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[paperface]

Hello,

Me an df have recently bought a house and got engaged at around the same time,

we recently decided to get married next year,

I can see that there is going to be problems already as my boyfriend and his family is indian...his immediate family are really relaxed and have treated me like a daughter/sister but his grandparents have only just found out about me (after knowing each other since we were 12 and being together 3 years and bought a house together)

i havent met them yet but they already dislike me!

Another thing is that me and df would like a relaxed wedding how we want it i.e white dress, and massive party. 8)

but his mum is pushing for an indian one and df is having none of it saying that we will mix the wedding cultures.

and on top of that last night df asked me about bridesmaids....i had a think about it and....after thinking about it...


i don't have any friends!!!

i can only think of one person, and i barely see that person, all the people me and df see are all male and mainly his friends (all male)

Sorry its really long but i just feel a bit down about it!

 

[jenna]

 

[tuck]

a friend of mine had this sort of dilemma, she was indian, he was english, they decided to have a civil ceremony in the venue they were having the reception at, she wore a traditional indian wedding dress. neither sets of family were that happy but they just told them that it was their wedding and if they didnt like it tough.

I know this may sound silly but if there really is no-one that you have got to be bridesmaids what about contacting one of the charaties like 'make a wish' and see if there is a little girls dream you could make come true?
http://www.make-a-wish.org.uk/

 

[ella]

I know this may sound silly but if there really is no-one that you have got to be bridesmaids what about contacting one of the charaties like 'make a wish' and see if there is a little girls dream you could make come true?
http://www.make-a-wish.org.uk/[/color]

That is a really good idea.

All that matters at your wedding is you and your parnter!

 

[paperface]

awww, thats a really sweet idea, ill have a look on the website, never thought of that...

I would like a traditional white...but his mum is pushing for an indian one, so weve compromised and im having both gonna change into the indian one at night

neither one will suit me as i have both my arms sleeved (in tattoos )

I may even go for a ridiculous one just to even it out a bit

 

[katyk]

I no what you mean about not having many friends/ perhaps people to come to the wedding.

If I get married I was thinking I'd nag all you lot to come so it's not embarrassing that there are like 4 people in the church or something

 

[emma28]

Have you though about running away to somewhere like Gretna and then letting them have an indian party when you get back?

If I ever get married again I'm running away

 

[enn]

goodluck whatever u decide

 

[paperface]

i was joking about it with df last night about gretna!!

we had amassive chat about it last night, we have decided that we want a simple wedding but a massive party!

that'll do me!

all df is bothered about is the music

he's in to heavy metal so he wants some to be played

we're gonna have 80's pop but he doesn't want aggado!

 

[jenna]

Have you though about running away to somewhere like Gretna and then letting them have an indian party when you get back?

If I ever get married again I'm running away

We got married in Gretna. It was lovely and stress free very lovely place too

 

[paperface]

i've heard its nice at gretna...

his mum wants us to write a list of people who we want to go and she said that they have over 200 relatives and then theres friends and my side and our friends too!!!

its gonna spiral outta control!

 

[jenna]

only invite who you and your partner want. we only had mums dads and sisters. I didnt want every single person im related too to go because its stressfull and expencive. Dont let them push you into having something you dont want, its your day not theres

 

[tuck]

his mum wants us to write a list of people who we want to go and she said that they have over 200 relatives

Is she paying for it then?????????

get her to write out the names of the 200 family and then you and your DF can decide who YOU BOTH want to invite from the list, also if you're restricted to numbers then you ivite who you want not jus cause they're relatives that you never hear from or see.

my brother and sis-in-law had this problem and they decided to invite the friends and family that they saw and were close to