Worst day ever!!!!

[Sk8erzeh]

So my OH's 16 year old sister has a 18 month old baby. She's barely around to look after him so I find myself babysitting most weekends. Most of the family helps her out as well because her parents died 2 yrs ago so we feel she needs an extra hand.
So today was my day off and she passed by. I thought she's once again come to drop off the little one so she could probably go out with her friends. Instead she came with a positive pregnancy test, asking me to not tell my OH. She was rambling on about how the dad doesn't wanna know and how she'll be a single parent once again. I SAW RED. "Single parent again?" Is she effing kidding me?!!! Here I am struggling to get my bfp and there she is popping kids like popcorn.
Long story short, I told her to get out. Maybe I overreacted but life is not fair at all

 

[JD.Deedee]

So she got pregnant at 14 or something ? I would've flipped my shit too seeing as she's still not learned to how you get pregnant seems to work and it's really taking the piss when people are helping you out at the age.. I'd be like shut your legs and go to school ffs!

 

[Sk8erzeh]

I know right. Maybe I'm cranky because of this 2ww. I just think it's insensitive seeing as though she was there when I has my mc last year

 

[Wren83]

No I'd be mad too. That's very insensitive of her after she's seen you go through a mc. Maybe if she put more thought into her child rather than sex she wouldn't be in this situation!

 

[BecaM]

I get angry whenever this happens too love, not just you. It just makes life seem even more unfair. I don't understand how girls like her get pregnant so easily and then girls like us (in stable relationships/married/ grown up) struggle so hard to even get one bfp..

 

[Skyeway]

Oh that sounds like such an awful day! I really feel for you.
I've been a youth worker for 8 years and she sounds like a typical teenager. I'm not sure if you want advice orjust to rant and if so stop reading here.
My opinion is that at 16 she probably doesnt realise how insensitive she is being, and without her parents she probably didnt know who to go to for support. She must trust and like you a lot even if she is shoving her bfp in your face. I'm guessing that you dont confide in her much about your struggles, even if she was there for the mc she may not realise how much it still affects you. I really hope you get your bfp soon.

http://www.teenagewhisperer.co.uk/the-empathy-deficit-victim-awareness/ this website might be helpful in trying to understand her lack of thought about anyone but herself. All the best in getting a bfp for yourself soon x

 

[mylullaby]

Oh that sounds like such an awful day! I really feel for you.
I've been a youth worker for 8 years and she sounds like a typical teenager. I'm not sure if you want advice orjust to rant and if so stop reading here.
My opinion is that at 16 she probably doesnt realise how insensitive she is being, and without her parents she probably didnt know who to go to for support. She must trust and like you a lot even if she is shoving her bfp in your face. I'm guessing that you dont confide in her much about your struggles, even if she was there for the mc she may not realise how much it still affects you. I really hope you get your bfp soon.

http://www.teenagewhisperer.co.uk/the-empathy-deficit-victim-awareness/ this website might be helpful in trying to understand her lack of thought about anyone but herself. All the best in getting a bfp for yourself soon x

You seem so lovely xx

 

[Sk8erzeh]

Thanks ladies. Just needed to vent a bit. Guess I'm feeling sorry for myself

 

[Loveandpeace]

I would be angry and upset at this too. I have friends who drink & smoke to excess & got pregnant easily & another friend who has only one ovary and got pregnant on a one night stand with some random guy at a weekend away. And yet here are all these ladies doif everything to get a bfp!x

 

[Alexis2017]

Stay strong. I seem to see pregnant women everywhere since I have been ttc and hear stories like this all the time with people having unwanted unplanned pregnancies and then here we are trying anything and everything for that one twinkle in our eye to be more than a dream

 

[DeeDeeAbi]

Oh that sounds like such an awful day! I really feel for you.
I've been a youth worker for 8 years and she sounds like a typical teenager. I'm not sure if you want advice orjust to rant and if so stop reading here.
My opinion is that at 16 she probably doesnt realise how insensitive she is being, and without her parents she probably didnt know who to go to for support. She must trust and like you a lot even if she is shoving her bfp in your face. I'm guessing that you dont confide in her much about your struggles, even if she was there for the mc she may not realise how much it still affects you. I really hope you get your bfp soon.

http://www.teenagewhisperer.co.uk/the-empathy-deficit-victim-awareness/ this website might be helpful in trying to understand her lack of thought about anyone but herself. All the best in getting a bfp for yourself soon x

You seem so lovely xx

I thought that too mylullaby xx

 

[Lulla Bell]

It sucks it really does... In Feb I had a mc then the following month I found out a Cousin I absolutely hate is pregnant and she has my due date, it was also from a one night thing.. my heart was so broken, I had to have a few days off work.
However a really close friend reminded me that my cousin was young, alone, the dad was a druggy and she had to live in her mum's box room with a newborn and she read heavily in debt....*smug face *
When I do it, it will be in a stable household that's financially supported...

I suspect it's the same for you. Don't be jealous of her....
When you do it, it'll be for all the right reasons and that baby will want for nothing xxxx

 

[KatD]

Oh that sounds like such an awful day! I really feel for you.
I've been a youth worker for 8 years and she sounds like a typical teenager. I'm not sure if you want advice orjust to rant and if so stop reading here.
My opinion is that at 16 she probably doesnt realise how insensitive she is being, and without her parents she probably didnt know who to go to for support. She must trust and like you a lot even if she is shoving her bfp in your face. I'm guessing that you dont confide in her much about your struggles, even if she was there for the mc she may not realise how much it still affects you. I really hope you get your bfp soon.

http://www.teenagewhisperer.co.uk/the-empathy-deficit-victim-awareness/ this website might be helpful in trying to understand her lack of thought about anyone but herself. All the best in getting a bfp for yourself soon x

You seem so lovely xx

I thought that too mylullaby xx

Me too. Such a really refreshing way to see things.