thanks both. to be honest back then, I should have been much more wise, so really it was my own fault in many ways. I also learnt a lot back then and despite this still love Nigeria! Although it can be tough we learn along the way I suppose and mature through it all. I hate to say this but at the time it was a blessing in disguise - thinking back. This time I feel much more like a woman and more ready to take on the challenges of motherhood. Thanks for your imput. Gosh laetitia how many have you got? They are gorgeous!