2 year old and expecting another.

[lizbethsc69]

Hi. I realise that this will probably seem like a silly rant but I have just found out that I am expecting my second baby and I just keep getting upset all the time. We weren't trying for a baby and had assumed that we wouldn't have one without planning as our first child was conceived with fertility help. While I realise that I should be over the moon I am actually so scared as I love my son sooooo much I can't quite get my head around how another baby will fit into our lives without my relationship with my son changing. I keep crying all the time and then I feel guilty for not being happy. My husband is very understanding but I'm onviously upsetting him by not being happy.
I can't sleep at night and keep thinking I'm going to wake up and it'll all be a dream. I'm so sad and I don't know why. Everytime I play with my son I have to fight back the tears as he's so lovely I don't want to upset his life at all by having another baby. My Mum is away at the moment and I really miss her. Sorry for banging on but I just want to try and feel better and happy about having another baby . Thanks, Liz

 

[violet-glow]

aww hun you sound like I did at your stage. I also have a 2 year old and am pregnant. I used to get really upset because it felt like I was betraying my son, by having another. Remember you will be alot more emontional now that your pregnant. The slightest things set me off

There sounds like there is a strong bond between you and your son, so you shouldnt be worried about adding this wonderful baby into his life. Obviously your relationship will change a bit, but not for the worst. Ive been where you are now hun, but I can only tell you as time goes by and you get your son more involved in your pregnancy... it does get better and you will become more and more excited about having another little one.

xx

 

[loulou1980]

no matter how many kids youve got there will always be enough love to go round

 

[Vicky_Gazerimmer]

This is my first pregnancy so I don't know how I would feel the second time around.

But I remember when my mum was expecting my sister she was so scared that the relationship she had with me would diminish. I was jealous at first as its natural for a child to feel cautious of a new arrival. But I have to say that me my mum and sister are so very close now and the 3 of us have the most wonderful relationship.

I hope you start to feel happy about your pregnancy soon, and keep your little boy involved at all times and I am sure he will love the baby too.

Good Luck xx xx

 

[littlebump]

I've wondered the same thing as I adore my daughter and worry about what it will be like not being able to devote so much time to her. But there will be so many new opportunities to do things as a family and the games will be more fun as there are more participants. My DH said it's not like we'll be diluting our love, it's just our capacity to love will increase as a result of a new baby. I think he's right. He also thinks if we were to continue to devote all this time to Maddie she'd be spoiled rotten!!!

Hope you feel better soon

LBxx

 

[Cat&Noah]

I really think some of it is hormones. I actually planned this baby, and couldnt wait to get PG. Then the hormones kicked in and I was so crabby and I kept thinking what the hell am I doing, were happy as we are, I dont want another! Luckily my hormones have calmed down a lot now, ut really for a while I was thinking about what a hue mistake I had made!
Just think how wonderfull and exciting it will be for your son having a little play mate!