anyone trying to convince themselves otherwise?

[Maximus17]

hiya I am only 2-3dpo today and I am trying to convince myself that I am not pregnant again this month, I think it's because everytime I was convinced that I was pregnant I got many BFNs and felt like a fool. So fed up of getting my hopes up. I am doing to same right now, keep imagining about getting my BFP, symptom spotting, so I started to try to think otherwise, telling myself that I am not pregnant and what are the odds anyway. We didn't do anything differently this month. I mean there is more chance I am not pregnant than I am anyway. I am also getting so fed up of waiting, tests, its taking over my life.

 

[WolfMamma]

I agree with the thing about it taking over your life. I'm not tracking or anything but I find myself constantly thinking about TtC and getting annoyed at how slow time is going. I think that I've missed my opportunity this month so all I find myself doing is wishing time would hurry up and move on so that I can have my shot!!

 

[Maximus17]

hiya it's horrible isn't it, instead if enjoying the moment I am always thinking about the next time to try etc...
I was actually thinking of giving up trying as I used to be happier before TTC deep down I believe I am pregnant this time as we did it the right time again but there is 80 percent change I am not, I hate it that I get my hopes up over and over again...

 

[WolfMamma]

I just don't want to sap all of the fun out of dtd with my DH. We have a really good sex life and I'd rather keep it that way.

Like if one of us is too tired one night, normally it wouldn't be a problem, the other person wouldn't feel upset or cross as there's always the next night. Now that we are TtC, it's not like that any more. He's got a cold at the moment so fell straight to sleep last night and even though it is probably completely the wrong time of the month to need to worry about it, I found myself feeling really cross at him. "How dare he not want to do it......" - I mean how fair is that?! Makes me sound like a right grumpy cow!

I want to just be able to let it happen when it happens and I always intended on it being like that.... something inside me though is making me a bit crazy and I don't like it

 

[Maximus17]

I agree I am the same recently, I start to panic before we even start to get a cold, what if he can't do it, what if something happens and we miss our chance, it's really annoying. I am so sick of TTC at the moment and just want to go back to ho wit was.

 

[KatD]

I watched a video on Youtube today about ovulation and conception, the journey that one little sperm has to make is CRAZY!! It's a miracle that either one of us are here at all! I have a whole new respect for the process now. This cycle I'm trying not to get ahead of myself...I've done the same, last cycle I tested way too early, imagined all kinds of lines only to be heartbroken when I had to face the cold hard fact that I was yet again, not pregnant. So now, I'll only test IF AF is late and any symptoms I automatically write off as PMS...besides, most women only say that they felt actual pregnancy symptoms after a bfp.


Lol it's so hard really to know how to respond emotionally to this how I say I will respond is very different to what I actually do in the end.

 

[KatD]

I agree I am the same recently, I start to panic before we even start to get a cold, what if he can't do it, what if something happens and we miss our chance, it's really annoying. I am so sick of TTC at the moment and just want to go back to ho wit was.

Oh my gosh I thought the exact same thing today. I HATE TTC!! It's not fun, it places so much strain on my marriage and myself. I feel so stressed every single time. Did we do it at the right time, did we do it enough and that's if my poor husband is able to finish, I can scream lol! I keep thinking that I can't wait until we get our bfp then we can actually be like normal people with normal lives hahaha crazy aint it

 

[WolfMamma]

I agree I am the same recently, I start to panic before we even start to get a cold, what if he can't do it, what if something happens and we miss our chance, it's really annoying. I am so sick of TTC at the moment and just want to go back to ho wit was.

Oh my gosh I thought the exact same thing today. I HATE TTC!! It's not fun, it places so much strain on my marriage and myself. I feel so stressed every single time. Did we do it at the right time, did we do it enough and that's if my poor husband is able to finish, I can scream lol! I keep thinking that I can't wait until we get our bfp then we can actually be like normal people with normal lives hahaha crazy aint it

It's nice not to feel alone in this!!

 

[Maximus17]

Thank god for this forum. I can be as crazy as I want here. If I was to ever share this with other people they would think I am mental lol at least here we can understand each other and the best thing in this forum no one thinks I am crazy lol

 

[LuckyLaura]

I watched a video on Youtube today about ovulation and conception, the journey that one little sperm has to make is CRAZY!! It's a miracle that either one of us are here at all! I have a whole new respect for the process now. This cycle I'm trying not to get ahead of myself...I've done the same, last cycle I tested way too early, imagined all kinds of lines only to be heartbroken when I had to face the cold hard fact that I was yet again, not pregnant. So now, I'll only test IF AF is late and any symptoms I automatically write off as PMS...besides, most women only say that they felt actual pregnancy symptoms after a bfp.


Lol it's so hard really to know how to respond emotionally to this how I say I will respond is very different to what I actually do in the end.

hahaha me and my husband actually just did that! Would you believe it that my husband has had basically no sex education- where he grew up there was nothing like that. Like he knows the idea that a sperm goes in and then there's an egg and there's a baby if its all done right- but he had no idea the process!

I made him watch a youtube video on the menstruation cycle- very detailed with lots of illustrations hahaha his face was priceless but he was like omg I never knew any of this. I had to laugh at that, he was like "well now I REALLY know, probably too much" haha

 

[KatD]

Hahhaa that's always a catch 22, being blissfully unaware or over educated and stressed!

 

[Elven]

I agree I am the same recently, I start to panic before we even start to get a cold, what if he can't do it, what if something happens and we miss our chance, it's really annoying. I am so sick of TTC at the moment and just want to go back to ho wit was.

So agree with this. I felt so annoyed with OH the one month because he was tired and just not up for it. Completely irrational, but at least this place helps to reassure you you're not alone with those thoughts!