17 wks stressed!

[ManxMinx]

Hi all,

I was 17 wks pregnant on Saturday and have been experiencing lower belly pains and shooting pains up my private parts. Does anyone know if this is normal?

I have been really stressed out the past few weeks as I found out my DF was cheating on me with a friend/colleague of mine.

I kicked him out 3 weeks ago and he has been living with her since. We have a 9 yo daughter together and he has been constantly letting her down, in order to spend time with the whore.

I am just literally not coping well at all....

Any advice?

 

[Belfa]

Hi so sorry you're going through this. You are not alone as I seperated from my husband when I was 8 weeks due his infidelity so please do contact me if you need to chat as I know how much of a lonely place it is.

Secondly, my GP and midwife were a massive support. Please make sure you get a GP appointment straight away.

Try doing a search for "fanny daggers"! That might be what the shooting pains are but by all means do get checked just in case x

 

[ManxMinx]

Hi Belfa,

Thank you for the response!

Yes, it is such a lonely place - I think I'm still a little in denial as I can't quite believe that this is happening to ME. I never imagined two people I cared about could do this to me at such a vulnerable time

I called my local Early Pregnancy Unit and they said I needed to see my Doc or go to A&E.... which is a PITA as appts are hard to get and A&E you are waiting for hours

Thank you again though and I hope you are okay also xx

 

[candymycandy]

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough ride

What about calling your own MW? Agree with belfa re fanny daggers! The tummy pain sounds like stretching to me. Try some paracetamol to see if that helps x

 

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Ouch I'm so sorry to hear about your relationship situation. I've been there myself, and I know its horrible but eventually it will get easier. Bloody awful timing though as you don't want any undue stress.

In terms of the pains I had this too around 16-18 weeks. Bloody sore!! Everyone was like are you feeling butterfly flutters or bubbles yet? I couldn't feel the baby except when they were painfully booting and stabbing me. Turns out it was my uterus stretching (cos you know its only had 16 other weeks to do that gradually but whatever) as my bump popped at 20 weeks. It was also the baby kicking but due to the stretching the muscles were just so tender. Once bump popped the pains went away. They kick and dance constantly now but its never felt like butterflies or bubbles. Definitely a karate master in there. I know it hurts like hell but its actually a good sign that the baby is kicking and your bump is about to get way bigger