Toddler hitting head butting and won't listen.

[violet13]

My 17 month old has horrific tantrums I've began using the naughty corner been in place over a month he gets 3 warnings and then I enforce it if we leave a toddler group he lashes out will smack punch headbutt and I have never smacked him except for a tap on the hand and I mean so light I now take toys off him too he will not stop throwing toys and I'm due a second baby in July so needing to nip itin the bud advice
Please. He gets rewards for good behaviour and told off for bad behaviour.

 

[Blueclass]

Hi sorry have no idea on what else can help but I have a friend who was recommended someone who comes around and can also stay bit like super nanny. She was not cheap but apparently amazing. Depending on your financial situation it could be an option.

 

[kumber]

He's going through the 18 month leap. Completely normal and just keep doing what you're doing, he'll get out of it eventually

 

[Toni.C]

I could've written this post myself with my just turned 2 year old I've got no advice but I'm trying to hang it out as a 'phase' x

 

[violet13]

Well today has been major improvement! He's been much better today but kumber is this a normal 18 month thing?! I get to do this all over again? Sarcastic yay to that. You've done it twice now so it is a normal leap for them but why? Testing boundaries? Xxx

 

[kumber]

Yep testing boundaries is exactly it. The world suddenly triples in size and they realise they can do all these amazing things like throw across the room and they're finding the boundaries we put on them frustrating hence slaps and headbutts. I'd like to say it stops at 18 months but we're going through it again at 2.5, it's a joy

 

[violet13]

Oh wonderful, tbh he had been better today yesterday was bad but if we don't teach them they won't learn what's okay and what's not. He decided to keep saying go away before as well xxx

 

[violet13]

Got all ticks on his chart today and no hitting at all. Clearly just some days are better formhim than others xxx

 

[tinselcat]

My son tried doing something naughty a few times (maybe pinching/biting), anyway after the last incident I immediately put him in his playpen (where he couldn't get out) and ignored him for a few minutes while I got on with doing some tasks.

He didn't do it again.

I also say "not nice" if he does something undesirable so he understands it's something he shouldn't do.

I see all this stuff about "leaps" on PF but I never noticed them myself.

 

[KHTW]

ah the joys of being a parent to a toddler

i would definitely agree that some days are better than others and the whole pushing boundaries thing can be very difficult. I pray for more patients everyday.

my girl is 16 month and has an occasional tantrum when she doesn't get her way. We don't use the naught step but a raised voice when telling her to stop. Seems to be working so far.

the gentle pat on the hand was actually firing back when we noticed she would try doing the same back so we stopped that immediately.

hope the naughty steps works for you. it seems to be x