Anyone scared??? Reality is starting to sink in now...

[sarahk]

Hi Ladies,

Pregnancy hormones seem to be getting stronger, by boobs are huge and sore, ive got an 'odd' sensation in my abdomen and feeling a bit icky.

I'm excited about having a child, but reality has just sunk in...I'm HAVING A CHILD!!!!! I'm starting to feel a bit scared, i'm worried about my changing body - whilst I love women with baby bumps, i'm just so nervous about it all happening. I'm scared of birth, how my partner might feel about me etc...I dont know why but i'm just worrying about everything!!! I'm struggling to sleep at night and the past few nights have been terrible.

Does everyone go through this phase when they first find out? I have known a week and a couple of days. Maybe its just the hormones making me emotional???!!!

If anyone has similar experiences I would really like to know!

Thanks

Sarah

 

[little*red]

yeah im crapping it and this is my second time, i only had my daughter last year!

i think this time its scarier because i know what to expect with labour ect but i actually cnat believe ive already done it before i cant really ever believe ive had a baby and now im a mummy, sometimes i just think tomyself 'omg im a mum!' i guess ive jut took it all in my stride and never really sat down to think about it all.

you'll be fine though, it will be over before you know it, at times it feels like its dragging so much but it really is over before you know it, so try and cherish every moment .

 

[sarahk]

Thanks Little*red,

I think because this time round was not planned, I havent prepared myself emotionally - so i'm freaking out!!!!!

I was fine when I first found out, ive only been like this for about 3 days, last night was especially bad, maybe lack of sleep has made things worse??

I cant wait to meet my baby, but the pregnancy thing scares the hell out of me. I'm worried about work, what the guys will be like, how I will cope with my clients - and i've just brought a new sports car that I will need to get rid of!!! Although, not so much worried about that!!

I just want to cry, ive not told many people and I dont want to let out to my partner that i'm scared - sorry to rant!! x

 

[Jade_Number1]

I'm petrified- to a point where sometimes I stop and think "maybe I'm not pregnant at all...". I think after my scan it will be easier- hope so anyway.

Haven't thought about the baby actually being HERE yet- seems a long way off! x

 

[GBLiz]

i'm scared, of the body thing because i must admit it (dont all hate me!) i when i see someone in the street with a big baby belly im terrified!!!! BUT...at the same time im kind of wanting mine...so i think my feelings will change....also with the maternal thing, I am very not-bothered by babies, i quite like little kids but have never been a baby person...but I KNOW i will be different with my own...my pet pussy cat i absolutely dote on wheras other cats I can take them or leave them....bit of an irrelevant analogy maybe ! but im confident that when the time comes for each of these stages i'll be ok...

the giving birth bit im still happily in denial about

 

[Tiffy]

I too get really scared, sometimes. It's just hard to believe that this is happening to ME, and I am going to have my own beautiful child of my own in a very short time from now. It seems unreal and just very unknown to me.

Sometimes I struggle to even believe I'm pregnant, and despite all my symptoms and growing bump, I can't help but question my own pregnancy! I think it's very normal.

 

[DebbieM]

Yep! Everyone goes through that Sarah so don't worry!

OH and I were discussing this yesterday in fact. I was so happy when I found out (totally planned pregnancy - just happened VERY fast!) and then once I'd told my sis and Dad, I couldn't discuss it for about 2 or 3 days as I was so shell shocked and scared.

You soon get over it

 

[scottishterrier]

im terrified! i think im terrified of the labour as i know what to expect!

 

[Ginnymarie]

oooh don't scare me, i have not been scared of labour as i don't know what to expect, is it really that bad...i am hoping for an epidural so hoping it will be manageable.
i am too scared of actually being a mum but even more scared of the thought of never being a mum...if you get my drift
xxx

 

[missxkatie]

I am just happy its finally happened. I am rather scared about the birth but I have my mum and partner to be there so thats ok. Even though we both wanted this we was shocked when the doctor said but hey its a great thing to have a child xx

 

[trixipaws]

the worrying is normal!
it doesnt stop after the babys born...

 

[Happybunny]

I was just coming on to make a similar post. I can really sympathise. I have been trying for a baby for ages and then I spent the past two months praying like mad that this one would work.
Now it looks like it is all going well and I am actually going to have this baby...but all of a sudden I am terrified.
I am not scared of being a mum...I am scared of all the changes that are going to happen to my body. Will it hurt? What if it does hurt and I can't stop it...it is too late to go back now! I have been having a few days of severe constipation and my insides have been feeling very tender...it is so painful to go to the loo. I am drinking lots of water and eating lots of fruit to remedy it...but I am scared of being in this pain all the way through. (I am a naturally very anxious person about my health)

Don't even get me thinking about the birth

Sorry for the long post

 

[lisa&alex]

i can assure you.. getting scared about it isnt going to help things..ive had the omg!! im pregnant thing.. but not omg im having a baby! lol...so sssshhhh dont tell me after xmas il have 2 sprogs!

 

[sarahk]

Thanks ladies, its reasuring to know i'm not strange for feeling this way!!

I'm looking forward to having a child and being a mum, I'm just so scared of the pregnancy!!!

I saw my doctor this morning and told her, they are trying to get my first appointment with the midwife before I go to Thailand in a couple of weeks.

Thanks again for your replies!! x

 

[debecca]

Aw Sarah! Glad they're getting you an appointment!

I had bad insomnia when I was 5/6 weeks and I think that was partly hormonal (think it's quite common) and partly cacking myself about becoming a mum!!!

I hope you feel better soon and you have a good trip to Thailand xxx

 

[Steelgoddess]

Sometimes when I worry and I know this might sound a bit mad but I ask myself questions...

Example: Say for instance someone has a driving test coming up and they worry about making mistakes and that making them even more nervous...


Q - What will I do if I make a mistake during my driving test
A - I won't panick, I will continue as if nothing had happened and hope the rest of the test goes ok.

Does that make sense? i believe we worry because we don;t have the answers when realistically there is always an answer. Your worries are those of thousands of other pregnant women all over, try looking for the answer by asking those in question or answering them yourself with a positive reponse...

xxxx

 

[Vicki & Nathan]

its natural to worry about these things, mainly as you havnt been through it before its the 'unjnown'

as for the birth etc its still a long way off yet so try not to think about that just yet
i worried myself sick about it all but excessive worry isnt any good for either of you

for me it wasnt as bad as i expected and my main worry was would i be a good mum as i had never had anything to do with babies before then but everyone says ive taken to it like a duck to water

try to relax and enjoy your pregnancy