So hello!
Just joined today.
My husband and I want our own family and have discussed all the options.
I will struggle with the actual pregnancy due to 2 chronic illnesses I have been suffering from for a few years now. I've got Chronic Cluster Migraine which is currently treated with Botox and strong painkillers. I also later developed IBS and won't be able to take my regular medication if expecting.
Thankfully, my migraine pain medication is still allowed as it doesn't contain any blood-thinning agents like Aspirin does.
I'm frankly petrified of pregnancy and childbirth. I have discussed this with a specialist family planning doctor who also writes research papers on migraine. She said I'd qualify for an interventional C-Section because I would not be able to push through labour with my conditions. It could cause serious problems, e.g. burst vessels in my brain.
Maybe I can deal with that, but what scares me most, I guess, is being able to be a good parent after the birth, unable to get up to feed my baby in the night if I have a debilitating migraine. And my migraines really can be debilitating to the point that even the air around me is too loud, and I'm vomitting and having a fit on the bathroom floor. I'm scared of what comes after. The responsibility of parenthood when my husband is at work, and I'm being sick or unable to move and in bed for two days; baby screaming and having no help.
My parents are both retired so they'd certainly be able to help out, if only they didn't live an hours drive away. And I hate my MIL. She lives a lot closer but we DO NOT get on and she isn't exactly an ideal figure of motherhood. His estranged dad is a shady figure who we don't want in our lives.
This isn't our only problem. I have been with my loving, dedicated husband for almost a decade, and in that time I was pregnant once and had an early miscarriage. We haven't had any other success. We're starting to get on in age and it's getting to the point where we're having tests. The tests were coming back normal for me, apart from high cholesterol, but irregular for my husband. He's been back and forth to the hospital endocrine unit for the last 9 months and trying different therapies. He is also diabetic.
We discussed IVF, then poopoo-ed it. I think it would be too much stress and very invasive. I brought up adoption which he poopoo-ed immediately. I thought about it for years until I concluded that I wanted our baby to be biologically ours - I needed our child to be a part of him and a part of me. We also don't like the idea of surrogacy. We want this to be as natural a process as possible, forgiving the interventional C-Section of course!
Has ANYONE on this thread or someone you know been through a similar experience and able to offer me any advice or help?
Please help me. I can't talk to anyone about this. I'm in such a mess I've been signed off sick for 7 weeks to 'grieve'
Just joined today.
My husband and I want our own family and have discussed all the options.
I will struggle with the actual pregnancy due to 2 chronic illnesses I have been suffering from for a few years now. I've got Chronic Cluster Migraine which is currently treated with Botox and strong painkillers. I also later developed IBS and won't be able to take my regular medication if expecting.
Thankfully, my migraine pain medication is still allowed as it doesn't contain any blood-thinning agents like Aspirin does.
I'm frankly petrified of pregnancy and childbirth. I have discussed this with a specialist family planning doctor who also writes research papers on migraine. She said I'd qualify for an interventional C-Section because I would not be able to push through labour with my conditions. It could cause serious problems, e.g. burst vessels in my brain.
Maybe I can deal with that, but what scares me most, I guess, is being able to be a good parent after the birth, unable to get up to feed my baby in the night if I have a debilitating migraine. And my migraines really can be debilitating to the point that even the air around me is too loud, and I'm vomitting and having a fit on the bathroom floor. I'm scared of what comes after. The responsibility of parenthood when my husband is at work, and I'm being sick or unable to move and in bed for two days; baby screaming and having no help.
My parents are both retired so they'd certainly be able to help out, if only they didn't live an hours drive away. And I hate my MIL. She lives a lot closer but we DO NOT get on and she isn't exactly an ideal figure of motherhood. His estranged dad is a shady figure who we don't want in our lives.
This isn't our only problem. I have been with my loving, dedicated husband for almost a decade, and in that time I was pregnant once and had an early miscarriage. We haven't had any other success. We're starting to get on in age and it's getting to the point where we're having tests. The tests were coming back normal for me, apart from high cholesterol, but irregular for my husband. He's been back and forth to the hospital endocrine unit for the last 9 months and trying different therapies. He is also diabetic.
We discussed IVF, then poopoo-ed it. I think it would be too much stress and very invasive. I brought up adoption which he poopoo-ed immediately. I thought about it for years until I concluded that I wanted our baby to be biologically ours - I needed our child to be a part of him and a part of me. We also don't like the idea of surrogacy. We want this to be as natural a process as possible, forgiving the interventional C-Section of course!
Has ANYONE on this thread or someone you know been through a similar experience and able to offer me any advice or help?
Please help me. I can't talk to anyone about this. I'm in such a mess I've been signed off sick for 7 weeks to 'grieve'
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