Hi everyone
I lost a baby in july that was due today and for the past couple of weeks i have been living in an emotional hell. ( doesnt help that i lost another one before christmas) today feels like the hardest day and my husband is out celebrating st paddys day (he is irish) but i feel a bit angry because he doesnt seem to mind what type of day it is for me, although he did buy me a bunch of flowers.
I work on a gyneacology ward and am finding it increasingly difficult to go into work and face the staff and patients as the staff are the people that looked after me when i was losing my last baby and some of the patient are going through what i went through day in and day out am not only seeing hystorectomys and laparoscopys but am seeing misscarriages and abotions that went wrong, even ivf's that have failed every story feels like its part of mine, i broke down in work last week and havent been back since (am due back tommorrow) am hyper sensitive moody agressive i cry at every little thing and all i want to do is lay under my duvet.
I cant even face being round my family, my sister inlaw is due in may and my brother keeps asking me to be there at the birth with them and there constatntly asking me advise about being pregnant (its her second child) they are probably oblivious but it feels like its just another dig at me (told you i was hyper sensitive)
And when we go to see my husbands family am getting nagged by his aunts his sister his gran about when am i going to give him a child and that i shouldnt keep putting it of for my career, i feel like screaming at them but i just bite my tounge smile go home and cry.
I just want to feel better, i dont want to cry or feel sad and i dont know what to do to help me feel that
thanks for reading my ramble
Pam x
I lost a baby in july that was due today and for the past couple of weeks i have been living in an emotional hell. ( doesnt help that i lost another one before christmas) today feels like the hardest day and my husband is out celebrating st paddys day (he is irish) but i feel a bit angry because he doesnt seem to mind what type of day it is for me, although he did buy me a bunch of flowers.
I work on a gyneacology ward and am finding it increasingly difficult to go into work and face the staff and patients as the staff are the people that looked after me when i was losing my last baby and some of the patient are going through what i went through day in and day out am not only seeing hystorectomys and laparoscopys but am seeing misscarriages and abotions that went wrong, even ivf's that have failed every story feels like its part of mine, i broke down in work last week and havent been back since (am due back tommorrow) am hyper sensitive moody agressive i cry at every little thing and all i want to do is lay under my duvet.
I cant even face being round my family, my sister inlaw is due in may and my brother keeps asking me to be there at the birth with them and there constatntly asking me advise about being pregnant (its her second child) they are probably oblivious but it feels like its just another dig at me (told you i was hyper sensitive)
And when we go to see my husbands family am getting nagged by his aunts his sister his gran about when am i going to give him a child and that i shouldnt keep putting it of for my career, i feel like screaming at them but i just bite my tounge smile go home and cry.
I just want to feel better, i dont want to cry or feel sad and i dont know what to do to help me feel that
thanks for reading my ramble
Pam x