We're not coping

[Snuggle]

Hi all,
Maddison was up crying the entire night and most of this morning, we have just managed to get her off to sleep an hour ago and we're at our wits end We've tried feeding, winding, changing, swaddling, stroking, cuddling but nothing calms her. At 4am I had to walk out of bedroom and sit downstairs for a while because I couldnt take the crying anymore. I sat and cried my eyes out for about 20 minutes. Both me and DH are absolutely exhausted and just dont know what we can do. Hubby is back to work tomorrow and I'm dreading having to look after her on my own
Anyone got any other suggestions on how we can help her?

 

[chezzabell]

hun could it be colic???

 

[Snuggle]

I have been reading up on colic and it does sound like Maddison could be colic I have infacol and am now giving her it before each feed to see if it makes any difference. Other than that there doesnt seem to be anything else we can do to help with colic

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

Yeah i was gonna say colic?
Mayb go and see you hv tomorrow they should be able to help

 

[little*red]

Its so hard hun, please don't feel like your failing just because maddison wont stop crying. Evie had colic too so i know how you feel, the crying just seems never ending and even though you do everything to try to stop it, nothing works.
We tried all the potions under the sun, but the only one that actually worked for us was colief. Only problem is its so expensive for so little (about £10 for a tiny 7ml bottle which lasts about 2 weeks max).
i hope you find something that works for you soon .

 

[Snuggle]

Thanks girls

little*red, I will give the colief a go, I would happily spend £100 on a bottle if it helps

 

[little*red]

Thanks girls

little*red, I will give the colief a go, I would happily spend £100 on a bottle if it helps

lol, do you bottle feed? if so you have to make up the bottle 30 minutes in advance for it to work properly.
plus i also found that her poo got really runny when she was on it but as i said it was the only thing that worked for us, i hope it helps her .

 

[jennywren]

Dr browns bottles worked wonders for us as well hun

hope it gets better soon

 

[Princess_Puddles]

Harrison wasn't too bad but he had something called 6pm-10pm colic and for that time nothing would settle him, we found Dr Browns bottles during the day with the help of infacol did wonders and he soon settled better. I hope your ok hun it doesn't last forever

 

[LucyBee]

Tom had colic. Here's what I'd suggest:
1) Buy some colief as little red says. You can get it from Boots.
2) Keep using the Infacol at the same time as the Colief. It works on a cumulitive basis so you have to use it for a while before you see results.
3) Make sure you're winding her for 5 mins before putting her down.
4) Use the Dr Brown bottles to reduce how much air she takes in when feeding ... unless you're breastfeeding of course.
5) Swaddling is recommended for colicky babies and it helped Tom. I know you said you'd tried this but worth keeping going I reckon.
6) Also recommend white noise just for breaking the cycle of crying. You can buy CDs of it.

If all else fails, see if you can sort out shifts with your OH at night. 2 hours on/2 hours off or something. When it's your time off, put some ear plugs in and TRY to switch off.

The first few weeks are SOOOOoo hard. Nothing can prepare you for it. But we're all here and thinking of you.

Keep your chin up. It's just a phase and will be a distant memory before you know it!
Lucyx

 

[*glow*]

Hello, just wanted to give you a big hug and say that you should speak to your HV and as suggested try to split shifts with your oh. I have so much sympathy for you as sleep deprivation is an absolute killer, but hang in there you are doing great (even when it don't feel like it xx)

Ps I went through the same thing at two weeks and a week later things were so much better (have to admit I did have some sleep at that point!)
xxxx

 

[nikkif]

its hard isnt it? we are having a few problems ourselves and it is so hard hearing them cry and not being able to help, even worse when you are sleep depreived.

 

[eightball]

just wanted to send you a big hug, I'm pretty sleep deprived myself and can hardly keep my eyes open writing this, but it sounds like your girl is making you work extra hard. I hope the suggestions from the others work for you

 

[Red_Fairy]

I wouldnt give up hun, Hannah had a really bad 2 weeks, randomly when she was about 4-6 weeks old, to this day i really dont know what it was (tho we guess it was teething) I was so panicy and HATED being on my own with her. I got really depressed.
As quick as it came, quick as it went. She hasnt done it sinse. She still teeths and crys but nothing at all like that type of crying where its soul shattering and you can do nothing. She may just grow out of it.!
Hope you get a good nights sleep tonight xxx

 

[Redshoes]

BIG hugs to you Snuggle, Maddison and OH
Isaac's always been a screamer so I do know how heart wrenching it can be after hours of it, I would also say try shifts, and TALK to people about how you're feeling, a chat with a good friend can really help Also get advice from your HV as to colic, and possibly buy a rocking chair? Isaac loved being rocked and it will ease possible bad backs to come

There's always this forum, you're doing great, very best wishes

 

[jenni32]

Aw Snuggle, totally sympathise with you. Jude cried so much in the early days . You will forget, it's a bonus!
Even now he won't sleep during the day and cries solidly for a couple of hours each night, teeth I think . Sometimes I have a bit of a cry by myself when he's screaming and leave him with his Daddy I feel better for it though! Lets the frustration out. So you vent in whichever way helps you. I know some of my friends take shifts with theirs hubbys , one friend leaves the house for a breather of she can't bear the crying any more.

Keep your chin up, it is soooo hard being a Mum, nothing can ever prepare you for it. You are doing a brilliant job, nobody could be doing it any better than you.

 

[Snuggle]

Hi everyone,

Thank you so much for all your replies, I really dont know what I would do without this forum

We had a better night last night, we actually got some sleep We went to bed at 9:30pm and Maddison went straight to sleep in her moses basket swaddled. She woke up at midnight for a feed and went back to sleep swaddled again until 3:30am. After that she wouldnt settle again until almost 8am but during this time I took her into the nursery and rocked her on the nursing chair for a while which stopped her crying now and then. Hubby is back at work today so its mine and Maddisons first day alone today So far so good but I so miss my hubby being here. Got my mother-in-law coming later to spend a couple of days here to help us out

Thanks again everyone, you're all fab

 

[weenik]

glad you had a better night last night and feel a bit better today, and it's great that you're getting help from MIL. Take all the help you can get and use the time to sleep or unwind xx

 

[LucyBee]

Glad things were better for you last night.
Thinking of you and hoping you have another good one tonight.
Lucy x

 

[Redshoes]

That's great news Snuggle, so happy to hear you sounding so happy and rested, very best wishes