*insert squelching noise here* (ranty mc rant rant)

[zebrastripes]

...because that's how I feel atm

Basically I have had panic attacks from i was about 13ish. No particular reason except I sometimes find it hard to cope with new people...lots of people...and people in general basically. They calmed down just before and during pregnancy, but these last few months they've been popping up again.

WELL I got Bach rescue remedy and it was fantastic..got a new bottle a few weeks ago, and got mum to try it cause she has been a bit dpressed (read: mental) lately.

However, she accused my dad of putting it in her water which he didnt, it was fennel toothpaste but whatever. basically she accused him of trying to "poison" her
Funnily enough, when i looked for my rescue remedy today, oopsies, it's gone! when i asked mum if she'd seen it she got suspiciously narky. i'm 99% sure she's bloody chucked it. I flipping well need it, all 7 quids worth for a titchy bottle corse now I'm flipping out just a wee bit. It doesn't help that my parents have been having a go at OH yet again....basically making out he is a control freak who is going to hold me back...trust me, I wear no rose tinted glasses when it comes to OH but that is so completely unfair and it is pissing me off!

Plus I'm going to my first concert ever tomorrow, and I'm using my mates driving licence to get in, and I'm really nervous about that too!


Ok....crazy rant I know. Titter ye nat!

 

[nickilubs]

My god that stuff expensive! I cant say much I had to use it before my singing concerts that I used to do near drink the stuff it tastes lush! But still chucking it away? Couldn't she of just put it in your room?

 

[lauramumof2]

Its fab isnt it, it really works.
What concert are you going to see?

 

[zebrastripes]

it's brilliant which is why I'm so annoyed at its mysterious dissapearance

I'm going to see Nightwish..which i don't even like that much now they have some new singer..so I'm going to be surrounded by a bunch of goths whilst I sit there in some flowery skirt awk well. I probably wont even get in

 

[Tadpole]

Firstly - Have you heard of mindful breathing? It is a technique I learnt in one of my outpatient sessions.

Basically it is deep breathing but concentrating on ONLY the breathing. As you breathe in follow the air through your nose, down past the throat, notice how your chest fills up then the diapragm and how your belly expands. Hold it for a few seconds then, don't exactly exhale, but let it go and notice the whole process in reverse. Take a few of these breaths without gulping in air, relax the neck, unclench your hands and make sure your tongue isn't glued to the roof of your mouth - rest it just behind the upper teeth. Try not to think about anything - just breathe. I find this helps when I am nervous, anxious, angry & upset. It takes a few goes as well before it helps but I never believed how much simply breathing could help.

I know how you feel as I have suffered from extreme anxiety as well - leading to severe paranoia & an inability to leave the house. (Amongst other things). It's difficult but it is a beast to be tamed so it doesn't lead you. IYKWIM. I knew this wasn't the real me - I have travelled around the world by myself & couldn't recognise the person I became.

As for getting in the concert - make sure you know the date of birth - AND the matching starsign!! For some reason they always asked me this.

Err, not that I EVER snuck in anywhere underage.

Lavender oil is also very relaxing and a lot cheaper.

Good luck with everything & pm me if you want.

 

[MagicMarkers]

Hear hear for lavender oil, i always discounted it because my gran used to have her bathroom sutffed with lavender soap, bubblebath, air freshner etc etc lol and gradually got sick of the smell but the oils and whole new smell !! Absolutely gorgeous and works a treat, plus your mum might wel not throw it
Have fun at the concert !!! x

 

[Slinky Sarah]

Firstly - Have you heard of mindful breathing? It is a technique I learnt in one of my outpatient sessions.

Basically it is deep breathing but concentrating on ONLY the breathing. As you breathe in follow the air through your nose, down past the throat, notice how your chest fills up then the diapragm and how your belly expands. Hold it for a few seconds then, don't exactly exhale, but let it go and notice the whole process in reverse. Take a few of these breaths without gulping in air, relax the neck, unclench your hands and make sure your tongue isn't glued to the roof of your mouth - rest it just behind the upper teeth. Try not to think about anything - just breathe. I find this helps when I am nervous, anxious, angry & upset. It takes a few goes as well before it helps but I never believed how much simply breathing could help.

I know how you feel as I have suffered from extreme anxiety as well - leading to severe paranoia & an inability to leave the house. (Amongst other things). It's difficult but it is a beast to be tamed so it doesn't lead you. IYKWIM. I knew this wasn't the real me - I have travelled around the world by myself & couldn't recognise the person I became.

As for getting in the concert - make sure you know the date of birth - AND the matching starsign!! For some reason they always asked me this.

Err, not that I EVER snuck in anywhere underage.

Lavender oil is also very relaxing and a lot cheaper.

Good luck with everything & pm me if you want.

OMG that breathing is amazing!!! iv just had a go at it now and feel so so relaxed now! thanks for that


Hope you enjoy your concert and get in ok...hope you stay calm too

 

[trixipaws]

that must be so frustrating! i hope u enjoy ur concert anyway, and re. getting in- think positive! i got into concerts when i was 14 without even needing ID even tho i still get ID'd in bars and clubs now- i dont think theyre that strict at concerts even when they are over 18 ones. and dont bother about the goths lol- iv known A LOT of goths and they are really not even daunting at all- theyre just a bunch of people with black clothes and dyed hair who look like they need cheering up- im sure you'll stand out and look beautiful!

 

[zebrastripes]

tadpole- Thanks so much for that breathing advice, it works so well!

and OMG I didn't get ID'd! It must be the all new large boobies gig was great, met up with loads of people I haven't seen for ages...a couple seemed to have changed gender but it was a fantastic night... I have such a sore neck though..

 

[glitzyglamgirl]

Glad you had a good night and are feeling better!

That breathing technique is awesome!