PND

[Bethanybiggin]

Didn't know where to write this but I desperately need help
My baby was born 4 weeks early and after a week in hospital due to jaundice we was allowed home the first few days were brilliant she fed every 3 hours like she did in hospital now day 15 and the past few days have been awful she won't feed every 3 hours I don't know what she wants she will root for a feed then refuse to take it she's sicked up an entire feed a couple of times hiccups once a day stresses out when feeding constantly fights we have lots of wet nappies but the last 24 hours only a couple of dirty nappies I don't know if she's colic reflux bellyache I feel like I'm losing the will to live and I don't want to look after her I want someone else to do it cause I feel like she doesn't want me to do it I don't feel a bond I constantly want to go back to how things were before when it was just me and my partner I feel like she's a inconvenience but then yesterday when we saw midwife and she had gained weight I was so happy
Please help!!!!

 

[luratraloora]

I would speak to your MW or your GP about how your feeling hun. It can be normal to go through a range of emotions at first and cry alot, but please talk to a professional about how you are feeling.

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[Beckyb1991]

First of all hun you wont feel like this forever I promise you. I felt like this when my daughter was born, it got so bad i even felt the huge urge to throw her out the window... that second i got straight in the car and drove to the doctors and stood there sobbing holding my daughter shaking begging the receptionist to let me see a doctor. I sat and poured my heart out to the doctor for almost an hour , begging him to help me and telling him i was scared to take her home. He reassured me that i wouldnt hurt her and that i did love her else i wouldnt have gone to him at all and i certainly wouldnt be begging for help. Just chatting to him made me feel better. He immediately prescribed me anti depressants for PND ... they didnt work, in fact they made me feel worse. It took for me to give myself a good talking to , and from then on i took action. I went for a walk everyday and drank more water, i changed my diet and stopped brrastfeeding so my hormones would settle... i started feeling better! A couple of weeks after these changes my little girl smiled for the first time and i felt a huge rush of love and it was the best feeling ever! The few weeks that followed were up and down but then i had a blood test and it was found i had anemia which can actually cause PND. I started iron tablets and after a few weeks i felt almost back to normal and the love i had for my little girl was huge! You wont feel like this forever hun and you definitely arent alone! You do love your child and your child loves you even if it doesnt feel like it. Huge hugs to you xxx

 

[Bethanybiggin]

Thank you ladies
I'll just keep trying that's all I can do

 

[Tigeress]

Bless ya hun, I'm really feeling for you. Have a chat with a professional and try to relax (easier said then done). Try not to put so much pressure on yourself. I'm sure once she settles in, all will fall into place. Lots of hugs xxx

 

[SophD]

its a massive change welcoming a baby into your lives. Theyre hugely disruptive to the life u already knew. When i had my first, i felt similarly to you. Now im having my third! Just goes to show, those feelings dont last forever. When i had my 2nd, it was a totally different experience and I felt differently. Please see a doctor, they have seen this millions of times before. They will be more than happy to help you xxx