3 year gap

[hopeful1976]

Mu darling ladies !!!
Some of you may know or remember me as I used to be very active on this site back in the days when we were trying to conceive our second. This site was my rock and my everything during my not such easy journey. And now I am back for your valuable advice girls!!
After sitting on the fence for the last year ( well ntnp during the last 3 month ), my hubby and I have actually decided to go for baby number 3. My eldest is 15 so whist there s loads of love, there s not much interaction between the two of my children. We really want a mate for our youngest and someone she would be close with, but because we took so long to decide, I am now wondering whether the age gap will be too big for what we want, Ladies, PLEASE , those who have children with 3 year gap ( well that's what we hope for, but obviously might be more ) completely honestly, tell me , do your children with 3/ 3 and a half year gap actually play together and what are the dynamics? Please be honest. I totally realise that any gap is great and there s no wrong age gap as I already have 2 girls and they are amazing together even though they don't play😀 But I just want some honest information on the exact dynamics/communication/playing between the children with 3 year gap. Thank you ladies so much in advance.

 

[CARNAT22]

I'll let you know in January

There will be exactly 3 years between 2nd and 3rd

Have 2 years between first and second and they are either co-conspirators & best mates or bickering / arguing / whacking each other.

I actually think (hope and pray) that a slightly bigger gap may mean less fighting?

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[hopeful1976]

Thank you honey , will look forward to hearing about your experience Xxx

 

[BabyMaker]

Hi, I have 4.5 yrs between my 2 and even at that gap they get on so well! My DS loves playing with his sister and she adores him. He takes on his big brother role as a teacher and takes great pride when he teaches her something new.
So I reckon 3/3.5 years will be absolutely fine
Alot of my friends have chosen the 3 year age gap and when we TTC our 3rd that's probably what we'll aim for (although still not decided...)
Good luck!
x

 

[KHTW]

Hi

Not my personal experience but my OH's brother and sister are both married and each have 2 kids with 3 year gap between them. The sister has a boy and a girl and the kids seem to get along fine, of course they fight from time to time but they mostly co-exist peacefully and even play together.

Brother's two are boys and hmmm they seem to fight quite a lot and I get the sense they don't really like to spend time together. They are both totally different characters and can't find common ground/interest.

I guess there is no ideal age gap and all you can do is hope they like each other x

 

[snowbee]

3 years between my sister and myself. We always played together doing all sorts.

I don't know if we will try for a second yet but a couple of my friends who had very small age gaps said they though they had missed out a bit with one on one with both children and they would have liked a bigger gap. Then I know some who said they would have liked a smaller gap! I think you would make it work whatever you had.

 

[Shepherdess]

my lo is just over two now and we will be ttc soon. I've always wanted a. 3 year gap, lots of people have told me I should have tried for a second child sooner so they'd be closer but I've had so much fun with my daughter I've never wants to ruin that for her. if we are lucky to have the threeyyear gap she'll be able to do the things we do now but a bit more independently, i.e. when being crafty and doing cutting and sticking I won't constantly need to hold things for her so I could manage to balance a baby to.

everyone is different. one of my friends has two girls with just under a 3 year gap and they get on amazing but another has a three year gap with a boy and a girl and the little boy hates the fact he has a sister and not a brother and currently he is so wicked to her. no one is the same

 

[aceofjanine]

My sister and I are also in 3 years gap. We do get along when we were kids. She's quite independent and at times does not want me to bother her especially when she started school. I'm not sure, but girls mature faster than boys.

 

[Celene]

I'm due my third in December there will be a 3 year gap between second and third. My son and daughter have a 2 year gap and are best friends so I really hope my 3rd has the same bond with them.

My brother and I are 4.5 years apart we were best buds growing up always played together. Once he was at highschool and then university we didn't see much of each other but we were always close. And now we are both adults we have a very close bond and I'm even close with his friends. So I wouldn't worry about the age gap.

 

[Emily0505]

Five years between my two.

My son absolutely dotes on his baby sister. He plays with her and chats to her and tries to comfort her when she cries.

We'd planned for a smaller gap originally but it didn't work out that way as it took us two years to conceive my daughter. In hindsight though, I think it's all worked out for the best and now that he's at school I get one to one time with the new baby during the day too.

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