if he wakes up and cant see me,hes like it in the daytime hes just so clingy,always has been.i think i will still put hiim to bed but make it like the 8pm time so that its a bit later and i will let him fall asleep downstairs then take him up to his cot i think.if he wakes in the night then i will give him a feed if thats what he wants.I cant help it if hes a big baby and takes a lot of filling